She flakes. Then asks me why i didnt come round?

[MrGold]

Okay, long story short.. Known this girl for about 5months, getting to know her better recently.

She invited me by text to hers one night after a night out, but obligations meant i couldnt make it... So, i arrange another date a coupla days after on a friday. Come the friday, she texts me in the morning that shes busy and shes not staying in. Fair enough.

Now, that day i didnt reply since it would have been pointless. The following day I bumped into her on a night out and she was upset why i didnt come round or reply to her text, wtf right? So, later on that night she became upset that i 'ignored' her and left, only to call me later on to go on about how many guy mates she has and that she saw some hot guys at the bar the night?

Is the broad playing games or am I in the doomed friends zone?

I can provide more details if requested.

Thanks in advance, Gold.

 

[alphaace]

Sounds like she is just trying to make you jealous (sh1t test) mentioning her guy friends and the 'hot guys' she supposedly saw at the bar. Ask her if she flakes on them too, should get a rise outta her. Whatever you do just remember that she has strike one already.

 

[SchoolBoy]

she definitely has interest in you, that's why she's sh1t testing you by seeing your response to her trying to make you jealous. Respond with "I'm kinda busy right ttyl, btw goodluck with the hot guys "

And yes she's on her second strike if she flakes again. And yes she definitely playing games. All women play games in one way or another.

 

[MrGold]

That helps alot. Nice one.

 

[katatonia]

There is possible interest there but you have to beat this dumb b1tch at her own games to capitalise on it. Play some jealousy games of your own and watch her squirm.

 

[MrGold]

There is possible interest there but you have to beat this dumb b1tch at her own games to capitalise on it. Play some jealousy games of your own and watch her squirm.

Can you please give examples of such jealousy games?

 

[WC2]

Can you please give examples of such jealousy games?

Yes. None.

Anyone who tells you to play games with a woman clearly hasn't felt the backlash of such or forms his attraction to women around this 'game'.

Women are only shortly attracted to men who play jealousy games with them. Eventually these women learn that these men aren't really the real deal; they are just trying to play the part.

The best thing you can do is talk to as many women as you can. Putting all your eggs in one basket when it comes to women is a recipe for disaster.

As far as this chick is concerned; she was starving for your attention and she didn't get it. She thought she'd play some games with you therefore, and she tried to spark some jealousy by mentioning some other dudes. I hope you passed the test and shook it off.

Of course it's impossible to know your exact situation, but I feel as if this chick digs you. And even if she doesn't, you should be believing that she does either way. Give it a few days and set something up when you feel like you want to.

 

[tafakna]

Don't make it sound like it's revenge.

Next time she mentions guy mates or anything like that, just reply something like 'Good for you, this it the time to be enjoying your life'...

She was fishing for your feedback, hoping for some hint of your interest level on her... so throw her off a bit...

After a few days show interest again... keep them guessing and it will drive her crazy...

When girls flake, it's good to make the next date harder... so they start respecting you, knowing that if they miss their chance, the next opportunity may take a while...

 

[Tazman]

Yes, you never want a woman to get even a "hint" of jealousy from you. The best way to play things when they try to make you jealous is to agree with them and even "encourage" them to pursue other guys.

I know it sounds counter intuitive, but that's what makes them crazy. The fact that you don't care.

 

[Vice]

What you should have said/done when she mentioned all the hot guys she saw/talked to is push them on her.

What I'd say if she said that she saw some hot guys at the bar is ask her why she didn't get their numbers, and then accuse her of having no game, and then watched her melt right in front of my eyes

Do this instead of getting emotional about her flaking.

Women are like the weather. Highly unpredictable, you can only predict so far in advance of what she'll be like, and even then, there's still that slight chance that something unexpected will happen.

So don't get upset over the unpredictable nature of women. Men are supposed to be solid, like the mountains rising over the sea. No matter how fierce of a storm hits a mountain, the mountain will stand as tall and solid as it was before the storm, and certainly after the storm.