She doesnot let me kiss her

[giovannikast]

Hi
Friends
I have gone out with a girl (7 points) for two dates. We have always have a lot of fun, I am always teasing her, touching her (taking her hand for walking, hugging), smiling, and she is teasing me too. So I decided to kiss her in the second date. I tried this twice that night, but she did not let me kiss her. First, we danced, I got closer and she led me to close her, but when I was to kiss her, she gave me her face, I just smiled. Second, we were back near her home, we held hands, hugs, and when we were close she again gave me her face.
Well, I am very confused because then she invited me to go out in three days.
The same situation happened with another girl (7 points) a couple of months ago. A lot of fun, teasing, touching. I kissed her in the third date, but she did not kiss me back.

I feel that I need your advice DJs, must be something I am doing wrong, I do not know how to create the atmosphere for the kissing. I would like to read your wise advice buddies, they are important to me.
Giovanni

 

[Slickster]

Sounds like you need to work on the skill of gauging IL.

If her IL is high then she's dying for you to kiss her and wondering why you haven't tried yet. This is the position you want to be in.

Sounds like you are getting good response to your Kino attempts.
Is it you always initiating the touching? When you do touch her does she reciprocate? (touch back) While some DJ's go for kino and the kiss close right away, some follow the opposite route, no touching or kissing at all for the first few dates. I've tried both approaches. The second approach can really get her wanting you bad. Maybe mix it up a little.

If all the signs are there and she's still not letting you kiss her then she's being a little tease and seeing how much of a fool she can make out of you. Every time you try and kiss her and she turns away it strokes her fragile ego.

Next time she calls and wants to hang out with you tell her you'd love to but you have a date. This chick needs to be knocked off the pedestal she thinks she's on with you. This can be done by letting her know you have other options.

Most importantly don't make any more moves on this chick any time soon. She's on probation till her IL shows otherwise. Turn your focus to other women.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Girls give you a second and third date and are not receptive to your kiss? What in sam-hill is going on here? Do u live in America?Do u have bad breath? No? Then it must be something else!

If a girl doesn't kiss you but had two or three dates with you then she is unsure of how she sees you, and maybe she doesn't see you and her in a romantic setting! Or it could be how you tried to kiss her - was it awkward or at a bad moment? I don't know...

I think Slickster and Dementia make good points!!

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

She definately doesn't like you.

 

[Julian]

Maybe you breath smells like donkey balls?

Its very possible.. i know alot of people who have terrible oral hygeine, and they either dont care or are unaware.

 

[AFK Protector]

I thought women liked the smell of balls....i mean, uh good breath. Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. OR if you ate something reallyt nasty for the datea nd she doesn't want that crap in her hole.

 

[Tango-Kid]

Can be also that you act nervous or the timing is not good. I first came to think about the oral hygieny, like the other guys, since it seems that otherwise you´re doing good with her.

Or who knows, maybe she´s one of those religious good girls who don´t let you even kiss her. But when you eventually get to kiss her, and get her in the bedroom.. hell´s broke free when she unleashes the animal in her

 

[MisterAl]

The No-Kiss Slide is a disqualifying event. I move on to another girl when this happens. This is the kiss test, applied on the first or second date. It's a must-pass test. Do not waste time on low-IL women.

Second thing is that you should wait until the end of the date. There's no hurry to kiss her during the date. Have self-control and build up _her_ interest and anticipation. If she digs you at all, she's not going to refuse a goodbye kiss on her front steps.

If after two or three dates she doesn't have enough IL to kiss you, move on. It's not working. She doesn't like you enough to kiss, forget about anything else.

 

[giovannikast]

keeping her IL high

I am always initiating the touching. She always reciprocates this. Well, it seems that I dont know how to become her IL high. I would like to read your smart advices about it buddies. Thanks.
Giovanni

Ps. My breath smells very good, this is not the problem.

 

[lerxst]

Well, you don't say how old this girl is, so if she is young, like in high school, this is early ASD. If she's in college or above, next that girl like there is no tomorrow cause she's dating you cause she's bored or waiting to better deal you.

 

[Big Pappy]

There are many factors that can impact whether or not a girl is going to kiss you.

Most women expect you to just kiss them. They may feel insulted if you don't at least try. Some chicks won't unless you ask them.

Cultural differences may also be a factor. I dated a really super sweet, beautiful girl who was Indian, but born in Nigeria. She had been in America for the past 12 years, but she still has that modesty (ASD) thing in her brain.

I overcame it by just having her close her eyes for a surprise and laid one on her. I used my hands to run my fingers through her hair at the back of her neck and that allowed me to control her head and stroke her neck as well.

I found out later that she was very uncomfortable kissing me on the first date. She was accostumed to waiting much longer
because of what she had heard about my experience with other women

She was concerned about my cavalier dating routine and didn't want to get too close if I were to just stop calling her. Nothing like some assertiveness to let the girl know what you're about.