"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She always wants to talk...

alphaace

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Ok, so I've been dating this 8.5/10 for three months.....Well....two months...last 30 days she has been 4 1/2 hours away for family reasons. I really like the girl, and obviously she likes me a lot...probably a little to much right now.

The problem im having is that she ALWAYS wants to talk, I mean I guess that should really be considered a good thing, but......not so much right now.

I do enjoy talking with her. We text throughout the day, but every night she expects us to talk for like 3-4 hours over AIM and webcam.

Im not a very big talker at all, and im sure im not the only one.

Everytime that I hint to her that im not really in the mood to talk she always starts questioning me on why. Then she jumps to conclusions that im losing intrest, and blah blah, blah blah blah.....stupid ****......... Then she always finds a way to make me say **** like. Oh I miss you too baby. I miss you so much. Garbage blah blah.....

How the hell do I tell her without pissing her off that I don't want to ****ing talk all the time.........

(Yeah, i know i got a little angry at the end...but shes doing it as i write this.)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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when Im attracted I can listen to their garbage for hours (with sex in between), when I start losing my attraction, I just bang them and dont let them talk to me as much..sometimes they get the point and disappear but some dont get it, so I drive them home right after sex, close my msn, turn off my mobile and tell them Im not available due to some bs...
 

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3-4 hours? Enough time to get a part-time job and make some more money!

Think about it that way and you will realize how retarded 3-4 hours of talking with someone is.
 

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Oh Yeah!!!

You should also remember that the more U talk 2 her and the more Ur there for her somewhere in her mind she won't value your time somewhere down the line(hold on this rymes)but anyway im saying ignore her but at the same time be firm and let her know that you have a life..thiz is way more attractive than being an emotional sponge..100
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pretend to fall asleep during the marathon phone sessions. that should take care of things
 

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Slagon.......Trust me, I have told her that but she still insists.

Dergz...... Can't really pretend to fall asleep on a webcam video. Wish I could, lol.

J Roc..... I've already ignore her texts sometimes, but then she just sends me the SAME exact text thinking maybe the text just didnt go through, so I end up with the same text on my phone 4-5 times then I finally just say **** it and respond.
 

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Read "Way of the Peaceful Warrior" by David Deida and you will find the answer.

How the hell do I tell her without pissing her off that I don't want to ****ing talk all the time.........

(Yeah, i know i got a little angry at the end...but shes doing it as i write this.)
You also care too much about her opinion.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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alphaace said:
J Roc..... I've already ignore her texts sometimes, but then she just sends me the SAME exact text thinking maybe the text just didnt go through, so I end up with the same text on my phone 4-5 times then I finally just say **** it and respond.
only respond back to the texts that may be important like "what time are we meeting later tonight?". everything else gets ignored. she will get the hint after a few days of her idle minded texts being unanswered.
 

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Her being 4 hours away makes this easy. Don't return her text messages. Don't log in to AIM. Don't answer the phone when she calls. Problem solved.
 
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