She flaked, turned AFC on me!

[Sofomore]

So last night I was supposed to meet up with this girl who has a High IL in me. She asked my number, and constantly says "Lets hang outt!!!!"

So heres the story:
I'm watching tv waiting around for her to stop by. Half hour after she said she would come over she says "So my friend just called and needs someone to go to a _____ ****tail tonight. Have fun though. Are you going to be around for halloween? I wanna hang out still!"

I read this and got annoyed. Flaked.

I didnt respond, and a half hour later she sends a text "Is that okay?"

Wow. SHE turned AFC on me!!! I remember back in the day when I used to say that.

An hour and a half later i send "I will probably be here, let me know if you want to meet up".

.....

130 am i get a booty-text from her. "Im home, where are you?"


I need some advice on what to do. Do you think i was harsh for her flaking? Should i hang out with her tonight (the night after all this happened)?

 

[Tyson420]

If she's AFC then you can manipulate her, have fun. Girls with no game = easy.

 

[jophil28]

So last night I was supposed to meet up with this girl who has a High IL in me. She asked my number, and constantly says "Lets hang outt!!!!"

So heres the story:
I'm watching tv waiting around for her to stop by. Half hour after she said she would come over she says "So my friend just called and needs someone to go to a _____ ****tail tonight. Have fun though. Are you going to be around for halloween? I wanna hang out still!"

I read this and got annoyed. Flaked.

I didnt respond, and a half hour later she sends a text "Is that okay?"

Wow. SHE turned AFC on me!!! I remember back in the day when I used to say that.

An hour and a half later i send "I will probably be here, let me know if you want to meet up".

.....

130 am i get a booty-text from her. "Im home, where are you?"


I need some advice on what to do. Do you think i was harsh for her flaking? Should i hang out with her tonight (the night after all this happened)?

Here is the guiding principle to deal with this kind of behavior from women.
" Punish bad behavior and reward good behavior." Flaking like that is bad behavior.

OK,lets get some detail into the debate.
Firstly, when she was ten minutes( and one second) late, you should have gone out alone, or after calling another chick.

When she tested you by asking whether you would still be willing to (wait around for her a second time) to "hang out", you should have replied , "Perhaps if I am free."
Then you shuld have lost her number.

You see, she is not the "AFC " , you are, by even considering playing her game. She put some random friend above you by flaking with some lame excuse.You were her second choice. Are you happy with that ?

IF you agree to meet up again, she will know that she is in control and will treat you like a disposable chump.

 

[Sofomore]

Here is the guiding principle to deal with this kind of behavior from women.
" Punish bad behavior and reward good behavior." Flaking like that is bad behavior.

OK,lets get some detail into the debate.
Firstly, when she was ten minutes( and one second) late, you should have gone out alone, or after calling another chick.

When she tested you by asking whether you would still be willing to (wait around for her a second time) to "hang out", you should have replied , "Perhaps if I am free."
Then you shuld have lost her number.

You see, she is not the "AFC " , you are, by even considering playing her game. She put some random friend above you by flaking with some lame excuse.You were her second choice. Are you happy with that ?

IF you agree to meet up again, she will know that she is in control and will treat you like a disposable chump.

The thing is I am not playing in to her little games. I am above them. She is constantly trying to hang out. I gave her the opportunity to hang out last night, and she chose to do something else. Since I dont take that bullsh*t I didnt meet up with her at 130. I was getting it on with some other chick anyways, so there was no point in me f*cking two girls in one night.

I am just going to give her the benefit of the doubt. This was strike one. I made it clear that it was shady of her.

One more try and i move on. Time to get some more plates spinning.

 

[jophil28]

The thing is I am not playing in to her little games. I am above them. She is constantly trying to hang out. I gave her the opportunity to hang out last night, and she chose to do something else. Since I dont take that bullsh*t I didnt meet up with her at 130. I was getting it on with some other chick anyways, so there was no point in me f*cking two girls in one night.

I am just going to give her the benefit of the doubt. This was strike one. I made it clear that it was shady of her.

One more try and i move on. Time to get some more plates spinning.

Thats more like it.

DO you know how to apply the two strike rule ?
However, her IL is NOT as high as you would like to believe, otherwise she would have chosen you over going out with her friend.

She was also testing you to see whether you were willing to be dangled on the end of her line and reeled in when she wanted.
The trick is NOT to figure out how to "pass" these tests but rather how to destroy the test itself. This hopefully teaches women like her to either quit playing these juvenile games or move on to playing with some other chump.
DO not be afraid to be BRUTAL when you encounter a test or a mindgame. YOu need to shatter it in the first instance and NOT allow her to test you over and over until your tolerance is exhausted and your sanity is in doubt.

Practise using the enormous power of silence. Many times saying nothing, not replying, or ignoring her crap is the best plan.

IF you feel pissed because of some action by a woman, it means that she is acting badly. That's why you feel pissed ! Calling her out just signals to her that she has got you rattled, and woman rarely accept accountability just because you express a grievance.

So say nothing, walk away and allow her imagination to chew away at her.
Most woman cannot stand to be rejected or ignored like that - she will be back.