Share something that helped your life

[ValiantMale]

1) GYM
2) Meditation
3) Building my mindset/my character. Most people end up being mediocre in life because they don't have a vision for who they want to be with specific parameters that they can work towards. It can help to have a rolemodel to look up to, but for many that is hard to find-- so you need to really create this character you want to be and work towards becoming that. That person is made of sand though and unless you consistently focus on the details of who that person is, it can easily get lost from day to day, week to week, month to month.. Which is why its so important to have;
4) Actionable tasks/planning to do daily, weekly to become that person^
5) Becoming a coach helped me greatly.. because when I started I wasn't all that amazing or killing it in life.. But constantly teaching things I would have told myself kinda had a double edged sword effect in by helping others, I was consistently and constantly helping myself and staying on track with habits I otherwise would have fell short on.. Because, if I didn't complete those habits and constantly be the man worthy of being a mentor for several dozen men, I would feel like a complete imposter.

 

[Desdinova]

Honestly, I think getting bullied did me a lot of favors.

I think it helped me to some extent, but I wasn't able to fight back due to the religious cult that I grew up in. I was taught that God hated violence and I should "turn the other cheek" and I'll be left alone. Absolutely the worst fvcking advice I ever got. I was bullied severely to the point where I got fairly severe PTSD which I still suffer from to this day. It's better than it was, but it's still there and can be uncontrollable at times.

I'm not a fan of the whole anti-bullying movement in school. It's all natural selection. The strong lead and the weak get eaten alive. To avoid getting eaten alive, you need to fight back. I think everyone needs to learn that. My problem was that I was discouraged from fighting back or I would face consequences. I'm no longer afraid to fight back, and my life and interpersonal relationships have improved because of it.

One thing that I learned VERY early on is not to waste time mourning a girl who doesn't want to date you. I wasted three years missing my first crush. One day I woke up, looked at my sorry ass, and realized that I was closing off other opportunities because I was (what I perceived as) heartbroken. I realized that it was a waste of time, and the world was moving forward while I was still a heartbroken dumbass. She wasn't going to suddenly contact me. She moved schools. She was gone from my life. It took three years to realize that the future I wanted with her wasn't a reality, nor would it ever become a reality. Missing her was a waste of time.[/] I learned that early in life, and I've never changed my position on it. Temporarily mourning the loss of her is fine. We're all human after all. But the sooner we move on, the sooner it gets better.

 

[DJ Novice]

Getting divorced (in my mid 50s) and this forum has enabled me to sleep with some younger and hotter women who have been eager to satisfy me in the bedroom.

Living by myself now has taught me that my independence, peace and financial freedom are the keys to my sustained happiness. Not p*ssy (which is great) but brings only happiness in the moment and usually a whole host of other problems/issues which complicate your life.

The more women I date, the more I believe that the money, energy, time and emotional bandwidth required to keep a woman around and interested often isn’t worth the s*x I get in return and the level of investment from me is almost impossible to maintain.

The more women I sleep with, the more I realise that my desire to sleep with a particular woman reduces over time (more quickly if I see and/or sleep with them frequently) and I always crave s*xually what I don’t already have. It’s like a thirst that can only be satisfied with a different drink each time.

Its frustrating as I have had women who I have been very compatible with but I’ve cheated on them (which I’m not particularly proud of) or ended the relationship.

I’m glad I had children but I think I if more guys understood the reality of marriage (50% chance of divorce, non-existent or poor quality s*x life, boredom, financial cost of raising children and a divorce which is not favourable to men etc) the marriage and birth rates would plummet.