"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She doesn't want to date anyone...

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This is kind of a complicated story...just fair warning...

I have a friend who started dating this girl back in December, even though they were about 400 miles apart. Around February, he broke it off with her badly. He was also her first real boyfriend. I've talked with her (not really about that) for the past 2 or 3 months regularly. Just kind of random conversations. She did tell me at one point, though, that she never wants to be in a relationship again; that's about the most talking we did on that subject.

So we hung out a couple nights ago, come back to my place and start watching a movie. About mid-way through, we pause it and just start talking for about an hour. I figured that even though everything was against me, I couldn't risk becoming too much of a 'friend' before getting that out there, so I asked the question. I got a firm, "I don't want to date anyone," from her.

She's still a friend and everything, and I know we'll continue to hang out, especially since she's said over and over that she'll find some girls for me once classes start back up. I'm not sure why, but this rejection hurt more than usual, and I guess I'm just looking for some thoughts on the situation.

Feel free to call me whatever names you've got. :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hey, I got one good news for you... Youa re in!

Now, You got to do yourself a favor...

1. Be patient, hung around, and have fun.
2. Read the post of Mr. Finger about The Ecape Artist.
3. Apply the method.
4. Keep it.

Be happy that she was a woman, because she will tentatively change her mind.
 
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Wouldn't that go out the window since I told her that I was interested in more than being friends? According to his post, that's mistake #1.

I would be all for just taking it really slow with her; I'm not in any kind of rush. Maybe you could explain to me a little more why you think I'm in...?
 
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Stick around. The fact that she is willing to hook you up with friends isn't good. But, hang out with her. If it doesn't work with you and her, this is a good way to meet other chicks..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sounds like this chick is immature and indecisive.

DJ with her, but don't focus on her. You should be able to have her in no time, but have other girls also.

This girl kinda reminds me of my ex gf. Initially, she didn't want to get into a relationship. Well I started DJing her and eventually she wanted to go out with me. She got infatuated with me. Then in a couple months when it starts to die down, she decides that she is curious about meeting other people.

Only mistake I made was focusing on her too much instead of having other girls as well.
 
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Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
Sounds like this chick is immature and indecisive.

DJ with her, but don't focus on her. You should be able to have her in no time, but have other girls also.

This girl kinda reminds me of my ex gf. Initially, she didn't want to get into a relationship. Well I started DJing her and eventually she wanted to go out with me. She got infatuated with me. Then in a couple months when it starts to die down, she decides that she is curious about meeting other people.

Only mistake I made was focusing on her too much instead of having other girls as well.
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EXACTLY what I went through. I guess it has to do with immaturity for sure. Indecisiveness doesn't help either. The infatuation stage is great though, and if I could perpetually stay in it, I would.
 
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i take it that when a woman says that, she is telling that she doesn't want to date u. at least i had that kind of experience
 
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hey bro....sorry that happened to her...mann...

well I got good news for ya and bad news....which would you prefer first?
 
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okkkkaayyyyy....took ya too long to answer(haha), thats humor

Bad news.....you are in her friend zone pretty darn deep right now..If you suddenly starting comin on to her she might think you smoked a little bit too much weed earlier....thats humor too

Good news.....you can get out of it...and you can get out of it, in like....ten minutes from now.

Stop caring about her so much as you do right now. When yall hang out next, use heavy eye contact and that will put you in your sexual state, and you will notice that your voice will lower and such......she will then start to think of you as more than a friend...and then.....

BLAM.....SMACK DEAD IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FLOOR....FVCKIN EACH OTHERS BRAINS OUT....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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