"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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she calls... and then hangs up?

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Been kind of flirting with an old ex lately, things ended on a sour note but she seems interested again.

Anyway, last night she called me around midnight. I picked up and said hello, heard some noise (music maybe?) in the background... and... she hangs up.

I figure the naturual thing to do would be to get back to her, so five minutes later I send her a text asking "did you call?". Here's where I'm totally confused, her text was, "Maybe".

I figure this is a good thing, even though it's probably a drunk dial, she is apparently thinking of me and possibly even intimitaded by me. Is it wrong to assume she's atleast somewhat interested or attracted?

I'm not sure how to take her text back, possibly as either flirtacious, playing dumb, or wanting to play games, but I really am not in the mood to be playing games with her again, so I just ignored the text and the call that night.

Did I do the right thing here?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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In my opinion, as much as we want to go back to an ex, we really never should. Yes, I am being hypocritical. I have done it. More than once.
 

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Iv never really understood why getting back with an ex is a big no no.


Like im talking about getting back with her just for fun every once in a while, not trying to fall in love with her again and have babies together.

because if the relationship failed once its probably not going to work out the second time.

Is that the answer to my question?
 

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I dont know how you can hang out with an ex and not have feelings. Unless you really, in your heart, have moved on. Sounds to me like shes messin with you or checkin up on you in some way.
I think you did the right thing.
In my experience, I was in and out of a ltr for 8 years and she did very simalar things. Mine was a test( I think).
But what I kept doing wrong was falling for her traps everytime, I would let it keep me up at nite, I would call her back immediatly etc..and I would feed in to her games.
 

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Vendetta081789 said:
In my opinion, as much as we want to go back to an ex, we really never should. Yes, I am being hypocritical. I have done it. More than once.
Agreed. Things would be alot easier if this girl wasn't so physically attractive. It definitely makes me want to rekindle things even though I know probably shouldn't.

Regardless, I'm guessing by her "phone call" that there's some interest here? Yes... no?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tsmith2334 said:
Regardless, I'm guessing by her "phone call" that there's some interest here? Yes... no?
Who knows, maybe she holds onto your number as a last resort thing. In which case, you did the right thing...lol
 

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jp98502 said:
I dont know how you can hang out with an ex and not have feelings. Unless you really, in your heart, have moved on. Sounds to me like shes messin with you or checkin up on you in some way.
I think you did the right thing.
In my experience, I was in and out of a ltr for 8 years and she did very simalar things. Mine was a test( I think).
But what I kept doing wrong was falling for her traps everytime, I would let it keep me up at nite, I would call her back immediatly etc..and I would feed in to her games.
Admittedly, there are still some feelings here, probably on both ends. I guess I want closure if nothing else.

I think it's very possible she was checking up on me. She definitely could be the type to do that, especially if she had some drinks in her. But who knows.

When you saw you think your ex was "testing" you, what do you mean?

I don't want to fall into any traps either.
 

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Its funny, I was out last night and my Ex was at the bar with some other dude. I could care less because I broke it off 2 months ago. But it was funny because she kept gettin real close to this dude and other things and she would glance at me every now and then to see if I was looking. There was 3 girls sitting right next to her, I opened all 3 and had them all laughing and flirting within a minute. The Ex had this look on her face like her best friend just died. I dont hate her or anything I just figured her out and kicked her to the curb. But...Im still very much sexually attracted to her, but would never fvck her again.

Flirt wit hoodrats, then pop models.....Weezy
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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