She doesn't like labels, it's alien to her

[ThisNThat]

Man, things coming in 3's lol. A lot of female opposition coming up on social media today.

This one woman posted something about dating and relationships in her FB page. A lot people chimed in.

Something about, "If one is in a relationship, why must one feel that they should OWN the other?"

And I Had asked, "Define OWN, I mean, people have free will to walk out of it." That when someone enters into a relationship there's always someone that has a predeterimined expectation on their part.

She clarified that theses are expectations are bull crap and that pep

That is you want a person to do stuff for you that it should be organic, earned and not expected because of labels or any other reason. That if someone wants a person to treat them favorably it should be earned and not expected.

She thinks labels are bullcrap and I had asked her, "What do you mean by labels" and she said "girlfriend" "wife', "exclusively dating" etc.

Then I thought "No **** sherlock", of course someone is going to expect this. That's like when a little kid asks "Why is the water wet?"

To me, she's pondering that men who want to be exclusive with her...and I'm like "Duh"

 

[resilient]

People who don't like labels are people who don't want their relational status publicly known and even more so on social media do so to keep options open.

I think the same goes for when a guy and girl show up at a party or a group event with (semi)mutual friends and aren't all lovey dovey. The couple may split up and work the room or will hang together (at least a majority of the night) if they are confident and secure in the relationship. A secure relationship would not be afraid to show some public affection (not excessive PDA, but you get the idea....).

Think of it this way, if a chick was fwb with a guy, yet not quite exclusive or whatever after a few months of dating, would she want the guy posting pics of them all over his and her social media? That would piss off her monkey branch game. Orbiters would get turned off in thinking she wasn't single after-all and back off giving her attention or opportunities to escalate.

 

[dude99]

Man, things coming in 3's lol. A lot of female opposition coming up on social media today.

This one woman posted something about dating and relationships in her FB page. A lot people chimed in.

Something about, "If one is in a relationship, why must one feel that they should OWN the other?"

And I Had asked, "Define OWN, I mean, people have free will to walk out of it." That when someone enters into a relationship there's always someone that has a predeterimined expectation on their part.

She clarified that theses are expectations are bull crap and that pep

That is you want a person to do stuff for you that it should be organic, earned and not expected because of labels or any other reason. That if someone wants a person to treat them favorably it should be earned and not expected.

She thinks labels are bullcrap and I had asked her, "What do you mean by labels" and she said "girlfriend" "wife', "exclusively dating" etc.

Then I thought "No **** sherlock", of course someone is going to expect this. That's like when a little kid asks "Why is the water wet?"

To me, she's pondering that men who want to be exclusive with her...and I'm like "Duh"

Sounds like a girl who is driving the bitter bus because she just got dumped.