Burningblue
Don Juan
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- Oct 25, 2005
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Here comes the old familiar sting of loss. I have failed again. A few days ago I was dumped. She might have been the one whom I could have stayed with forever, but she walked away and left me with a void. She tried to break it to me easy. Her explanation was that she had a "feeling" or an "intuition" that I just wasn't the right guy. I was crushed. I kept dwelling on how I must have said or done the wrong things. Was I not ****y and funny enough? Was I not being enough of a challenge? Was I done the minute that I sent her flowers? NO. None of the above. It wasn't what I said or did....it was who I was on the inside. On the inside I was an insecure mess. I leaned on my girlfriend as if she was some precious crutch. Try as I might to hide it, she could tell that I needed her badly. She was my crutch. She was helping me stand. No woman wants a man who can't stand on his own.
I know that this has been said countless times before, but I don't think that it can ever be said enough. Confidence and happiness are the only things that matter in the end. Not fake confidence but real confidence. Not fake happiness but real happiness. When you truly believe that you are a great catch. When you learn to have confidence in yourself and your determination. When you come to a place where you are happy even without a woman, it is then that you will reach your full potential. I for one, am now refocussing my life. I'll be treating the next few months almost like rehab. Hi, my name is Burningblue and I'm a chickoholic. My solution is to work on my career, meet new people, pursue my passions/hobbies, and work on being happy with my place in life (despite my circumstances not because of them). It's a tall order but I think it can be done. Here is what I have learned. A woman will never bring you happiness. You've got to be happy first. When your life is so full that you can barely make room for a woman, that's when they will all chase YOU.
I know that this has been said countless times before, but I don't think that it can ever be said enough. Confidence and happiness are the only things that matter in the end. Not fake confidence but real confidence. Not fake happiness but real happiness. When you truly believe that you are a great catch. When you learn to have confidence in yourself and your determination. When you come to a place where you are happy even without a woman, it is then that you will reach your full potential. I for one, am now refocussing my life. I'll be treating the next few months almost like rehab. Hi, my name is Burningblue and I'm a chickoholic. My solution is to work on my career, meet new people, pursue my passions/hobbies, and work on being happy with my place in life (despite my circumstances not because of them). It's a tall order but I think it can be done. Here is what I have learned. A woman will never bring you happiness. You've got to be happy first. When your life is so full that you can barely make room for a woman, that's when they will all chase YOU.