She didn't want to see me after our first date. Why?

[spinaroonie]

I got a job at Sears... I work in Resourse Protection.. lol. its a fancy way of saying security. but we do a lot more then u think.. a lot of credit card issues.. and frauds... I have enjoyed my time there.. the ppl are nice.. and most importantly.. i enjoy my work.. i arrest ppl every now and then. lol stealing mother ****ers.. lol..

on my first day.. this girl at Lancome cought my eye.. her name was maxine.. shes soo cute. like a lil panda bear.. shes chinese.. if u know me.. u know thats what i like.. she was a year older then me.. fast tacked through university.. and was going to get her masters.. and best of all she was single..

with in the first week of me working there.. i had already introduced myself and struck up a few conversations. after a while i . went for the GUSTO> i got that MSN.. lol where would i be with out it.. on our first conversation we talked long into the night.. about past relationships.. friendships.. family.. where we saw ourselves in life down the road.. things really were clicking.. i even got her number.. a few days passed.. i called her.. we talked till 4 30 in the morning.. lol.. thank god i didnt have to work the next morning.. i thought for sure we had something going..

we even agreed on a day to meet outside of work.. call it a "date" before that would come around.. we continued our courtship at work.. meeting on break.. she even came into see me on her day off..

and then the big day came.. i went to pick her up.. we decided on dinner and billards.. she said she liked them.. turns out she was horrible.. even worse then me

lets start at the meeting.. i went to the door.. and met her there.. she looked soo cute.. really casual.. but cute.. we drove out to richmond hill. to rocky mountain high. it was a nice lil restaurant.. conversation in the car was a lil off.. slow maybe is a good word.. i think we were both nervous.. but it picked up again. dinner came and went.. the spaks.. that were soo evident.. were dwilding..

we went to Mix 2.. and of all the horrible things that could happen.. one of her friends was at the next table ... she talked to her more then me.. i was insulted.. and i think it showed in more poorer than usual pool play.. we ended up playing a few games and went home.. i gave her a peck.. and that was it..

i had made an offer to go to the Zoo. a few days after i made that offer.. she rejected that.. saying she didnt thing she see anything between us.. i later found out.. she still had feelings for her ex bf.. about two weeks after the date.. i helped her to regain confidence in men i guess. and she went back to him..

so right now we are not really talking.. i am not surprised.. i dont really have much to say.. i am not bitter.. i wish them the best of luck.. really i do.. but i did like her.. and i wish i could have been her knight in shining armour..

i guess like those mastercard commericals go.. dinner 25 bucks.. pool 15 bucks.. seeing a couple reunited.. priceless..

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

with in the first week of me working there.. i had already introduced myself and struck up a few conversations. after a while i . went for the GUSTO> i got that MSN.. lol where would i be with out it.. on our first conversation we talked long into the night.. about past relationships.. friendships.. family.. where we saw ourselves in life down the road.. things really were clicking.. i even got her number.. a few days passed.. i called her.. we talked till 4 30 in the morning.. lol.. thank god i didnt have to work the next morning.. i thought for sure we had something going..
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we went to Mix 2.. and of all the horrible things that could happen.. one of her friends was at the next table ... she talked to her more then me.. i was insulted.. and i think it showed in more poorer than usual pool play.. we ended up playing a few games and went home.. i gave her a peck.. and that was it..

MSN and that ridiculously long phone call is what did it, not the date, she just wanted to make sure.

There wasn't any mystery left except for seeing how you behave when out and maybe a "spark" would happen, but, of course, it didn't.

Stop doing that. You begged to be LJBFed as quickly as possible.

Her talking to her friend more than you was a very not subtle clue that she wasn't into you at all at that point. Why should she be particularly interested, after all, it's obvious you want to be with her and she already knows far too much about you to spark curiosity. You were just another guy at that point.

MSN.. lol where would i be with out it

Not in the predicament you got yourself into, that's where.

Stop spilling everything so fast. It shuts women off because you're talking to her like a girl would....blah blah blah relationships blah blah blah family blah blah blah friendships blah blah blah for hours on end.

so right now we are not really talking.. i am not surprised.. i dont really have much to say..

EXACTLY!

 

[mustfirstregister]

welcome to the LJBF world.

 

[Kal0051]

This happens to me with every girl I go out with. But not the telling her my life story before the date. It's really annoying since I don't get many dates to begin with, maybe 1 per month.

 

[nismo-4]

This happens to me with every girl I go out with. But not the telling her my life story before the date. It's really annoying since I don't get many dates to begin with, maybe 1 per month.

Some people get 1 per 4 months. Consider yourself blessed.

@ the OP, you are a middle of the road type guy. This is a case of you just yapping on the phone mindlessly.

The fine for this is blue balls, teary eyes, no chance at romance, and...oh wait.

You talked about past relationships! Ooh, that comes with a one way pass to Friendsville, Nebraska!

Case closed. Court is adjourned.

 

[horaholic]

Well, you obviously werent pushing any attraction buttons, and werent being fun enough on your date. Try to think about why she doesnt want to go out with you again. How much did you make her laugh? Were you playfully teasing her? Was there any Kino? What was the subject matter of your conversations?

Ask yourself this: What exactly did you do that she would find attractive? Figure this out, so next time you wont make the same mistakes.