"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she bugs me to go see her then changes her mind...

tony-montana

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it's this that makes me stay away from females. too many of them play games and i refuse to play them.

this girl i know has been harassing me almost everyday to get me to go see her more and catch a movie... but she just lost her chance today.

she called;

i finally tell her i'll go see her to hang out, talk, see a movie... and this is what goes:

me: you still goin to this job interview tomorrow ?
her: yeah I am AND I got another one on friday
me: yes, but i dont care about friday. when does your interview finish tomorrow ?
her: brian is coming with us.
me: no he's not.
her: why?
me: i was going with you. not you AND another guy.
her: im not going anyway i got no cash
me: you should of told me that last week when we discussed it.
her: i had cash then, but i spent it on saturday.
me: ahh well
her: nah i dunno, i'll see what i can do.
me: you can go with brian.
her: no I was joking, lol.
me: no you werent. don't worry anyway, we'll just catch up some other time or whatever. i gotta go okay... talk to you later.

and then i hung up the phone.

i think she's a waste of time cause i really want to see this movie and i'm just gonna go with my friend. there's less hassle when it's not a female. hard to find decent girls in this world ;]

do you think i did the right thing?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She acts like a little kid, and I am glad you didn't put up with it. Little story for you..

I had sex with this girl awhile back. We had sex the first night we met. It was great sex. After it was over I went home. She asked me 3 times to get together agian. We set up a date, and then later on she tells me she has other plans. Ok, no big deal. We don't talk for about a month. A month later, she tells me,"let's hook up again." We set a date and at the last min when I was about to leave, she calls me and says, "I am not really in the mood for that tonight. I gotta pack some stuff cause I am moving."


She did move it's true, but what a flake. It makes no sense. Women make no sense. I completely just broke all contact with her because I think she acts like a kid.
 

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it sounds like you handled her really well. You could have probably gotten away without nexting her if you wanted. But it's your call.

Good job qualifying women.
 

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yeah, she just dumped her boyfriend last week and was already planning things with me before she did. she's very superficial too and always talks about "hot guys". she's 20 and he was 16. she really does act childish. GRRR WHERE ARE THE NORMAL GIRLS... even at the damn library you get stupid b!tches hangin around.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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tony-montana said:
it's this that makes me stay away from females. too many of them play games and i refuse to play them.

this girl i know has been harassing me almost everyday to get me to go see her more and catch a movie... but she just lost her chance today.

she called;

i finally tell her i'll go see her to hang out, talk, see a movie... and this is what goes:

me: you still goin to this job interview tomorrow ?
her: yeah I am AND I got another one on friday
me: yes, but i dont care about friday. when does your interview finish tomorrow ?
her: brian is coming with us.
me: no he's not.
her: why?
me: i was going with you. not you AND another guy.
her: im not going anyway i got no cash
me: you should of told me that last week when we discussed it.
her: i had cash then, but i spent it on saturday.
me: ahh well
her: nah i dunno, i'll see what i can do.
me: you can go with brian.
her: no I was joking, lol.
me: no you werent. don't worry anyway, we'll just catch up some other time or whatever. i gotta go okay... talk to you later.

and then i hung up the phone.

i think she's a waste of time cause i really want to see this movie and i'm just gonna go with my friend. there's less hassle when it's not a female. hard to find decent girls in this world ;]

do you think i did the right thing?

Why do women flake?

They act on emotions way more then we do and because of their hormones, their emotions are in constant flux.

So, one moment they feel like doing something and then their emotions change and everything is back to square one.

However, despite their emotions, if a womans interest level is high enough (like 80-90%), she will often overide her emotions and not flake.

In this case, her IL is not high enough as one of the posters said, hence her flakiness.

Also, women like to test you to see how far they can get away with their bull****. I think they do it subconsciously.
 

tony-montana

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not high enough? she's been bugging me everyday almost. everything i say she turns it into a sexual thing... like i said; "what you doin" she'll say: "you." she's said i was hot many times and that she wants me to go to parties with her and tell people i'm her boyfriend. i actually flaked on her last week, she wanted to meet at the beach and i didn't go. but whatever... i can't be bothered playing this tennis game.
 
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