she cheated...

[Manonamission]

Hey all.

I won't bore you with the long story, but I just discovered that my g/f has been cheating on me. Anyway long story short, I have concrete evidence that she cheated on me with antoher dude.

She called my phone four times last night, she left a voice mail saying "Hey, I have some questions for you. Call me back."

I don't think she deserves a phone call, or should I actually call her back and give her a chance to explain herself?

Thanks in advance.

 

[speed dawg]

Yeah, dude, DO NOT go back. Avoid her ass. Cut her off. Forget about her. She's not worth 10 seconds of your time.

 

[Manonamission]

thanks guys. i needed that.

She's obviously guilty, because when my friend was talking to her. (He prank called her pretending to be someone else..) I guess she thought it was her friend so she started talking to him about her life, and then mentioned the dude she had been seeing for 6 months.....and he wasn't me.

Then when he revealed himself who he was she yelled "OH SH!T. F**K" and hung up the phone.

Sounds pretty guilty to me....

 

[wayword]

If you do call her back, do it for YOUR closure and peace of mind, not her. It might feel good to really lay down the law on how bad she fugged up and spit your peace. Be sure to SHAME HER BIG TIME. Tell her what a totally worthless, lying slvt she is. Reduce her to the absolute POS she is. Women these days need to be retrained. Best time to strike is when the iron is hot. Get it all off your chest, teach her a good lesson for the next guy and don't look back...

Then, NEXT!

 

[speed dawg]

If you do call her back, do it for YOUR closure and peace of mind, not her. It might feel good to really lay down the law on how bad she fugged up and spit your peace. Be sure to SHAME HER BIG TIME. Tell her what a totally worthless, lying slvt she is. Reduce her to the absolute POS she is. Women these days need to be retrained. Best time to strike is when the iron is hot. Get it all off your chest, teach her a good lesson for the next guy and don't look back...

Back it up, pumpkin....

Do not give her this satisfaction. WTF does it matter? Just forget this chick and DO NOT show her that she got to you. The opposite of love in indifference, not hate...Do not chew her ass out unless she comes back begging to take you back. I mean, if she doesn't care enough to come back, you'll just look stupid chewing her out, like some sort of weird stalker or something. DON'T CALL HER. Wait till she comes to you before you let her have it.

 

[MightyMate]

Dont act lame coz pride is only thing You got now. Dont call and just move on - wont be easy but its best solution.

 

[Fash]

Well if that happened to me, I'd see her one more time, totally degrade her sexually (you know... p*ss on her, *** on her face or something). Basically treat her like the sl*t that she is, and then just get up and walk out as soon as you're done.

That will actually do more harm than just ignoring her. and I dont know about you guys, but it would actually make me feel better and THAT is my closure.

 

[wayword]

Do not give her this satisfaction. WTF does it matter? Just forget this chick and DO NOT show her that she got to you. The opposite of love in indifference, not hate...Do not chew her ass out unless she comes back begging to take you back. I mean, if she doesn't care enough to come back, you'll just look stupid chewing her out, like some sort of weird stalker or something. DON'T CALL HER. Wait till she comes to you before you let her have it.

Well, honestly, I think it is more mentally healthy to just unload on her and get closure up front. That way, you won't be stewing with things you wanted to tell her years from now. LEAVE HER WITH YOUR FVCKING BAGGAGE! Let the guilt and shame of her actions weigh her down for years! Maybe it'll do her some good. But again, this is more for your benefit, not hers. Who cares if she gets any "satisfaction" or not...that is not your concern (true indifference). If you really care so much about what she gets out of it - then that is NOT indifference. So, don't fool yourself.

Yes, ideally, this would have been done in person in the heat of the moment...but that moment is passed so he may have to go to Plan B.

 

[speed dawg]

Well if that happened to me, I'd see her one more time, totally degrade her sexually (you know... p*ss on her, *** on her face or something). Basically treat her like the sl*t that she is, and then just get up and walk out as soon as you're done.

That will actually do more harm than just ignoring her. and I dont know about you guys, but it would actually make me feel better and THAT is my closure.

Ding ding, we have a winner!!!

The only thing is some guys get wrapped up in the emotional attachments and can't follow through with it, and they just cancel out what they're trying to accomplish.

 

[The Truth]

Don't sink to her level. Rise above it.

Just cut her from your life, don't say a single word to her or explain anything to her, don't see her again, don't waste another second of your time on her. Just move on with YOUR life and go look for a better girl.

Its not healthy to seek vengeance and it keeps you in that negative state of mind, keeps you stuck in a rut and turns you cynical. Look at it like a narrow escape, a chance to move on and a lesson learned. Stay positive! Plus while you're wasting your time trying to get revenge, playing games etc, good women are passing you by.

