She avoided public places on the first date!?

[summersky]

Hi everyone,

met this girl (21 years old) online, at first she was very careful und didnt tell much about herself. Then she got more open and i made up a date. She told that she really would love to go to place X, what is a bit outside of the town. Later she told me, that she didnt want to meet in the town cause she know so many people and doesnt feel good, if they saw her with her date. She was telling something about that they would start asking many questions and that does make her feel uncomfortable.

She is single for sure and dont need to hide me. She also showed signs of interest like texting me first and brought me cake for the first date, because we were talking about that before. On the date she was telling much about herself and seemed to enjoy it. I also touched her hand, so initiated kino. Also after the date she is initiating contact.

But that kind of behaviour seems weird to me. Is she low interest or just unsure? Never dealt with such things before!

What do you think? Cant wait to hear your opinions!

Regards,
summersky

 

[Tictac]

I rarely have a new plate circulating in my usual places.

If you fancy this chick, see her again. It was a first date, right?

 

[NSX-R]

I think she wants to kill you.

 

[KingBeef]

Hi everyone,

met this girl (21 years old) online, at first she was very careful und didnt tell much about herself. Then she got more open and i made up a date. She told that she really would love to go to place X, what is a bit outside of the town. Later she told me, that she didnt want to meet in the town cause she know so many people and doesnt feel good, if they saw her with her date. She was telling something about that they would start asking many questions and that does make her feel uncomfortable.

She is single for sure and dont need to hide me. She also showed signs of interest like texting me first and brought me cake for the first date, because we were talking about that before. On the date she was telling much about herself and seemed to enjoy it. I also touched her hand, so initiated kino. Also after the date she is initiating contact.

But that kind of behaviour seems weird to me. Is she low interest or just unsure? Never dealt with such things before!

ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT... I was reading the first paragraph and yes it sounded weird... a mild red flag in my book. Maybe she has a past there, who knows.

However, if it's so far so good then just continue on...but be on the lookout for more weird behavior/history from her. I (speaking for myself) have a 1 flag minimum. Anything more is usually not worth it. And please do yourself the favor of spinning more plates...it will keep you in the mindset of abundance. It helps a lot. Let us know how things workout and best of luck...

- Kingbeef

 

[macallik]

I rarely have a new plate circulating in my usual places.

If you fancy this chick, see her again. It was a first date, right?

Don't have a lot of context to say it definitively, but as someone with a few plates, I rarely take dates to the same place as well. She might be single but has a fwb situation she is trying to get out of, or she broke up with someone but doesn't want to cross paths with them.

The fact that she is going on dates with you and initiating contact is a good sign. You need to focus more on that and less on where the dates are. You are looking at the date as an opportunity for her to go out and be seen with you, when you should be looking at the date as a way to try to get her to fall for you.

 

[ubercat]

Since its a net chick,the hubbie is more likely to kill you.

 

[summersky]

Hi again,

thank you for your replies. I think i dont need to worry about that. But that is my big problem. I have other plates, a own life, job, hobbies, workout but i get oneitis really fast. It always occurs when i got the feeling, that she is not that interested. And its always with the most beautyful girl in my eyes.

So it really bothers me that right now it starts with this girl too and i cant really do something about it. Im afraid of the outcome and trying so hard not to be needy. That happens to me over and over again.

The situation now is, we did a bit light fun texting after the date. She also initiated one time. Now i want to call her and ask her out for saturday (we are both very busy during the week). If she says no time, then i got my answer.. Anyway i immediately need to do something about this fear / fast attachment otherwise we all know where it will end.

Regards

 

[Tictac]

My opinion is she's either deeply involved with someone or she just wants to have sex. I personally would invite her to my place and ask her to bring drinks.

Meh. If this became a pattern (three times), I'd consider it some sort of pathology. There are just too many other possibilities why a first date might go this way.