She called me another guys name....

[KillingTime]

I was out with this girl I met a while back, things had been going great... this girl has been practically on her knees worshipping me and telling me she loves me 24/7, I have never in my life seen someone show so much interest in me, borderline obsessive id say. I've known her for a while and she seems to be a pretty honest, decent person.
Anyway, she had just gotten out of a very long-term relationship and as we're talking she accidentally calls me by her ex b.f's name... she quickly apologized and said that it was an accident, she's been begging and begging me to forgive her and telling me that she loves me so much

What should I do? It's her first slip-up, I do believe that everyone (man or woman) deserves a second chance (and no more) but I also feel a little disrespected here.
Now like I said aside from this she has shown nothing but interest 24/7, she has apologized numerous times.... my gut tells me that she truly is sorry and it was really just from habit, but if I do decide to give her another chance how can I really drive the message home? I don't want to get upset about it but I do want to be firm and want her to understand that this type of thing won't be tolerated in the future.

 

[Bad_Lil'Pixie]

Ouch!

One time, during a very heated discussion, I called my husband by my brothers name. My brother can get me equally angry.

Another time, I was outside, my husband picked up a call for me and began calling out the backdoor. He was calling the cats name and I looked to see why he kept calling our cat.

We are creatures of habit, I do not love my brother like my husband, nor does my husband think I am a feline.

I think it was a error, I'd still watch to see if any other actions reinforce your fears, but I wouldn't dump her over a slip. Just stay guarded, she will prove herself in other ways.

 

[DJDamage]

What should I do? It's her first slip-up, I do believe that everyone (man or woman) deserves a second chance (and no more) but I also feel a little disrespected here.

You should dump her right now and go get yourself a prostitute cause if something a small as this irritates you then you shouldn't be in a relationship with a normal girl.

ITS NOT WHAT SHE SAYS BUT HER ACTIONS THAT YOU NEED TO JUDGE HER ON! So everything is going great but your ego can't handle she accidently mentioned her Ex name??!! It was an accident let it go and be happy.

DJD

 

[Wiesman44]

yah man. Dj's right. Whats the big deal ? Give her a break. It happens.

 

[far from average]

Ha, I saw the thread title and thought she called him the ex's name while ****ing. Now THAT would have been bad.

 

[NewMan]

grow up. Stop worrying about the small stuff.

 

[KillingTime]

Aight, point well taken.
Actually I WAS planning to let it slide, my main concern was in what I should say about it... it really isn't THAT big of a deal at all, I just don't want her thinking that I'd be this passive about other things (such as her screaming her ex's name during sex as mentioned above HAHA)

 

[foomee]

I'd say it depends on the relationship and how her last relationship was.
If you've been dating for maybe over 2 or 3 months now, then you'd better watch out. She might still have feelings for this guy. Find out how her last LTR went, and how much she cared about this guy. If she really cared about him, then it might show that she really cares about you too. But also see if she still cares about him..

 

[DJDamage]

I'd say it depends on the relationship and how her last relationship was.
If you've been dating for maybe over 2 or 3 months now, then you'd better watch out. She might still have feelings for this guy. Find out how her last LTR went, and how much she cared about this guy. If she really cared about him, then it might show that she really cares about you too. But also see if she still cares about him..

You must be new here so I am going to take it easy on the advice you just gave him. If you read the advice you gave him its exectly the type of an advice a girl would give another girl. This is B.S he doesn't need to play a detective with a girl that accidently mentions another guy's name. He would be making a mountain out of nothing.

Aight, point well taken.
Actually I WAS planning to let it slide, my main concern was in what I should say about it... it really isn't THAT big of a deal at all, I just don't want her thinking that I'd be this passive about other things (such as her screaming her ex's name during sex as mentioned above HAHA)

What do you mean let it slide? you shouldn't even be concern with it but yet you are. You need to be assertive when she does something intentional and deliberate and not acccidental. Lets say for example she accidently screams her Ex name when you fvck?! what are you going to be a wuss about it and stop fvcking her and curl up in your bed like a little girl and give her the silent treatment or better yet be angry and yell at her??! I hope not!! who gives a sh1t, you are the one that is fvcking her not him. You should only be assertive with her if the accidental name callings are becoming frequently as oppose to rarely.

DJD

 

[fitos]

The more you make of it, the more she'll make of it.

If you make things like this a problem, you'll have problems.

You should have smiled and said "No problem, I've done the same, it happens.".

Neither she or you would have though about it.

It was no big deal, treat her cool, and if she brings it up, say "Let's forget about that" and hold her hand or something like that.

Fitos

 

[Last Man Standing]

Kill Her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hahahaha, I just noticed that your name is "killling time" - no pun was intended.

 

[insanity]

i've made mistakes where i woke up and called my girlfriend an ex girlfriends name not once, but like 3 times.

sometimes when you've been with somebody else for a long time, and that person was a part of your daily routine, it happens. i hated the ex, i wasn't thinking about her or missed her.

but if your girl called you her ex while getting it on....drop her.

 

[Latinoman]

I was out with this girl I met a while back, things had been going great... this girl has been practically on her knees worshipping me and telling me she loves me 24/7, I have never in my life seen someone show so much interest in me, borderline obsessive id say. I've known her for a while and she seems to be a pretty honest, decent person.
Anyway, she had just gotten out of a very long-term relationship and as we're talking she accidentally calls me by her ex b.f's name... she quickly apologized and said that it was an accident, she's been begging and begging me to forgive her and telling me that she loves me so much

What should I do? It's her first slip-up, I do believe that everyone (man or woman) deserves a second chance (and no more) but I also feel a little disrespected here.
Now like I said aside from this she has shown nothing but interest 24/7, she has apologized numerous times.... my gut tells me that she truly is sorry and it was really just from habit, but if I do decide to give her another chance how can I really drive the message home? I don't want to get upset about it but I do want to be firm and want her to understand that this type of thing won't be tolerated in the future.

If she was with that guy for a long time...you can expect her to make those kind of mistakes.

I made them with my girlfriend when I sometimes call her my ex-wife name (especially if we are having a disagreement).

It is accidental and should be forgiven...UNLESS it happens during intimacy.
Then there some issues.

 

[mrRuckus]

There aren't any issues... after sex i was snugglin up about to fall asleep with my girl once and i called her an ex's name. I have 0 feelings for that ex, don't regret the break up, have no desire to ever see her again, and haven't talked to her in forever. It just happens.

My mom will call me by both my brothers' names a lot before settling on the right one. Does that mean she doesn't love me?

 

[NewMan]

My mom will call me by both my brothers' names a lot before settling on the right one. Does that mean she doesn't love me?

Yes.

not even your mother can love you.

 

[Good_ol_boy]

There aren't any issues... after sex i was snugglin up about to fall asleep with my girl once and i called her an ex's name.

I solved that problem, ex's name "Joann" current g/f's name "Joanne".

 

[flexion_]

I see no problem here.