She doesnt like public affection

[Glenfiddich101]

I've recently found out that my girl doesnt like me touching her in public. We are not talking abt full blown petting or groping here. But simple couple stuff.

At first i thought that she's still pretty shy or whatever **** but its just her. Its weird cos my exes usually cant take their hands off me in public.

We have slept together so i dont really know whats holding her back.

anyone experienced this before?

 

[Caveman]

She might have been told by her parents or her friends that it is gross to show affection in public. Maybe she had a girlfriend that did this with her b/f in public and it annoyed her for some reason. Anyway, I think there can be lots of reasons why she doesn't want to show affection in public.

Why not just ask her?
Not in a whining matter like: why won't you hold my hand when we're walking down the street? Maybe tease her a bit about it. Whisper in her ear: "Hey no one is watching" then give her a quick peck on the cheek, give her a wink, a smile and go on pretending nothing really happened.

 

[Glenfiddich101]

Well caveman, i dont think shes so conservative. We have actually talk abt this and she said that touching should be behind close doors.

I mean she was the one who asked me if i given a chance you i like to sleep with her. I mean a girl this bold should not have issues like this.

At the end of the day, i would like an affectionate woman. One that has no qualms abt giving me a kiss or an affectionate hug in public.

Lets see how long its gona last.

 

[Ebach]

**** that! If she's a girl, even if she's shy you can still do all that **** in public. If you're the man you can make her enjoy public affection. Looks like she's in control here. Take charge!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She doesn't want it to be known by other men that she is seeing you (taken)!

Actually I'm not one to kiss in public - however this is odd/strange behavior for a girl - not showing affection, that is! Hos aren't very affectionate creatures.

 

[Glenfiddich101]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
She doesn't want it to be known by other men that she is seeing you (taken)!

Actually I'm not one to kiss in public - however this is odd/strange behavior for a girl - not showing affection, that is! Hos aren't very affectionate creatures.

If thats the case, i'm gona next her ASAP.

The next time we're out, i'll not initiate any contact and see how she takes it from there.

If she still insists on treating me like a stranger then its time to get some warm loving elsewhere.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

i hug would be ok but society here doesn't tolerate PDA [public display of affection] too well without raising not a few eyebrows from the older generation.

 

[rjherche]

Bah! Sometimes the best way to get a woman to change her mind is to agree with her. Stop touching her in public completely, and odds are she will find little ways to touch you once in a while. Lots of women get uncomfortable in many situations when you touch them, but will touch you whenever they feel like it. There's not much you can do about it.

 

[comic_relief]

rjherche, I have the same problem. My one girl-friend who is taken (I don't go for other guys girls) said not for me to touch her. I just agreed and said ok. Put down zero kino on her. She is now always touching me and I bust on her all the time. It is so much fun.

 

[TitaniumFireBEAR]

Deeper meaning.

What's her reaction to PDA?

Is she an out and out b!tch or does she just not reciprocate?

Is she like "OOOH, hands off. Not in public!"

Or, more laid-back?

Is she a 'bed room only girl' or does she just need some privacy?

Are you in front of her friends when you try to PDA or just in public in general?

If she's a b!tch, I'd already have launched her.

If she's queasy about it, discover why. Maybe personal preference, maybe it's how she was raised, maybe she became programmed NOT to like that much affection.

In my world, love has no boundaries. It's my reality, and ya'll are just visiting, so if I want to kiss my girl, I'll kiss her. If we're gonna knock boots, then I'll go somewhere half decent.

If you desire a woman who is *more* affectionate go find her.

I've always found this conundrum interesting. Up here in Boston, I enjoy taking a girl out about the city, for coffee/espresso martinis and walking in the snow. That setting along is enough to turn her jets on. You can't miss! If I ever had a girl not into, it was either I didn't set the stage right or she's not my type.

It's one thing to PDA in the kid's clothing department at Baby Gap, and entirely different to PDA in a romantic setting, makeout at a strip club, or kiss it up in a nice club.

It's a 'grey' area thing where if you're relegated to a certain location or geographic area due to age, then it is what it is and you'll have to discover those places it's acceptable to do such things. Most women will be more into what's publicly acceptable than men will, so sort of knowing where is or isn't is a good idea. Especially if you drag her someone she's likely to meet her HS track coach or college professor, or even pastor. She has an image, in her mind, to uphold, and in public some women feel slutty doing such things.

Be the real man and show her how to get what you both want, and yet enable her to keep her face in public and she'll reward you in privacy.


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