Just thinking I'd do a little update here. So, we continued seeing each other for about 2 months since this thread started. In the end she dumped me because she said this "relationship" was too risky considering her best friend and all and she better stop it before it gets too serious. 2 months more passed since the dumping and then (a few days ago) I heard she's going back with her ex. I felt like getting kicked in the face of course and now I realize things that you guys said are true, to some extent. Lesson learned.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She cheated on her ex for me, BUT...
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DrPhysique
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Since you already necroposted in this, I have a question for anyone willing to answer.
I know that a lot of people say "once a cheater...", but can't you control this? I mean, I'm pretty sure if I went out with a girl like that, I could tame her and stop her from doing such disrespectful things. I wouldn't let her have other guys in her life while she was with me (when it gets serious).
PS: Even if I just said that, I wouldn't go out with a cheater.
I know that a lot of people say "once a cheater...", but can't you control this? I mean, I'm pretty sure if I went out with a girl like that, I could tame her and stop her from doing such disrespectful things. I wouldn't let her have other guys in her life while she was with me (when it gets serious).
PS: Even if I just said that, I wouldn't go out with a cheater.
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Sure...only, she'd have dumped you sooner than poor Fela Kuti because you were "trying to control her".DrPhysique said:
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she will probably do the same to you that she has done in her past. I wouldnt bail out of there but take what she gives you knowing that at some point she will bail on YOU. In the meantime you might as well fool around with her, but dont get too deeply involved i guess
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Wow, she's got you wrapped around her finger. Don't expect this relationship to last and don't get pissed off when she cheats on you. She's telling you exactly what you want to hear. This sounds exactly like a friend of mine who fell for a girl in the same exact situation. Relationships like this almost never last.. I would be extremely careful if I were you. It sounds like she already has you in her pocket my friend.
EDIT: Sorry, just saw your post above. It's alright man, it happens to the best of us. Just move on and don't let her screw with you anymore. There may come a day when she wants you back and you'll just have to say NO.
EDIT: Sorry, just saw your post above. It's alright man, it happens to the best of us. Just move on and don't let her screw with you anymore. There may come a day when she wants you back and you'll just have to say NO.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Wrong. There are certain ways to do this. Obviously you aren't going to tell her you don't want her with people. Even if you do, it would be a last resort and you'd only imply it. If you start telling her stuff like she can't go with so and so or whatever, it will be apparent you're scared to lose her. It's basically someone who thinks he's tough and good with women, but really just another AFC.Viagra4Soul said:
There was a post about stuff like this somewhere. Where you have to make her respect you and not help anyone who is disrespecting you.