Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Well, at least we're being honest now. NEXT.Korrupt said:
Let me see if I can rephrase this so as not to offend your youthful idealism; Please consider that the very short "relationship" you think represents "how things REALLY are" is based solely on your own brief experiences since you were maybe, 14? Don't take that as a burn on you personally, think of it as a statement of fact. Try to think of it in terms of limited experience rather than your age. If I'm a white belt in Karate, I'd be an idiot to give Karate advice to black belts even if was older.BBbardot said:actually no
please just argue what i said. Not the person. Why are you unable to do so? i don't get it.
You weren't talking about negotiation because you lack the experience to recognize it when it's happening - just as it has in KORUPT's most recent exchange. Go back and read this girl's filibustering tactics, changing times and negotiating the terms of her intimacy with him.BBbardot said:
Your personal experience doesn't set the model for reality. I realize that as with most women, in your self-concern you'd like your own experience to define reality, and have us all be co-opted into it. That may be how you perceive it, others don't.BBbardot said:
I really wish it were that simple. I really wish it were so simple that the process of negotiating desire wouldn't affect that desire. Do you honestly think that the girl KORUPT is describing here, after all her bullsh!t, actually has the rational capacity to identify, much less amicably 'solve' the problem of him wanting to ƒuck her? They're not a "passionate couple".BBbardot said:
You're an idiot. She sets up a booty call and you give her crap for it? What's a matter with you?Korrupt said:
Rollo Tomassi said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
