guys, got a request for my NC girl, the one that gave me the "i'm not ready for a relationship" and the "I haven't got over my ex yet" BS, to help arranging some stuff for a trip. I can help her but after the treatment i got... really undecided what to do
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she asks for help but I'm in NC with her
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Responding will only make all nc up to now useless and let her know ur still readily available and chumpish. I would not be helping, that's giving her something she hasn't earned. She has fz'ed you. Shed never ask a guy she liked to do that sh!t. the guy she likes will be on the trip with her. Best bet is either dont reply or say something uber brief and dismissive. Like "lord Jesus ain't nobody got time fo' that" - or ask what day, and whatever day she says say you are watching a movie with Chloe that day" Don't say who that is, just say a hot girl name. If she asks who that is you are good. Don't reply or "friend! Busy ATM ttyl!" ...a number of ways to play it really. Just be sure u aren't rewarding or helping her.
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joker79 said:
Sounds like a job for a boyfriend. You're not her boyfriend. Maintain NC.
just to set the context better: she's going to a city I know really well and she doesn't and she's asking for some recommendation and help to sort out some bookings. Does this change anything? I haven't been asked to help her physically
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No. NC is NC. There is no reason to break it. She's the one being selfish, understand that. She shot you down with a lame excuse and she wants to continue on HER terms without any regard for your feelings.joker79 said:
Make your stand that you will not supplicate to HER terms and conditions by maintaining NC. You're not being a ****. She's being inconsiderate. She knows what you want and refuses to give it to you while trying to maintain whatever relationship you have on her own terms.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
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Your only job as a man is to f*ck women and take care of any kids you have with them.
Anything extra you do is a favor/courtesy unless the woman has EARNED better treatment. The woman in question hasn't earned sh!t so she IS sh!t. Therefore she deserves nothing from you. F*ck her. Hit the bricks bro.
Anything extra you do is a favor/courtesy unless the woman has EARNED better treatment. The woman in question hasn't earned sh!t so she IS sh!t. Therefore she deserves nothing from you. F*ck her. Hit the bricks bro.
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Agree with all of the above. If you help ger she regains the frame and all of your NC has been wasted. Don't contact her.
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+ rep for the OBVIOUS truth. Damn it we all break nc but come on this is insane. Forget her, she's using you for something to attempt to snag.you back Into her realm of control. DONT FALL FOR IT. I have before and you'll end up right back at square 1.zinc4 said:
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HB10 wants me to bail her out of jail. Do I bail her out or stay at home and cook a pizza pie? Decisions, Decisions.
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she can fvck herself with her captain.buzzer . OP pretend you didnt get her message,pretend she doesnt exist. she wants to use and exploit you,then get alzheimer's and forget all about you once she is finished.
i deal with these slave-drivers everyday....i show 'em the finger on a daily basis.
i deal with these slave-drivers everyday....i show 'em the finger on a daily basis.
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Do whatever you want to do just make sure it is on your terms. I helped an old lady with stuff (i.e. friendzoned) and it turned very ugly when another guy got involved in the picture. So ask yourself, how would you feel if this girl met another guy she was really attracted to and didn't come up with these excuses, or another man is involved, how would you feel about that?
The worst I got was when I picked up this lady from her work-place and waited a couple of hours for her. Then I found out another guy was also waiting for her in the parking lot who came a good 45 min rush-hour distance away and she went into my car instead. From what point I realize this woman is just using people and you can't take her seriously.
The way that ended very badly where we are both enemies now is again a good reason not to deal with this girl. You can end up an enemy with her if you help her, and if she's such a hot girl, other guys will help her just the same just to be in her life. Let another chump help her. Tell her you are busy and can't make it. You have a life that's not waiting for her.
The worst I got was when I picked up this lady from her work-place and waited a couple of hours for her. Then I found out another guy was also waiting for her in the parking lot who came a good 45 min rush-hour distance away and she went into my car instead. From what point I realize this woman is just using people and you can't take her seriously.
The way that ended very badly where we are both enemies now is again a good reason not to deal with this girl. You can end up an enemy with her if you help her, and if she's such a hot girl, other guys will help her just the same just to be in her life. Let another chump help her. Tell her you are busy and can't make it. You have a life that's not waiting for her.
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wtf?corrector said:
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
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Simple ass case.
She wants to see if she can still use you. As in how much of a chump are you. You went ghost. Stay ghost and spin more plates. Don't be a f**kin' doormat.
Case closed. Get out of my court.
She wants to see if she can still use you. As in how much of a chump are you. You went ghost. Stay ghost and spin more plates. Don't be a f**kin' doormat.
Case closed. Get out of my court.