"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MotownMack

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Whould like more info on the many pets
It's funny because this is the type of little random disqualifier that you hear about chicks using for guys, that seems random and weird, but sometimes have a point (though women tend to have far more and even stranger ones).

I had this "rule" before I even read the post, so I will give you my take on it. In the last year, I have had 3 or so dates with chicks who had an inordinate amount of pets, specifically cats. 1 or 2 cats I don't mind, but each of these girls had like 3 or 4 cats, one I think had 5.

All 3 of them were among the weirder, more emotionally needy women I've dated. Two of them seemed to live their lives in chaos, there was always drama going on of various types. The third girl had her act together fairly well in terms of being a hard working girl, going to college, owning a home, etc- but was the most bipolar of any women I have dated(probably not clinically), but would constantly flip-flop between everything being fine between us, to her accusing me playing games, or just going off without reason.

I made the connection on my own at some point-girls with a lot of cats are weird :) And the few people I have know throughout my life who have own a large amount of animals were also a little "off."

I've never heard anyone say this (minus the crazy cat lady joke), so I laughed when I read it in the post here. I will sometimes teasingly ask a girl "How many cats do you have?" when we are getting to know each other, and explain the joke.

As far as why this has been consistent in my experience, I couldn't tell ya. Maybe these girls feel the need to add permanent social contact to their lives with animals they can control and can't leave them? It satisfies some emotional insecurity? All speculation. But I have noticed a pattern.

Blaaah blaaah, so how do you get a date with an attractive girl then? Lets at least have help on that part before philosophising over how dates go bad or good.
I tend to agree with you. I appreciate that this board has some deep thinking individuals, but I tend to get less from extremely vague and philosophical posts. I realize this site is about improving your quality of life as a whole, but at the moment I am looking for practical advice on a smaller scale, than I am looking for life strategies. This post is somewhere in the middle though, there is some practical advice here.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The Unknown Don said:
6) If a woman is initially physically attracted to a man, there is very little he can do wrong on a first date.
What the damn are you thinkin'? What makes you think that looks alone is what keeps a woman attracted? lol...this friggin' guy...lol!!!
 
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