she gets back to me few days after deadline i set her and now im seeing someone else

[drift king]

as per my other thread a couple weeks ago

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=161437

things progressed further last week when i made date arrangements with her and she wouldn't give me a time.. i inadvertently managed to raise IL by text message being c+f and negging her via text as she wasn't giving me a time.

the last text i sent her was telling her to let me know by last weekend for a date time but i put an unneccessary question asking if she agreed at the end that lowered the power of the text, anyway she didnt get back to me by that weekend.

fast forward to 2 days ago, at 11pm at night she texts me out of the blue 3-4 days after the deadline asking me what i was doing that night.. i thought first why is she texting me at this late hour, it's either a)shes inviting me somewhere with her friends or b)she wants to meet me for a drink last min as her other plans got cancelled.

either way a text from her is good news and unexpected (i think she expected i may have texted her on monday or tuesday this week to follow up on the deadline but when she realised i wouldn't, she contacted me, good sign of raised IL)

 

[drift king]

i get the impression she told her friends about me and they wanted to see who this guy was and why he was so ****y and funny about it.

anyway she ususally takes ages to get back to me at least 5-8 hours so its long trying to set up a date. but cos she text me at 11pm i thought i wasn't going to reply straight away acting is if i wasn't out or just waiting by the phone but i forgot to send it an hour later and thought i'd just send it in the morning. i sent it around lunchtime the next day saying sorry i didn't get back to her cos i was out partying asking her what she did and negging her for missing the deadline and that she was losing points with me and asking how she was going to make it up to me.

she took a while to get back and i thought i negged her too hard, but good news she told me she was at some club last night (so therefore (a) was what the text was about inviting me out) and i did the smart thing texting the next day as i she offered sat or sun this weekend to meet up.

problem is i took too long to reply to the text again and i forgot about it, she sent it yesterday evening about 7pm i sent it at 1am.. is this a bad time to be sending a reply text?

she could be out partying/drunk/sleeping but i felt i needed to have replied earlier confirming date plans given how long she takes to get back to me.

i know i should be the 1 agreeing to my drink location plans but she wouldn't agree to my previous date 1s cos my area isn't as nice as the 1s downtown so i told her to come up with the drink location.

she didn't get back to me yet from the text i sent at 1am, i think i risked her reading it then maybe deleting it or forgetting about it in a drunken state, i felt sending it today would be too late for saturday date plans and i definitely should have done it 1 hour after to confirm the exact time, now its still all up in the air although i seem less keen then previously.

reason being is that since then i been banging a new girl which is taking up most of my time but this 1 i keep forgetting to text is much hotter.

should i follow up with a text today if she doesn't get back to me by lunch time? (i know it was a mistake sending it at 1am, thats the exact same prob i had the night before!)

 

[PSYCHO]

Quit texting!! And start communicating with her!

It/she really doesn't matter - just another ho on the loose!!

 

[drift king]

anyway she text me back just now but it's a half a$$ed yes answer without providing me the info i need.

she texts back 'if im not hangover from tonight, saturday should be fine..'

this doesnt answer my questions of what location we're meeting or what time.. sounds almost a 'if something else better happens then i can cancel on you..'

how should i respond to this?

i know i need to be definitive with my time/location.

 

[Kal0051]

make other plans and only go out with her if your plans fall through or you can't find something to do. Most likely she'll bail on you.

 

[scrouds]

Next.....nnnnnn Eeeeeeeeee Xxxxxxxxxx T Ttttttttttttttt

 

[sodbuster]

Since she didn't get back with you, make other plans and then have fun. If she texts,reply"you didn't seem comitted to our plans,so I made others"