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Sharp lower back pain

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I was merely getting up from bending down to the wash basin today when suddenly a sharp shooting pain hit my lower back. Now the pain has faded into a dull uncomfortable ache, where my lower back muscles are really stiff, sharper jolts of pain occurring when I round my back in harsh movements.

It is really strange because it came about so suddenly and from such a small movement. I haven't even been going hard in the gym for the past week as I have been deloading and using a less intense program. The last time I did went was 4 days ago, and my back felt fine for the past 4 days, only getting a bit stiff last night before bed. It feels like muscle strain, and taking ibuprofen has greatly reduced the pain, only leaving stiffness.

I think I've somehow tweaked my lower back in my training session and then amplified the tweak when I played tennis over the weekend. Any advice on what the problem could be? How can I resolve it?

I'll be taking a break from weights until the pain subsides, and then do a hard deload to iron out form issues.
 

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do lots of warrior lunges/ bird dogs...just get some blood flowing there. Drop some motrin.

and doing rack deadlifts with 375+ lbs for reps will help tooo.....

j/k on the last one....:)
 

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Lower back injuries are a biatch to deal with. I've been pretty fortunate in that department. Try lower back stretches and spinal decompression (hang with a weight belt). A chiropractor can also help.

Just take it easy. The lower back is very easily over trained...
 

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The pain is getting less and I'm getting back mobility, so I am able to perform the squat movement again. I think the problem may have been partially caused by having too much of a slouchy posture, as I have had to really straighten my back to relieve pain.

I'll be sure to keep it mobile with some active rest. lol cheers carlitosway, but I think setting some rounded back good mornings PRs would be better for my rehab :up:
 

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Good advice here, BUT I warn you, if the pain ever leaves your back and radiates down your legs, STOP all lifting, go see a doctor and get an MRI.
 

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Your core is weak.... you need to start incorporating core exercises twice a week and you'll see a major difference not only in your performance but also your posture.

Squatting with a weak core is a recipe for disaster.




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If you have latterly started to have low back pain, there's a good chance that it will get better within a few weeks. There are many causes of sudden sharp back pain, but most have simple treatment solutions. By talking with your doctor, you can determine the cause and get on the road to recovery and back to your everyday activities as soon as possible.
 

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Don't bend over first thing in the morning ;)

The discs in your back are expanded and fragile for the first 10 minutes after standing up from sleep.

Do some situps and hyperextensions

Hot/Cold for a day or so

Best get it cleared up, definitely just a strained muscle or at worst a minor ligament sprain, very unlikely though.
 

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Quiksilver said:
Don't bend over first thing in the morning ;)
The discs in your back are expanded and fragile for the first 10 minutes after standing up from sleep.
Heh, good point, didn't realise that. Although it's pretty hard not to bend over when all then basins go up to your hips. I guess I should practice squatting down to them.

Well the pain almost totally faded during the week, but now it has come back a bit, this time spreading down to my left ass. I think it's mild sciatica, so It could be a mild prolapsed disc, which is pinching the nerve. I've looked it up on the internet, and it says to go to the doctor if the pain is acute, but about 90% of prolapsed discs will heal themselves naturally. The pain is mild and only occurs when I walk, so I'll give it a while and see if it reduces. Maybe take some ibuprofen.

I think it is caused by weak abs, as I never really feel my abs tensing when I squat, so i guess it's abs training and weight belt time
 

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Have you tried doing the reverse hypers yet ???

Hopefully your doing bodyweight exercises only.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
Have you tried doing the reverse hypers yet ???

Hopefully your doing bodyweight exercises only.
Haven't tried reverse hypers because I don't have access to a reverse hyper machine, but I'm only doing bodyweight exercises.
 

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WHAT !?!!? dood you dont need a reverse hyper machine, you just need something to lay down and hold on to.

One guy does reverse hypers at a local playground. Other guys use a stability ball. be creativive...all your doing is raising your legs up.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4X_gUIMKIMg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6udA5FXZUf4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1z4xJ1JZatc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwLGUUMBWFg

I don't have access to a reverse hyper so I use a glute ham raise like this kid.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nj9HpfDpTuc
 

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The spine is the most important area for the body to protect. Injury to the spinal cord can easily lead to death, so whenever that area is threatened, the muscles around the spine will contract as a defensive measure. Unfortunately, they tend to stay that way for a few days, which is what hurts.
 

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I can safely say my back is fine now. No more sciatica, no more back pain. It disappeared immediately after I did those reverse hyperextensions (Cheers Drum&Bass).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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speed dawg said:
Good advice here, BUT I warn you, if the pain ever leaves your back and radiates down your legs, STOP all lifting, go see a doctor and get an MRI.
^^^^This is sound advice. If you experience any radiculopathy, stop everything and get to the doc. I have done this exact same thing and experienced low back pain. One thing that really helps me, is a deep tissue massage. Hurts....but it's worth it.
 

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after deadlifts+squat day 2 days ago my lower back is still very tense and a bit strained

i try to do bird dogs and planks, but anything else there?


what is this talk of weak core, how do i know if I have it?
 

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Oxide said:
after deadlifts+squat day 2 days ago my lower back is still very tense and a bit strained

i try to do bird dogs and planks, but anything else there?


what is this talk of weak core, how do i know if I have it?
Reverse Hypers! They are brilliant.

If you have weak abs then do chin ups, they are one of the best exercises for strengthening abs.
 
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