she breaks NC again...

[tomato]

every time we stop talking it takes about 4-5 weeks of NC and then she breaks it to ask how I am....

so this is about the 3rd time this has happend - the first time everything went well and we basically got together again till I pushed her away...then again ....so this is the third time......what would you do?

bear in mind I dont want to get back together with her - I have other things going on that are far more important, its just out of interest - as an experiment

.so

1) the best thing to do in terms of push pull would be to wait for her to send two before I respond right?
2) could leave it a few days to respond with a very short - good, you?
3) could leave it a week or so - prob too long
4) respond with a more positive upbeat response and tell her I will be around her library soon could have lunch etc.....

I am leaning towards 2 and 4 - not 1 cause I dont know if she will send two, prob not, and I get a feeling - my gut - tells me she would be fine with a short lunch at the lib - real world is better. but 2 is more conservative prob better - need to bear in mind though that summer hols are here soon and people leave - only 2 weeks away!

 

[Shockwavedave]

every time we stop talking it takes about 4-5 weeks of NC and then she breaks it to ask how I am....

so this is about the 3rd time this has happend - the first time everything went well and we basically got together again till I pushed her away...then again ....so this is the third time......what would you do?

bear in mind I dont want to get back together with her - I have other things going on that are far more important, its just out of interest - as an experiment

.so

1) the best thing to do in terms of push pull would be to wait for her to send two before I respond right?
2) could leave it a few days to respond with a very short - good, you?
3) could leave it a week or so - prob too long
4) respond with a more positive upbeat response and tell her I will be around her library soon could have lunch etc.....

I am leaning towards 2 and 4 - not 1 cause I dont know if she will send two, prob not, and I get a feeling - my gut - tells me she would be fine with a short lunch at the lib - real world is better. but 2 is more conservative prob better - need to bear in mind though that summer hols are here soon and people leave - only 2 weeks away!

Quite simply, if you want no contact, then do not have any contact, even if she sends you a message.

 

[Tiguere]

Quite simply, if you want no contact, then do not have any contact, even if she sends you a message.

tomato is too pvssy to maintain NC like a real man. hes still a little boy and im glad his ex is having fun with him.

 

[Gray The Prince]

I'm not even going to waste my time giving advice that you won't follow.


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=194559 <----solid advice posted that you refuse to follow.

 

[tomato]

I'm not even going to waste my time giving advice that you won't follow.


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=194559 <----solid advice posted that you refuse to follow.

ahm what advice on there didnt I follow? - I've moved on and improved.

So it seems most here would say I should not respond at all?

could someone explain the reasoning? I am seriously considering it right now---can see how it would telegraph having had enough of her - which I have- I genuinely dont want to text her really - just wondering what you guys would do?

I asked the very same question a few weeks ago.
I have moved on and have a different philosophy on relationships these days. The "plates" theory is working out just fine for me and i like the excitement and diversity of having quite a few GF's (Wish I'd worked this one out years ago).
Anyway, Because of my ex's set of personal circumstances, she will be alone for the foreseeable future and I wouldn't mind having her in the game.
It's only been 3 months since our BU and I have been in NC for most of that time....although we are still on good terms.
Now i'm not talking about cynically using anybody. I have been up front with all of the GF's and i would be with the ex.

D

although this doesnt decribe me......imagine its the case....to put it in a way you can understand better..... - imagine her as just a plate

I can see one of the girls I've seen being something more serious

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I've moved on and improved.

You know how we all know your lying, not only to us but to yourself when you say this?

Simply because if you truly had moved on you wouldn't even be thinking about all these hypothetical situations of what to do if X Y or Z happens. Your stuck on this lame chick for some reason, I don't know all the details, but a man who REALLY has options won't put himself through this mental blender.

So it seems most here would say I should not respond at all?

Please define what NC means to you?

could someone explain the reasoning? I am seriously considering it right now---can see how it would telegraph having had enough of her - which I have- I genuinely dont want to text her really - just wondering what you guys would do?

This paragraph tells me one important thing; your mentally weak. She's one chick bro; and probably not even that great. The sooner you realize that every girl you meet, date, don't date, get rejected by, phuck on the roof top is allllllll part of your personal journey of growth & understanding the sooner your can hit PLAY on your life and take this shiat off rewind.

I can see one of the girls I've seen being something more serious

Cool, don't stop filling the funnel though; because I can tell you that things are usually not what they seem to be ESPECIALLY when it comes to women.










PIMP

 

[tomato]

no actual advice here guys - I have improved massively and am seeing other plates - any reason not to just reply to her and spin her like any other girl? - very short "I'm good, how're you?"

I dont see how that could really damage things unless you think it will set up a stronger chase if she doesnt get a response - damage her ego etc? - remember I know her very well - I just think she might get annoyed and think I am playing games

GIve me some input here guys or I'm thinking of sending it since I've done everything people have said (moved on and improved)

If you say ignore her - WHY? - how will this ultimately UP attraction MORE than GOOD GAME?

 

[bigneil]

We need to stop letting ourselves get attached (addicted) to women.

Once you have great sex with a woman (about the 2 month mark of the relationship), it's all downhill from there, so maybe that's the best time to dump them and move on. Only then will we assemble a harem of willing beauties.

Look back at the women you were with. Do you ever count how many times you were with them? Do you even remember half the times? The goal is just to have sex with them, not to have more sex, not to get them to love you forever, yet we get sucked into that somehow.

 

[wilford]

The goal is just to have sex with them, not to have more sex, not to get them to love you forever, yet we get sucked into that somehow.

Thats women's game, when you reach that point you know you are being played, they are winning you over. they make you settle

About the OP, i don't think he knows what he wants... talks about experiments and games.... i think he is the one being played and out of control, confused and overthinking about her.... ooooh what should i doooo? buaaaaah