She confuses me

[Reda]

we live in the same student residence and normally we have a whatapp group, she sent me a message one day asking me if I lived on the 6th floor because someone was putting music on it evening and she couldn't sleep, after we had a chat and laughed and I asked to see her, each time she found an excuse, one evening we met at the bottom of the residence (knowing that I didn't know her or how she look like), she came to talk to me, we talked, laughed, took a little walk outside until 3 a.m., after that we continued to talk to each other by message, afterwards we went out once for a drink. coffee outside, and there I told her clearly that I like her, I think it was a mistake but I wanted to express what I feel towards her, (not love but she interests me)
I tried to kiss her but she didn't want to so I just hugged her, in the meantime she had told me discreetly that she had taken the first step (the message from where I I lived), later it became received our meeting in a corner of the residence where we went to eat together, she avoids any physical contact, but I managed to give her hugs kisses ...., one evening we decided to watch a movie outside, after the evening I tried to really make it official with her, telling her clearly that I am ready to commit to her, so that she could be more reassured, the evening ended, after that's radio silence, I left a margin of a week and I sent a message that I miss her, she read the message but no answer, then we continued to talk once everything the two, three weeks, but banal conversations, nothing interesting, I asked to meet her twice, she told me clearly that she wanted it stop the story of the dates between us, I said ok,
Since then, we haven't talked to each other, she took me off Instagram and Snapchat, but since in the meantime I've been doing a lot of travel and stories, nightclubs (pool parties...), something that 'she didn't like it she said so it's logical that she deletes me from the networks, in the meantime she had sent me a message about a problem with one of the neighbors I tried to help her, and since no news for more than a month.
I have the impression that she was in love, but now I don't know what to do, I've met a lot of people in the meantime, but I always think of her, I want to get back in touch with her, but I tell myself it's too late
I need your help friends, first time I post on a forum, sorry for being so long and sorry for my English (I'm French)

 

[Striker_93]

Idk if you trolling or not but you got a loooong way to go, I'm not giving you advice because you won't understand it, just stick around the forum for awhile and learn something.

P.S. she's not interested

 

[RangerMIke]

If you are confused she doesn't like you or she is crazy. Sane normal women will not confuse the men they like.

 

[Reda]

Idk if you trolling or not but you got a loooong way to go, I'm not giving you advice because you won't understand it, just stick around the forum for awhile and learn something.

P.S. she's not interested

Thank you , but you can try at least maybe i'm gonna understand it

 

[Reda]

If you are confused she doesn't like you or she is crazy. Sane normal women will not confuse the men they like.

She gives sign of interest but I'm confused , that maybe i made things going to fast for her , really don't know

 

[Robert28]

She gives sign of interest but I'm confused , that maybe i made things going to fast for her , really don't know

No you didn’t make things go to fast. You showed interest, she isn’t matching it. When women are hot and cold like this it will always be like that with them. Take it from me, I’ve been there.

 

[EyeBRollin]

She is not interested in you. Pick a new target.

 

[Mike32ct]

Telling her you like her was ok.

Trying to kiss her was ok.

Talking about a relationship status or how serious you were about committing to her was too much.

All that aside, she’s not interested. There is nothing more you can do.

 

[RangerMIke]

She gives sign of interest but I'm confused , that maybe i made things going to fast for her , really don't know

Trust your gut... if you are confused your gut is telling you something isn't right. Don't try to rationalize anything it's all emotional.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

U getting one-itis. U pursuing her. No no no. Get some matches on OLD. Plan dates u actually want to do, stuff u are going to enjoy regarless of company. Triple book the date with three of your matches. If none cancels, go out with the hottest one and bail on the other girls.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

we live in the same student residence and normally we have a whatapp group, she sent me a message one day asking me if I lived on the 6th floor because someone was putting music on it evening and she couldn't sleep, after we had a chat and laughed and I asked to see her, each time she found an excuse, one evening we met at the bottom of the residence (knowing that I didn't know her or how she look like), she came to talk to me, we talked, laughed, took a little walk outside until 3 a.m., after that we continued to talk to each other by message, afterwards we went out once for a drink. coffee outside, and there I told her clearly that I like her, I think it was a mistake but I wanted to express what I feel towards her, (not love but she interests me)
I tried to kiss her but she didn't want to so I just hugged her, in the meantime she had told me discreetly that she had taken the first step (the message from where I I lived), later it became received our meeting in a corner of the residence where we went to eat together, she avoids any physical contact, but I managed to give her hugs kisses ...., one evening we decided to watch a movie outside, after the evening I tried to really make it official with her, telling her clearly that I am ready to commit to her, so that she could be more reassured, the evening ended, after that's radio silence, I left a margin of a week and I sent a message that I miss her, she read the message but no answer, then we continued to talk once everything the two, three weeks, but banal conversations, nothing interesting, I asked to meet her twice, she told me clearly that she wanted it stop the story of the dates between us, I said ok,
Since then, we haven't talked to each other, she took me off Instagram and Snapchat, but since in the meantime I've been doing a lot of travel and stories, nightclubs (pool parties...), something that 'she didn't like it she said so it's logical that she deletes me from the networks, in the meantime she had sent me a message about a problem with one of the neighbors I tried to help her, and since no news for more than a month.
I have the impression that she was in love, but now I don't know what to do, I've met a lot of people in the meantime, but I always think of her, I want to get back in touch with her, but I tell myself it's too late
I need your help friends, first time I post on a forum, sorry for being so long and sorry for my English (I'm French)

A woman that enjoys your company will make it easy to spend time together, and communication will flow effortlessly. You two lived in the same residency unit and you're most likely bigger than her; if she noticed that you were more emotional about the situation than her or that you didn't know how to accept a rejection, then she may have thought it safer to politely be your friend and put up with your continued attempts to bang her rather than escalate the situation and attempt to set boundaries. After all, it pays to have eyes and ears around, especially if they worship you.

It doesn't seem like she's interested, so why do you keep pursuing her? By doing so you're confirming to the universe and to yourself that you think you're so unwanted that you have to work hard to win over an uninterested woman just to get some affection. There are plenty of women on this planet that will treat you like a king and never ignore you.

When a woman makes an excuse to hanging out without a counteroffer, then she's probably not interested and you should simply move on to other women. Learn to put women in your friendzone when they reject an advance. If you can do this smoothly without getting upset then you'll often ironically end up attracting them (people want what they can't have), but that should definitely not be your goal, it's just a happy coincidence when pulling away ends up piquing her interest.

If you send countless offers then you're disrespecting her decision, and you're undermining your dignity and self respect. Focus on yourself, treat her as a friend and let her be the one to flirt and get touchy. If you value your time, then the skill of cutting your losses is essential. This doesn't mean ignoring her, but simply only going as far for her as you comfortably feel with her as a platonic friend. Some men can't even regulate their emotions well enough to be friends with girls, so ignoring may be the best option for them.

A man sets the stage for a woman to seduce him and encourages her to continue if he's enjoying himself. If he's not enjoying himself then she clearly doesn't deserve the stage or his spotlight, and he does himself a disservice by continuing to interact with someone that isn't interested. She can become something in the background (friendzone) while he focuses on someone that's more compatible. So ask yourself, are you enjoying yourself with her? Does it feel like you're compatible? You can't change how she feels, only how you approach the situation. Have fun and remember that your ~5 billion options on this planet are waiting to meet you.