Just thinking I'd do a little update here. So, we continued seeing each other for about 2 months since this thread started. In the end she dumped me because she said this "relationship" was too risky considering her best friend and all and she better stop it before it gets too serious. 2 months more passed since the dumping and then (a few days ago) I heard she's going back with her ex. I felt like getting kicked in the face of course and now I realize things that you guys said are true, to some extent. Lesson learned.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She cheated on her ex for me, BUT...
- Thread starter Fela Kuti
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DrPhysique
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Since you already necroposted in this, I have a question for anyone willing to answer.
I know that a lot of people say "once a cheater...", but can't you control this? I mean, I'm pretty sure if I went out with a girl like that, I could tame her and stop her from doing such disrespectful things. I wouldn't let her have other guys in her life while she was with me (when it gets serious).
PS: Even if I just said that, I wouldn't go out with a cheater.
I know that a lot of people say "once a cheater...", but can't you control this? I mean, I'm pretty sure if I went out with a girl like that, I could tame her and stop her from doing such disrespectful things. I wouldn't let her have other guys in her life while she was with me (when it gets serious).
PS: Even if I just said that, I wouldn't go out with a cheater.
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Sure...only, she'd have dumped you sooner than poor Fela Kuti because you were "trying to control her".DrPhysique said:
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she will probably do the same to you that she has done in her past. I wouldnt bail out of there but take what she gives you knowing that at some point she will bail on YOU. In the meantime you might as well fool around with her, but dont get too deeply involved i guess
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Wow, she's got you wrapped around her finger. Don't expect this relationship to last and don't get pissed off when she cheats on you. She's telling you exactly what you want to hear. This sounds exactly like a friend of mine who fell for a girl in the same exact situation. Relationships like this almost never last.. I would be extremely careful if I were you. It sounds like she already has you in her pocket my friend.
EDIT: Sorry, just saw your post above. It's alright man, it happens to the best of us. Just move on and don't let her screw with you anymore. There may come a day when she wants you back and you'll just have to say NO.
EDIT: Sorry, just saw your post above. It's alright man, it happens to the best of us. Just move on and don't let her screw with you anymore. There may come a day when she wants you back and you'll just have to say NO.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Wrong. There are certain ways to do this. Obviously you aren't going to tell her you don't want her with people. Even if you do, it would be a last resort and you'd only imply it. If you start telling her stuff like she can't go with so and so or whatever, it will be apparent you're scared to lose her. It's basically someone who thinks he's tough and good with women, but really just another AFC.Viagra4Soul said:
There was a post about stuff like this somewhere. Where you have to make her respect you and not help anyone who is disrespecting you.