"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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she drank so much she threw up at the bar... now what

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2nd date. she got so wasted she threw up in the bar. i brought her back to my place, she was puking all night. obviously i didn't try anything. in the morning she was noticeably uncomfortable (even though i tried to be accomodating to try to keep her at my place) and she wanted to go home asap... she walked home because we were snowed in.

i'll see her in class on monday (i sit next to her), how would you react? make fun of her? ignore her? pretend it didn't happen?
 

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tobylikestennis said:
2nd date. she got so wasted she threw up in the bar. i brought her back to my place, she was puking all night. obviously i didn't try anything. in the morning she was noticeably uncomfortable (even though i tried to be accomodating to try to keep her at my place) and she wanted to go home asap... she walked home because we were snowed in.

i'll see her in class on monday (i sit next to her), how would you react? make fun of her? ignore her? pretend it didn't happen?
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The "noticeably uncomfortable" bit is probably her just being really, really embarrassed, especially if it was only your 2nd date. She just wanted to get out of there and back to her own place, despite you being accommodating and understanding, there's really not anything you could have done to illicit a different reaction from her. You did the right thing, both morally and in the interest of continuing the relationship.

Having said that, I wouldn't make fun of her for it, you won't get a good reaction from her. She probably feels horrible about it. Just pretend it didn't happen and talk to her normally.

But ask yourself if this is the kind of girl you want to pursue? If she gets this uncontrollably drunk and has no self control, those are pretty nasty warning signs early on about her character.
 
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I wouldnt say anything to her...she owes you bigtime for taking care of her
 
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acknowledging what happened and making a joke about it or possibly a joke about yourself would have levitated the situation
 
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MyTeamSupreme said:
acknowledging what happened and making a joke about it or possibly a joke about yourself would have levitated the situation
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oh yeah i definitely did. i said something like "only the 2nd date and all i had to do was poison you with alcohol to get you in my bed"

i also told her about the other people in our grad school class who had drank too much at bars... and i joked about us barely knowing each other and being snowed in.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Another reason she was probably uncomfortable is, well hell man, imagine the hangover she was probably having.

I don't know, when this happens with friends, we give each other a bit of **** but it does not happen often at all, and we just sort of write it off as "one of those nights you made a bad call".

I would be a bit worried about her character if she does this regularly, though the fact that she was embarrassed about it and not acting like it's completely normal for her is a good sign. It is possible she just greatly misjudged how much she could have. Who was buying the drinks?

Also, do you regularly go to this bar or was it new? I ask because I've noticed for mixed drinks and sometimes even shots, theoretically the same amount of alcohol can feel very different. In other words, some bars water down their ****, and if you get used to thinking you can drink a certain amount based on this watered down stuff, the same amount at a proper bar can hit you hard.
 
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i don't think she goes out very often... i haven't seen her out much. she bought a couple shots and i bought a mixed drink or two.

it was an open bar event so the drinks were free for a while... definitely contributed haha
 
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She probably seemed uncomfortable and walked home because she had to take a massive hangover s**t and didn't wanna do it at your place.

Look at the bright side though. It means she likes you and didn't wanna f*** up your bathroom.
 
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why didnt u regulate the drinking
 
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fHAHAHAHAHh iceberg thats hilarious its prolly true too haha!!!
 

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Dont bring it up until AFTER you've nailed her properly.
 
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one possibility is she was planning on sex,but she wanted an excuse for having it. drunk works as an excuse[just did more than she'd planned]
 
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