"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SomethingClever

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Next time a chick does this to you, do these 3 things the next time you talk to her:

1. Call her out on it
2. Bust C/F on her like crazy
3. Move on

And if she wants to hang out again, make her go on all fours and bark like a dog. Make her "make up" for her mistakes.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PectoralisMajor

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On the contrary - calling to confirm IF you have set the date is a powerfull tool. I would only say this if the date was set up 2-3 days beforehand, and not the day before. Girls HATE not knowing if something is on or not, and since I'm normally quite busy I want to check its still on else I'l go arrange something else. if a girl has not heard a peep out of you for 3 days, she may assume automatically the date is off - kapiche?

Now i'm not saying call up and be all whimpish and asking ' is our date still on?' I'm saying give her a real quick bell and say ' Hi x, its Y. I was just giving you a quick call to check everything is still OK for tonight'. We'l meet at Y at 8pm blah blah.

The phonecall DECREASES her chance of flaking (assuming she is interested) and it puts in place some firm plans for meeting.
 

mxylplk

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Update

well, she emailed me Sunday night, the night I read her initial flake message. I didn't open it 6 days later til this morning. And just yesterday, I was getting her calls but didn't answer. Wanted to make her sweat for a while.

She apparently wants to make up for what she did. I know some of you fellow DJ say to give her a 2nd chance. This was the first time that she flaked on me aside from our recent get togethers. So maybe I will when the time is right. A quarter of my common sense wants to give her the benefit of the doubt. Though, I have a gut feeling some of you are right about her "openness" with her guy friends even though she told me she never let's any guy take advantage of her sexually just because they're with her alone together, (yeah right). It doesn't bother me to the extent of rage since we're not exclusive, BF-GF. Maybe I'm fooling myself into thinking I can seduce her enough to have a sexual "friends-with-benefits" type of relationship. I'll test her by telling her to meet me at the coffee shop next week after class without suggesting ANY confirmation. If she shows, great. If not, this is the last you'll here from me about this.

In the meantime, I have plans later tonight with that ballet dancer I told you fellow DJ about earlier on this thread. Later gentlemen, peace.
 

JustDoItAlways

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Everything she said about her guy friends and everything she has done to you so far are classic Attention Wh0re moves.
 
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Sorry kid, this is a rejection!!! All women have time for men who they deem as 'potential"!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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