 

[Bronxtal112]

Become a big blank as someone said here in the past. Don't answer the calls, don't reply to the emails. Just vanish from her life. She needs no explanation to why you vanished either. By doing this you do 2 things: 1. Leave with self-respect, 2. Show a woman that she needs to play by YOUR rules and that YOU’RE prize here.

 

[SamePendo]

Well if that happened to me, I'd see her one more time, totally degrade her sexually (you know... p*ss on her, *** on her face or something). Basically treat her like the sl*t that she is, and then just get up and walk out as soon as you're done.

That will actually do more harm than just ignoring her. and I dont know about you guys, but it would actually make me feel better and THAT is my closure.

I think it was karmasutra, or some user here, that did something like that, and when he was done, he threw her stuff out the window, told her that he knew, and kicked her out naked or some ****. :woo:

 

[The Truth]

I think it was karmasutra, or some user here, that did something like that, and when he was done, he threw her stuff out the window, told her that he knew, and kicked her out naked or some ****. :woo:

Yeah, a lot of guys throw tantrums, but it's not the manly thing to do.

I say don't give her the satisfaction of an emotional reaction. Let her think you don't give a damn and get on with your life.

 

[SamePendo]

Yeah, a lot of guys throw tantrums, but it's not the manly thing to do.

I say don't give her the satisfaction of an emotional reaction. Let her think you don't give a damn and get on with your life.

Pretend? Got it

You do give a damn because you expect loyalty from a bytch, and she disrespected you. You can easily substitute her for another ho, go to whichever public spot you want, and there are at least 10 hbs that can take her place.

Don't let the pussies here try and shame you. ..."Yeah, a lot of guys throw tantrums, but it's not the manly thing to do."

 

[Manonamission]

Well she called me twice last night. She said "I have some questions for you, call me back thanks."

I have not responded to her at all. I don't intend to either.

Right now she is the last person on my list that I will waste my time on.

Thanks for the insight guys, she's also an attention ***** so it will most likely bother her more if i just ignore her.

 

[Tongs]

Just ignore her. Never speak to her again.

Then **** her best friend

 

[typical]

Nah man listen to the guys who say to completely ignore her, chicks get off on creating drama emotional scenes they like pulling the strings and watching you react, it gives them a sense of accomplishment over you.

Call her up and calmly say that you have found out about the other guy and that you two shouldn't be together anymore, wish her all the best with the new guy and hang up short and sweet no emotions just be fully calm and don't call up drunk or sound like your depressed.

Breaking up with a girl should be just the same as when you asked her out short and sweet and to the point, you do your thing and roll, hang up and move on.

Shes most likely the type that in 5-10 years time will be sitting in a bar in the middle of the week all depressed and loooking sh!t wondering where she wasted her life, this is the point when she's gonna remember you as the guy she fu(ked up with, the best revenge will then be you being the better person and having a great life while she's left there in the sh!ts.

Trust me I had a girl do this to me when I was 16 today she's had two kids from two different guys and is on social welfare trying to scrape a living. Life has a way of coming back getting people like this.

 

[Bvbidd]

If only karma were true. This is real life, our fantasies of everything happening the way we want it won't always happen. If life is sh!t for somebody it's because of something somebody did to themselves rarely others. And she'll have a good time doing it while lieing to you.

Do something to back to her first THEN ignore her. Cuz if she cheated on you in the first place why the fvck would she care years later. lol. She would totally forget and continue to get more d!ck without looking back.. as you do your mental masturbation and feel all manly by not talking to her about it. Tongs idea is the best.

Tell her she fvcked up then move on and do her friend.

 

[( . )( . )]

Don't sink to her level. Rise above it.

Just cut her from your life, don't say a single word to her or explain anything to her, don't see her again, don't waste another second of your time on her. Just move on with YOUR life and go look for a better girl.

Its not healthy to seek vengeance and it keeps you in that negative state of mind, keeps you stuck in a rut and turns you cynical. Look at it like a narrow escape, a chance to move on and a lesson learned. Stay positive! Plus while you're wasting your time trying to get revenge, playing games etc, good women are passing you by.

Suprisingly I'm with the keyboard jockey on this one, but for different reasons I imagine. I couldnt throw a hardcore tantrum simply because I couldnt care enough to, sure I'd be mildly pissed and want to know the other guys game but mehh then what? and the no brainer that we all should be above that jealous AFC sh!t now should obviously apply.

Be sure to SHAME HER BIG TIME. Tell her what a totally worthless, lying slvt she is. Reduce her to the absolute POS she is. Women these days need to be retrained.

Women of these days is exactly the reason why your wasting your breath, you think thats damaging to her? My man shes going to here that same sh!t over and over her entire c@ck sampling life by bozos shes burnt or yet to burn, not too mention the effect shes just had on you for that outburst is a nice little ego stroker for her. Negative drama from a man is still drama.

Like the K.J said, rise above it or better yet truly internalise not giving a fvck.

 

[Unregistered]

You're doing the right thing by ignoring her. I respect you as a man with above-average stones.