"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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she cancels a meeting but says 'can we do it some other time?'

pete101

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is 'can we do it some other time?' basically just a pretend polite response and not actually a definitive counter offer? (especially when she doesn't respond to your other suggestion time)

i've noticed some girls will just be like 'sorry i cant make it at x time' and that's it.

others will be like 'i cant make it at x time, can we meet some other time?' and when u offer another time they accept and meet. but sometimes some just dont respond to your counter offer.

is the 'can we meet some other time?' just a polite response?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Poonani Maker

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Without a doubt, she's not interested. Judge her by her actions not her words. There are so many out there who reject the 80 percentile (maybe YOU idk) all the time. She's rejecting you. Learn the language of ********. Read Pook/Anti-Dump.
 

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I don't think you can really tell what she thinks with this line out of context. I have had this exact line used on me word for word, but it was also accompanied with "I am really busy this week" and she had flaked in the past week so she obviously wasn't interested. I think if she counter offers with another date/time and doesn't flake she is still interested. My $.02 anyway.
 

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sometimes theres no interest, sometimes she's busy

i think the best way is not to reschedule immediately but wait a few days then start from scratch

just reply "ok" to her "reschedule" text

and a few days later just say "hey my friends and i are going ____ wanna come"
 

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If she does this two or three times in a row then she isn't interested. However if you are able to get her another time then she is indeed interested.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dicod3r

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Nope....

If you suggest and she replies.... "can we do it some other time?" to me that means not interested...

I've had girls that were interested and declined my invite, but what they did wa suggest another day or time... Can't hurt to suggest again, but her interest is low, work on raising value...

raising value probably will answer 95% of every question any guy has...


cod3r
 

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Although it may sound like a polite brush off (I should know, as I've used the same or similar language in the past to avoid meetups with people I didn't want to deal but still remaining civil), don't jump to conclusions.

Send her another invite in a couple weeks or so, or whenever you feel like it.
 

Veridin

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There are people who have a life. They cannot come out and play at every given day. But if it happens over and over and she doesn't suggest a new time, then it is obviously a brush-off.
 
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