"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Shattering the Limits

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thanks a lot for that Mr. Fingers, I had been thinking about how all this sight boils down to freedom, but this post really helped me to see this better.

I have been looking into taoism lately, and I am constantly amazed at how people who really seem to have insight like you, often have very taoist views. This post here is very taoist indeed, you or anyone else here might benefit from reading a few taoist texts, like the tao te ching, or the Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff (explaining toaism through winnie the pooh). Its really amazing stuff.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by ArnZ
Bonita loves musicians.

Finger's passion in life is music. He loves playing percussion.

Playing percussion is his "thing." And he was completely immersed in it during that concert.

Anything like this is VERY sexy to a woman. A guy completely into what he likes.

If you love what you are doing, you don't need any techniques. Women will be drawn to you automatically. They can feel your glow.
You're bang on, especially with the last point. If a girl is mildly interested in you, they gravitate to you but they also want to "connect." So they look for things that you are interested in and that make you glow with confidence, stability, and comfort. They feel that glow too. When I was younger, I noticed girls trying to find out what it was that made me glow...if I liked them, I showed them :)
 

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Cool post dude. Nothing like the previous stuff you posted :)
 

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Bump!

Cool post.

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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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What the ****? How did I only see this post NOW???

Is this in the bible, I couldn't find it......


BEST POST I'VE READ YET
 

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Bump!

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I spot a heavy link between DJism and Zen... ;)

You just be. You exist, you enjoy, you take the knocks on the chin and the good bits modestly. Love it :)

This post looks like a coming of age, so to speak. Excellent work, Fingz, I'd love to read more in the future.

Ben
 

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Fingz, you are a wonderful writer
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BUMP. The new guys should have the chance to read this. My favourite post on the whole forum from my favourite ever poster. :p
 

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I can't help but bump these magnificent posts.

May be annoying to bump all these old topics to some, but stuff like this is absolute GOLD.
 
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I know it's old everybody, but anyway. Good story. You remind me of Jim Carrey for some odd reason. LOL Anyway, I think that you just started to relax more, which is a key to getting women interested in you. You of course have some previous talents and qualities that you have worked on to make yourself a good candidate for the ladies in the first place.
 

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u r an evil genious and u must be stopped. This is life changing ****, because of u I might become a DJ
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The main message I've learned from this site and, in my opinion, the key to being successful with women is to NOT GIVE A SH*T. Yup.

Most dudes' problems with women stem from the fact that they make it too big a deal. "Oh, what if she doesn't like me?" "Maybe I'll be embarrassed in front of my friends." "She's way out of my league." "I fear rejection."

A good deal of the time, they never act. Or they wait too long when their window of opportunity has passed. Or when they start talking to her, they are too nervous because they are taking it all too seriously.

We look for all kinds of ways to appear confident, to appear like we are the prize etc. What we should be doing is changing our inner voice and realizing that it really doesn't matter. If one chick rejects you, there are literally millions more attractive women out there.

She turned you down? So f*cking what!?

There is actually a new spiritual movement called "Fvck it-ism." Many believe that it's the Western expression of an Eastern idea: let go of your fears and worries and just GO FOR IT.

Check out this book: Fvck It
 

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This post could not have come to me at a more opportune time...

I have to give my deepest gratitue to Fingz... seriously and very sincerely.


For the past few years ive been looking for something to call myself... Daoist, Buddhist, Existentialist, Objectivist etc. it didnt matter. I was looking for a title. I wanted one path to follow and a clear set of values to carry me through life. A creed to end all creeds.

What ive found is that it DOES. NOT. EXIST.

If one only limits himself to One world view, you get locked out of a lot of other ways to see things. I suppose i was lucky enough not to Just "sign up" for a paradigm without thinking for myself and disagreeing with some points in those paradigms (which is what i realized i was trying to do), accepting it all as truth simply to introduce myself as an Objectivist or what have you.

You really have to take what you agree with from each individual system and piece together your own "system". It may not have a term attached to it or a 5 meg Wikipedia entry, but it is a set of values that YOU have constructed and they work for you. They provide you the self fulfillment and tenacity for life that a cold hollow title could never carry.

Its very important to think for yourself and take everything with a grain of salt until you have decided its a point of view that truly resonates with how you feel and what brings you happiness.

Knowing this has really given me an edge in entering the world of seduction. I can try and observe detached and dispassionately the techniques contained in all of the "manuals" and "rules" without letting myself get wrapped up in weather or not they are 'true'. You cant let yourself get trapped under a set of rules and expect to succeed. No system (of any kind) is perfect.

Im also a Musician and poet, so the creativity mentioned here also strikes quite the chord. With Practicing (Guitar) ill repeat what i said above;

You must observe your actions and methods dispassionately and detached; Like a scientist doing an experiment

If i practice with expectation and emotion i will fail, but when i free myself from any expectation and want nothing but to Observe what is working and what isnt, it allows me to construct effective practice regimens around what i KNOW, not what someone else is telling me will work.

Just my .02 Im glad i read this before i jumped right in though. Invaluable advice.

:rockon:
 

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5 years later and this post is still true. In another 10 years itll still be relevant. I read it for the first time yesterday, went out to the pub with my friends and i totally dropped my guard...its changed me, hopefully forever.
Can't thank you enough!
 

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I liked Fingz' every post, but this one truly hits home.
 
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