"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She Doesn't Wanna Meet Up..hlp

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Ok I have been talking to this girl for some time now for three weeks now.I met her through a friend of mine,girl btw.I gamed her using the phone game,using ****y and funny,teasing,flirting and she responded well,busted.her balls and she liked it.she's one of those girls who gets it,we hit off quite right and I know she likes me even though we've never met in person.The problem is everytime I tell her to meet up,she makes excuses and I know sometimes she's lying cause the friend who introduced me to her called and told me that she likes the mystery and all that but she thinks she doesn't wanna meet up.Yesterday we exchangeed text saying:
Her:baby u've hated me a don't know why?..but I still like u and I've gat the h@t to say gudnyt.lol.
Me:I know you don't wanna meet up and I get dat *for wateva reason*..just stop making excuses for it.
Her:It's not dat i dont want I rily want 2.I've gat a very big reason that u wouldnt understand,just bare with Me pliz!!
Me:Don't bother
Till today..what do you i should I do about this situation..?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you're starving, you eat. If she likes you, she'd meet up with you. She doesn't like you. Next.
 

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She's using you as an ego-booster. The PUA's call it being her "dancing monkey". You're 'gaming' her outside of real life, so she gets the rush & sexual tension of being picked up without actually having to give anything up (a kiss close, f-close etc.). She likes this setup and will try not to change it. This exact reason is why you should only use the phone to set up real-life meetups. If you and the friend who introduced you guys are close and you don't want to hurt your reputation, just put her on ice and work on different girls. If the girl who introduced you is just whatever, I would be bold and go for broke. When she texts you animated stuff like that, ignore it. You've given her enough ****y/funny. Text her "drinks at ____ bar. b there at 8.". If she makes up another excuse or doesn't set up another time, she has no interest in being anything more than friends. Treat her accordingly
 

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Hopefully your next one knows how to type...

I could never date a girl DaT T@kZ lYk diz
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lamobatsman

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i would try one more time and say " drinks at this time. are you free on this day etc"

of she makes an excuse or doesnt counter-offer NEXT! she doesnt seem interested! 3 weeks you have been talking. i think that is more than enough time to be able to meet up.

Give it a few more days then text her wat iv said.

have you spoken to her on the phone?
 

Greasy Pig

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Any girl who asks you to "bear with her" because of issues she's sorting out is almost certainly fvcking someone else and is trying to keep you as a fallback option.
Don't be that man. I have been, twice! And it sucks balls.
Don't waste any more time on this one.
And always judge a woman's actions, never her words.
 

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Greasy Pig said:
Any girl who asks you to "bear with her" because of issues she's sorting out is almost certainly fvcking someone else and is trying to keep you as a fallback option.
Don't be that man. I have been, twice! And it sucks balls.
Don't waste any more time on this one.
And always judge a woman's actions, never her words.
im learning a lot from greasy pig!!!
you never know what a girl really thinks of you.!!! only their girl mates know the truth!!
 
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Greasy Pig said:
Any girl who asks you to "bear with her" because of issues she's sorting out is almost certainly fvcking someone else and is trying to keep you as a fallback option.
That's exactly what I was about to say.

My honest opinion about this girl, keep doing what you're doing, but don't make her a priority. Go after other women until she gets her bf issues resolved.

The reason why I don't suggest NEXTing girls who are involved is because many, many attractive women ARE taken, but they're with guys who just aren't that interesting. It takes almost no skill at all to grab their interest, but you need to have the patience to maintain it while they're in the process of getting rid of their AFC boyfriend.

Again, keep her on the line, but go after other women in the meantime.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Greasy Pig

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lamobatsman said:
im learning a lot from greasy pig!!!
Lol, I'm no expert lamo but I've been up a few dry gullies in my time. I still have shytloads to learn but I can smell female bullsht a mile away!
 

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Judge nismo knows this woman is using you as an ego booster. Nothing more. Your princess is in another castle. Go ghost now.

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

Night-hawk

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Go **** 5 other girls.
 

yyc12

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Desdinova said:
The reason why I don't suggest NEXTing girls who are involved is because many, many attractive women ARE taken, but they're with guys who just aren't that interesting. It takes almost no skill at all to grab their interest, but you need to have the patience to maintain it while they're in the process of getting rid of their AFC boyfriend.
And that's exactly why you DON'T get women like that. What makes you think they won't do the same to you once she loses interest?? I'd NEVER be with a woman that leaves someone to be with me. Every time I've seen this situation play out, they ALWAYS does the exact same thing to the new guy.
 

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lamobatsman said:
i would try one more time and say " drinks at this time. are you free on this day etc"

of she makes an excuse or doesnt counter-offer NEXT! she doesnt seem interested! 3 weeks you have been talking. i think that is more than enough time to be able to meet up.

Give it a few more days then text her wat iv said.

have you spoken to her on the phone?
Yeah I did,Made another lame excuse but I told her that I wanted her to meet my girlfriend and she got all hormonal on me.Chicks,hehe!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hahahah Wow men wait for me show up out of the blue at my biz ranch and wherever. They hunt me down You are dead wrong. We want that drive. We want bounders and they we wish to tell you ours! The trill of the chase. Jezzz I am so glad I work with animals and see this right before my eyes. lol
 

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Chilz- you are simply food for her malnourished ego. If you eventually do score a date, it will only be becuase she was bored, needed a free meal, or her other prospect cut her loose. ;-)
 

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yyc12 said:
And that's exactly why you DON'T get women like that. What makes you think they won't do the same to you once she loses interest?? I'd NEVER be with a woman that leaves someone to be with me. Every time I've seen this situation play out, they ALWAYS does the exact same thing to the new guy.
You're expecting women to dump you and then remain single for a while? Women thrive on their emotions. They hope their emotions lead them to the correct decision. If she feels it's right to be with a new guy who popped into her life, she's going to go for it. The reason she feels that way is because the new guy is getting her emotionally excited while her AFC bf is sitting on his ass, expecting her to be faithful just because they promised each other they'd never leave. She won't remember that 5hit when a new guy is making her feel awesome.
 

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Desdinova said:
You're expecting women to dump you and then remain single for a while? Women thrive on their emotions. They hope their emotions lead them to the correct decision. If she feels it's right to be with a new guy who popped into her life, she's going to go for it. The reason she feels that way is because the new guy is getting her emotionally excited while her AFC bf is sitting on his ass, expecting her to be faithful just because they promised each other they'd never leave. She won't remember that 5hit when a new guy is making her feel awesome.
If you really believe that, then what's the point of ever committing to one woman? oh wait.....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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