Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I see you learnt your lesson.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Blue, my job ended so bad I cannot even walk into that store anymore, she told corporate that I was harrasing her for a relationship and to top it all off she is badmouthing me so bad that nobody that I used to be friends with there is returning any of my calls. They all believe she is just the sweetest little angel in the place and they all take her at face value so I am powerless to even try and be friends with anybody in there anymore. Even if I was to get to talk to any of them and fill them in about Histrionic Personality Disorder, I doubt that they would understand or care what it is. All that see is her goody-goody side when she is putting on her "act" which is always. LESSON WELL LEARNED!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Gosh, that's so predictable. Most people that have met Aws say almost the same you thing you're saying now (this include myself).
well said.. these girls will string you along to the bitter end and NEVER actually give you the time of day.
Blue, what you say is very true. The ONE CONSTANT with women like this is that PATTERNS REPEAT! I was not the first, I will not be the last. It will happen again! PATTERNS REPEAT!
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.