"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Shaved my head bald in honor of my mother

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Hey, I went to the barbershop the other day to have my head shaved bald because I haven't cut my hair down lower than an 1/8 inch before. They chopped me up superbly:D The underlying reason for all of this is because my mom was diagnosed w/Leukemia last month. I even donated platelets and that hurt like fvck unlike the 6x I've donated whole blood.

It's slowly warming up for springtime here, so my head is feeling a lot cooler and I haven't sported a crewcut in awhile..

Here's just 1 pic http://www.myspace.com/bluecrushsponger
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Props, God bless your mom.


I work in health care. Bone Marrow operations are considered one of the most painful of all operations.

Peace
 

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Shit, my dads only got one leg... but I'll be damned if I'm any less of a son than you. Bring me my hacksaw!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cool way to show your support bro.

I hope your mom pulls through.
 

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Looking good man. Much respect because I did a similar thing myself except that I actually grew out my entire hair throughout my moms 3 year treatment process (Breast cancer) and when she finally finished everything I went bald and donated my hair. Make sure you use some of your DJ skills and keep her cheerful & smiling. :up:
 

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To KarmaSutra: If I were still living in St. Augustine, FL, I would have no problem with the bald look year-round. Having lived there, I shaved my head a lot and that is why I don't mind it at all. I'll keep it low.

To Mctwist4: I read u were a wrestler on a post and that leads me to another point.

SACRIFICE. Even though I had a poor record for my one season on the mat (6-9) I still learned to make sacrifices and build on my discipline. Throughout February and up to now, I've forced myself to make sacrifices. I quit sarging, had to cut all interest in a chick and it pissed her off (shows who she is), had to stay home to clean, cook sometimes, basically help my dad out.

I've taken it upon myself to perform more cleaning chores, finally cook things I said I would someday learn to do and to top it off, keep up with the schoolwork. I'm long overdo to set out on my own, but this adds even more to my well-being and persona. There were times of sorrow, anger, guilt and overall perseverance.

Thank you all and she is in remission, good news. She was even laughing because I have less hair than her and I made her laugh before she went off to bed. Hopefully I can relax more and continue my own progress.
 

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Man I'm glad to hear she's in remission.

Taking care of my dad for two years as he died from melanoma skin cancer was pretty psychologically brutal and physically as well when he got too weak to take care of himself so if you ever need to vent man I am only a PM box away.

I don't think you'll need to though as long as she stays in remission.

Leukemia is one of those very tricky illnesses.

Sometimes people who get it are gone in six months or less, sometimes they struggle and fight it for a long time and then eventually don't make it or they struggle and make it and it never comes back again.

As long as a person has a fighting spirit about it I'd say they have a good chance of recovery.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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KontrollerX said:
Taking care of my dad for two years as he died from melanoma skin cancer was pretty psychologically brutal and physically as well when he got too weak to take care of himself so if you ever need to vent man I am only a PM box away.

As long as a person has a fighting spirit about it I'd say they have a good chance of recovery.

The circle is complete. KontrollerX is now a MENtor to a young Brother. The student is now a teacher.

Proud of you Colonel.

Keep on keepin' on.
 
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