She cancelled on me but says she owes me?

[EternalStudent]

Hey, DJ's.


I had a coffee date planned with a new girl I met. I knew she previously had other plans later in the evening. Several hours before our date, she left me a message saying she hated to say it, but she couldn't make it that night and that she owes me and was sorry. I didn't respond to her message.


I understand flakiness is part of the game, but she did apologize for canceling and said she owed me.

Should I call her (it's been a few days) to set something up or wait for her to call? I have no objections to calling her, but if you folks do, let me know!

Also, since she said she owes me, I was planning on escalating past the coffee date to something like a trip to the zoo.

Suggestions?

 

[penkitten]

sheesh!
can you tell that she was being sincere?
come on, she hated to call you and break the date, she apologized and even said she owes you another date.
you already knew she had previous plans, perhaps she couldn't get out of them like she was hoping to, perhaps she couldn't be late for them either.
that isn't flaking.
cut her some slack, she is interested in you.
you disregarded her message and you didn't respond.
she was showing you respect and common courtesy by calling, and you disregarded it.

 

[insidious]

EternalStudent, this woman owes you nothing.

Ask her out again and stop fixating on this "owing" business. You don't even know her, and you sure as hell have no collateral for this "loan" lol.

And besides, women will revert to the "I'm sorry, I owe you" thing 9 times out of 10 to assuage their weird misplaced guilt even if they have absolutely no intention of ever making it good again.