"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She broke NC with a lame text

Firedweller

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Dated a girl for 6 months and broke up because her family didn't approve of me. Not all family members but her parents are big racists and told her that she's out of the family if she doesn't end it. She still didn't end it even though it was done because she was distraught and I asked her to move in with me but she said she can't leave her family so I ended it on the spot.

I bumped into her only a few days later and I didn't and she didn't speak a word. It really hurt me bad though. Went from hanging out every second day and being really good companions to just two minds linked with no actions to follow up.

I had deleted her from Facebook and her number the day I ended it and her response was to block me on FB.

So two weeks went by with NC then I saw her in the shopping center and I felt like totally raging at her but simply said hey how are you and she was extremely happy by it she couldn't hide her facial expressions. I just kept walking on. I felt like that was the turning point where I got to just be indifferent and almost was my goodbye.

Fast forward another week, I was at a party and saw her but said nothing all night. I was talking to some of her friends acting fine and so was she but as the night went on I saw her ensuring her back was turned to me and she was even alone sitting for a while. I stayed until the party was done and had a good time.

This morning I got a message from her saying 'Hi, please can you make sure that you are mature about this break up. I don't want you to be talking negatively about me to anyone else."


WTF? Feedback guys?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hudpes

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Once in a while someone will boggle your mind. Keep your balance. It was just a bump, there's nothing wrong with you, but there's something wrong with them and believe me, you're better off not being surrounded by this bad energy.

If you don't have a "dead to me" list yet, congratulations, this is your first entry!
 

GS750

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Don't badmouth her, it show's you're butthurt and still care. But don't reply to her text either. If you see her in pubic be cordial but be on about your business.
 

Evzone

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Get more girls.

Also either don't respond at all, or with "sure and I expect the same from you."

Then get more girls. :)
 

VladPatton

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What the guys before me said. Just ignore her comments and baiting for attention. Block her ass from your phone and all other platforms of communication. You'll have eternal peace of mind by doing so.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Her options are running low or the football player told her to go to hell and she just wants your attention (beta orbiter). Don't give in.

I second all of the posts above this one. There's your answer.

To add; Erase and replace.

Case closed. Keep your frame.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Re-read her message:

She is concerned for her reputation, disrespectfully telling you to be 'mature' (pfft, that's rich, coming from a woman in a family of racists).

She is not concerned for you. But that's not a reflection of you. It's a reflection of her and her weird family.

Forget the lot of them. Find a gorgeous, fit chick who wants to please you endlessly. You deserve it. This story is f*cking tragic man. Take it easy dude.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Don't you dare fvcking respond to her or I will find out where you live, drive to your house, knock on the door, and slap you.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Oh yeah and find a hotter chick to get it on with. Maybe even as a trophy girlfriend too if you'd like. Regardless, just find some other, better looking girls.
 

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I didn't reply to her. I ran into a few of her friends over the weekend and I'm in a state where I don't want to see or hear anyone who has anything to do with her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DragonBlood

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Firedweller said:
I ran into a few of her friends over the weekend and I'm in a state where I don't want to see or hear anyone who has anything to do with her.
Slow your roll man :) What did these other girls do to you? Do you honestly believe they will take their friends side for being a racist?


Date one of her hot friends, dont ***** out on me bro. They know your single and good with girls. From my personal experience dating the friends of someone you were seeing solves all drama within that group that is directed at you. You would think it would just create more problems, but it actually resolves them and gives you even more options, go figure. GIRL LOGIC.

**** one girl and they all hate you, **** them all and they all love you.

Because the break up wasnt even anything remotely to do with you being afc, cheating or treating her badly but some weird racial **** that is out of your control you are actually in a very good position social proof wise to sleep around.
 
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