"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She didn't show up nor called for the first date

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What if you were walking on the supermarket and a nice woman stares at you several times, actually 3 times when you walk by, finally you approach her, she gives you a phone #, you talk(she is very friendly) and sets a date but when the date comes she didn't show up neither did she called(she didn't ask for my number just in case) ???
should I call again ?

why yes?
why not?
why it depends?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What a nut case! I hate girls like this! Hopefully Karma will bite her in the a$$ someday!

Why would you call again? Do you like being disrespected?
 
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Originally posted by tristan22
What a nut case! I hate girls like this! Hopefully Karma will bite her in the a$$ someday!

Why would you call again? Do you like being disrespected?

I am confused right now cuz I just read "being a man in a womans world" and this book talks about the TEST and how to pass them... is this some kind of stupidity and sillines which I must pass ? ...

Also I once read a book "any woman anywhere" that tells to call until you get a woman on the phone. sounds weird but it IS confusing ...

I am trying to clarify if I am too passive or not here...
 

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does she have your number? cause if she doesn't its possible she wanted to call but couldn't reach you. otherwise, next the b*tch.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by lebRambo
does she have your number? cause if she doesn't its possible she wanted to call but couldn't reach you. otherwise, next the b*tch.
Bingo. If she has your number, then I say you next her right away. If she doesn't then you call her ONE more time. That's all I ever give a girl. Two calls, no more.
 

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Originally posted by NoMoreMisterNiceGuy
What if you were walking on the supermarket and a nice woman stares at you several times, actually 3 times when you walk by, finally you approach her, she gives you a phone #, you talk(she is very friendly) and sets a date but when the date comes she didn't show up neither did she called(she didn't ask for my number just in case) ???
should I call again ?

why yes?
why not?
why it depends?
Did this actually happen? No, you're just theorizing like a Nice Guy.
 

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You said she hasnt got your number SO call her and say WTF!!

You never know maybe she was on the way there and she got a call that her mum died so yeh call her to be sure.
 

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Re: Re: She didn't show up nor called for the first date

Originally posted by DonJuanMonk
Did this actually happen? No, you're just theorizing like a Nice Guy.
Errrr pretty detailed theory wouldnt you say?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by NoMoreMisterNiceGuy
I am confused right now cuz I just read "being a man in a womans world" and this book talks about the TEST and how to pass them... is this some kind of stupidity and sillines which I must pass ? ...

Who cares if you pass a completely retarded test?
 

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If she didn't have your number it's obvious why she didn't call to say that she wasn't going to make it. If she has your number the only thing you can be sure of is she didn't call Now if you really need to know you should call. Me personally I will call the first and only time to at least see if she is sorry and wants to try again. If not Im fine because I knwo I did everything in my power and that she dropped the ball not me.
 

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Re: Re: Re: She didn't show up nor called for the first date

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yes
Then you move along to the next prospect. This is how some people especially women avoid any encounters by ignoring or standing you up.
 

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She isn't particularily bothered about you. Chances are she was attracted but not too much. You can try and make her bothered about you, or can next her.

I'd go with the latter as you sound inexperienced.

On a side note I always exchange numbers, not just get hers. This means that she can't just stand you up like that, and also she may even start to chase you, which is fun because you can fvck with their heads then. Heh.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by aftershock
You can try and make her bothered about you, or can next her.

I'd go with the latter as you sound inexperienced.


so if I were more experienced I should make her bothered about me ?
 

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Originally posted by NoMoreMisterNiceGuy
so if I were more experienced I should make her bothered about me ?
What I'm saying is that you are asking a fairly basic question, so I'm assuming that you don't have much experience of the DJ ways. I could tell you the best way to pursue her (or the way I would, at least), but there wouldn't be much point, and I think most of us would still fail here.

It's a lot less hassle putting it down to experience and going for other chicks. You learned something. Thats good. Now forget about her.
 

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I want you to think of all of this girl's attributes, good and bad, as being on a giant chalk board.

You're standing in front of the board and considering its contents.

Now imagine yourself there saying this out loud:

"Let me see here.... umm.... NO."
 
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