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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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She flakes i give her 2 weeks then try again and she ignores my txt . How to proceed

Rake101

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ill make it short.
Plate of 3 months , started with extremely for me absolutely obsessed 1 month in brang up been in a ltr i said im not ready . We got in a argument she pulled back for 2 weeks i didnt contact her she comes back. Once shes back she back to always calling and msging me again. Then we meet up again we have sex she tells me she misses me kisses me etc.
A few days later i hit her up she acts cold we make plans tho. She flakes on our date thats the first time she ever flaked i knew it wasent good.
So i dont contact her for 2 weeks , then i hit her up again she doesnt respond enthusiastically gives me 1 word sorta replies, then i ask what shes doing on a certain day and if she wants to catch up and she leaves me on seen and doesnt reply.

Just so use get a idea everytime we met we had sex which was like 9 times. She used to always alway call me msg me send me 6 txts in a row etc. Lending up to our last meeting shes calling me as normal telling me cant wait to see me , we meet up have sex she kisses me aggressively tells me she misses me .
Then after that she goes very cold and distant she flakes and then after i try getting together again she ****ing ignores my txt.
Cant someone explain wtf is going on ?

Also yeah i know not to contact her now. But if she does come back which i dunno she might how do i proceed yes i would **** her again but i dont want to make it too easy for her after she had the ****ing audicty to ignore me and disrespect me like that.
And yeah obviously she would be ****ing other guys . But i just dont understand how she can call me and call me show all this intrest we have sex tells me she misses me. Then does a 180 flakes then ignores my txt
Is she trying to get me to chase her i feel like shes obviously emotionally manipulating me too
And i also feel like shes kinda lost interest but it doesnt make sense why
Im anoyyed that she used to call me whenevr she wanted even when she done her first pull back she called me like 3 times msged me like normal. And i know i cant do that because it will make me look desperate and needy but why does she have the audicty to do it then ****ing ignore me. Wtf
Also i seen her on tinder the other day thats where i met her.
Yes i know shes a slut. And no i dont want her as a gf. I just wanna keep her as a **** toy
Is she trying to emotionally manipulate me ? Because what shes doing makes no sense no normal person would do this . Its not normal , i feel like shes trying make me go crazy and chase her.
U cant call someone non stop and contact them for 11 weeks non stop meet have sex say u miss him then randomly go cold distant flake and ignore. Seriously
Even before she ignored me i felt uncomfortable txting or calling her because she gave me the vibe that i wasent wanted. Where when she used to call me all the time etc i was genuine and i wasent rude

Thoughts ?
 
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Who Dares Win

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Ok she flaked thats enough for me to delete her numer but thats me.

You made an other attempt and she openly ignored it...what else do you know to understand that you have to delete her number?

ps. the simple fact you're opening a thread shows that something is not working....keep in mind an uninterested girl would never do anything that would cost her the man she wants....let alone confuse him, annoy him or piss him off.
 

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ps. the simple fact you're opening a thread shows that something is not working....keep in mind an uninterested girl would never do anything that would cost her the man she wants....let alone confuse him, annoy him or piss him off.
This and it also shows she is always on your mind and you are lying to yourself cause you probs cought feelings and her games are working on you.
There are so many flags in your text just skip delete move on not worth the headache. Dont be sucked in any deeper in this mess.
 

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Pimpin' ain't easy....
 

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ill make it short.
Plate of 3 months , started with extremely for me absolutely obsessed 1 month in brang up been in a ltr i said im not ready . We got in a argument she pulled back for 2 weeks i didnt contact her she comes back. Once shes back she back to always calling and msging me again. Then we meet up again we have sex she tells me she misses me kisses me etc.
A few days later i hit her up she acts cold we make plans tho. She flakes on our date thats the first time she ever flaked i knew it wasent good.
So i dont contact her for 2 weeks , then i hit her up again she doesnt respond enthusiastically gives me 1 word sorta replies, then i ask what shes doing on a certain day and if she wants to catch up and she leaves me on seen and doesnt reply.

Just so use get a idea everytime we met we had sex which was like 9 times. She used to always alway call me msg me send me 6 txts in a row etc. Lending up to our last meeting shes calling me as normal telling me cant wait to see me , we meet up have sex she kisses me aggressively tells me she misses me .
Then after that she goes very cold and distant she flakes and then after i try getting together again she ****ing ignores my txt.
Cant someone explain wtf is going on ?

