"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She came over and could barely look at me

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So I call my girl up this morning and ask if she wants to come over she says yea and so later she comes over. But before she left to leave she sounded very reluctant to come when she was calling to tell me she was leaving.

Anways she shows up and we sit on the couch and immeiately i could tell something was up. Her body language was saying i dont wanna be here. She looked at me half as much as usual and was not affectionate at all.

Needless to say i tried to find out what was up. All she could tell me was that she was tired. If im tired then that doesnt mean im not going to show affection. Just because im tired doesnt mean my body language is fuked up. So i didnt know what to think.

After chilling for a little bit she said she was leaving in an hour, so i say ok and nothing gets better in 30 minutes so i get up and say sorry for wasting your time i know you dont wanna be here so im going to watch the game with my buddies. She exlpains shes just tired blah blah but it really bothered me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You should dump her for pulling that kind of **** half way through the superbowl!
 

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ugh so this morning she oboviously tries to get me jealous by saying when she was with her friend last night some guy came up behind her and grabbed her tit.

I was throwing up last night and she knew i was sick so i didnt mind her going out with her girlfriend. So when we talked this morning and she told me this i was thinking to myself, why would she be telling me this.

Also one more thing during our bickering today on the couch she said something about not having to be stuck up each others ass on the weekend. Now i have NEVER been attached to her and maybe just recently i have been wanting to spend more time. So maybe i can put in the math and just leave her alone for a while, stop wating to hang out and give her the gift of missing me.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hold on! Let's hear some expert advice. I'm a beginner...
 

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Honestly bro, doesn't sound very big to me. So she wasn't in the mood to hang out? Big deal. Maybe she is on the period, they get hell a grumpy as I am sure you know.
 

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Don't concern yourself with her mood. None of this should affect you. They all get like that from time to time.... AND don't give in to the desire to keep asking her what's up? You'll just make yourself look weak and insecure.

If she keeps it up, tell her to come see you when she's in a better mood and walk away.
 

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Originally posted by Colinski282
ugh so this morning she oboviously tries to get me jealous by saying when she was with her friend last night some guy came up behind her and grabbed her tit.
******** for:

A. I'm trying to make you jealous.

or (depending on her IL)

B. When I say "tit" I mean "ass" and when I say "grab" I mean "fvcked".

Either or it doesnt really matter and has nothing to do with you, forget trying to figure her out and just tap it, if you get drama then next her. Your whole post was basically you trying to figure out her reality and thats a no no, those days should be long over.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What?

So is this your only girlfriend?
 

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if you let things affect you it shows

it's very hard for me to get jealous.... im not the best looking guy but i know people love to be around me and im very confident in myself, so a ****y/funny reply to "he grabbed my tit" comes naturally to me

stop letting other people (her) influence so much about you like your mood, etc.
 
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