Also yeah i know not to contact her now. But if she does come back which i dunno she might how do i proceed yes i would **** her again but i dont want to make it too easy for her after she had the ****ing audicty to ignore me and disrespect me like that.
And yeah obviously she would be ****ing other guys . But i just dont understand how she can call me and call me show all this intrest we have sex tells me she misses me. Then does a 180 flakes then ignores my txt
Is she trying to get me to chase her i feel like shes obviously emotionally manipulating me too
And i also feel like shes kinda lost interest but it doesnt make sense why
Im anoyyed that she used to call me whenevr she wanted even when she done her first pull back she called me like 3 times msged me like normal. And i know i cant do that because it will make me look desperate and needy but why does she have the audicty to do it then ****ing ignore me. Wtf
Also i seen her on tinder the other day thats where i met her.
Yes i know shes a slut. And no i dont want her as a gf. I just wanna keep her as a **** toy
Is she trying to emotionally manipulate me ? Because what shes doing makes no sense no normal person would do this . Its not normal , i feel like shes trying make me go crazy and chase her.
U cant call someone non stop and contact them for 11 weeks non stop meet have sex say u miss him then randomly go cold distant flake and ignore. Seriously
Even before she ignored me i felt uncomfortable txting or calling her because she gave me the vibe that i wasent wanted. Where when she used to call me all the time etc i was genuine and i wasent rude

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Move on. Simple as that
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What she's doing is quite normal for a woman. She wanted a relationship and you didn't give it to her, so she's probably seeing a bunch of other guys and seeing if she can get what she wants from them. Meanwhile, she's playing games with you.
 

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Next!
If she contacts you, tell her you have a date.
 

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She will definitely be back, do not text her again, let her initiate and make her qualify for your time.

I read somewhere in here that she spins herself, that isnt said often enough; its her imagination that was creating her attraction to u and u killed her imagination when u said no, u have to protect her imagination like a kid who believes in Christmas, you gotta put out the milk and cookies, then eat them.
 

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She will definitely be back, do not text her again, let her initiate and make her qualify for your time.

I read somewhere in here that she spins herself, that isnt said often enough; its her imagination that was creating her attraction to u and u killed her imagination when u said no, u have to protect her imagination like a kid who believes in Christmas, you gotta put out the milk and cookies, then eat them.
I definitely wont contact her again im actually really pissed how she ignored me like that . If she does txt me i dont want to make it easy for her where she thinks she can go and ignore me then come back as she pleases **** that .
When i said no to what ? The ltr ???
 

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Next!
If she contacts you, tell her you have a date.
Yeah if she contacts me i dont want to make it easy for her should i ignore her for a few days like she is currently ignoring me ?
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What she's doing is quite normal for a woman. She wanted a relationship and you didn't give it to her, so she's probably seeing a bunch of other guys and seeing if she can get what she wants from them. Meanwhile, she's playing games with you.
Next time should i be more vauge and string them along ?
 

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This and it also shows she is always on your mind and you are lying to yourself cause you probs cought feelings and her games are working on you.
There are so many flags in your text just skip delete move on not worth the headache. Dont be sucked in any deeper in this mess.
Man i do not like her . If i liked her i would of taken her ltr offer up.
Im just really ****ing pissed off how she literally called and msged me for 10 weeks straight she would always msg me first . Meet up whenever i wanted etc etc. And randomly she goes cold flakes and even had the audicty to ignore my msg. Thats so disrespectful. Like we have hung out after sex and talked chilled out etc i dont understand how she can be so rude
 

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Keep ignoring her. If she is a plate she will spin herself. Nothing to do but wait her out or next. Her ignoring you after w weeks doesn't give you any power in this situation.
Let's face it its probably a next.
Im not going to contact her , if she contacts me how should i proceed? I definitely want to tell her off about this bull**** if she does contact me tho
 

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Next time should i be more vauge and string them along ?
No, I'm just saying that this is how women operate. They try to manipulate men into giving them what they want. I don't think you did anything wrong with her specifically, but if you've got other chicks you shouldn't care what she does. Leave the door open so that when she wants some D, she calls.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No, I'm just saying that this is how women operate. They try to manipulate men into giving them what they want. I don't think you did anything wrong with her specifically, but if you've got other chicks you shouldn't care what she does. Leave the door open so that when she wants some D, she calls.
Yeah i didnt burn the bridge, but i feel like that she kinda did by not replying to the txt.
I have a feeling she mighy call me in a week or 2 and be like heyyyy i forgot to reply or some bull****. But I definitely want to check her on it
 

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Don't do that. Getting pissed off is likely to drive her away forever.
I definitely want to check her man idc if it drives her off , because she seriously seriously anoyyed the **** out of me with the **** she pulled. I wouldn't of even done that to her
 

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I definitely want to check her man idc if it drives her off , because she seriously seriously anoyyed the **** out of me with the **** she pulled. I wouldn't of even done that to her
It's always a mistake to get emotional with women. You can tell her that you didn't like something she did, but make sure you remain calm.
 

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It's always a mistake to get emotional with women. You can tell her that you didn't like something she did, but make sure you remain calm.
Yes ill stay calm but i want to say something along the lines off , i dont like how you ignored my msg i felt very disrespected dont do it again. And i dont like how you seem to call me whenevr you want but when i get in contact with you you act distant start showing me the respect i show you.
What do you think ?
 

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Yes ill stay calm but i want to say something along the lines off , i dont like how you ignored my msg i felt very disrespected dont do it again. And i dont like how you seem to call me whenevr you want but when i get in contact with you you act distant start showing me the respect i show you.
What do you think ?
It's your call. I know that I've made the mistake in the past of getting pissed off and ruining situations that could have lasted longer than they did and later I regretted it. You can't expect that much from a girl that you're not committed to.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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