Where was I? ... Oh yes! I remember...
Women want value. People want value actually. They desire what holds the most worth. They chase what seems significant. People love being around significant people. So you must learn to become that person even if you aren't significant, you have to seem like it.
One of my favorite examples is James Bond. He is confident, and cool. He is chill and laid back, but he is a giver and charismatic. Men want to be him and women want to be with him. You have to learn to become that guy.
Learning to become that guy isn't something that you can learn easily. It takes patience and time. Lots of studying and practice. You have to learn to be witty and social. Funny and never dull. Full of life and ready to give of yourself. People respect that guy. You have to also be sly with the ladies. That's what this site promotes, but without saying it.
To learn this stuff you have to study and practice a lot. First learning social conditioning. You have to learn to talk to people and find out what is acceptable in social interactions and what isn't. You have to be quick with your words but still make sense. This just comes from talking with others. Talk to socially successful people. Watch what they say and how they say it. Copy them. Find out what works with your personality and what doesn't.
Next you need to be funny. Women love funny guys. The key word in funny it "F-U-N". Women remember a funny guy. Watch stand up and look at how the jokes are told. Practice telling funny stories. Use the same story multiple times with different people and tweak it until you get the reaction you want.
Witty goes hand in hand with funny. You gotta think quick. To be able to make someone laugh because of your response to their comment is a must. But don't become the entertainer. Have quick comebacks. This comes from being around funny people.
I have learned so much because of the people I hung around. When I was younger, I wanted to be the guy in class that people thought was funny. I watched how they told their jokes. I looked for why certain jokes were funny and why other ones weren't. I didn't get funny until I was in my late middle school years, closer towards high school. Now people constantly tell me I'm funny. They introduce me as the funny guy, which is kinda what I want... Kinda.
Today at work, I was being myself and out of no where this little kid runs up to me and says, "YOU'RE FUN!!" It was cute and hilarious. Made my day. That's what girls should be saying about you, or at least thinking it. Nobody wants to be with the guy who barely talks and is constantly timid. People want to be around that guy who is not afraid to take risks. Be it everyday situations to social events. You want people to remember you.
The next idea on the list is to be confident in yourself. One of the best ways to do this is to look back on your life and look what you've accomplished and what your good at. I'm funny and am an OK artist. I am known to have really good advice and I'm ready and willing to help others. Keep that in the back of your mind. You have to develop that, "I'm The Sh!t" attitude. Don't be conceded. Just remember who you are and remember why others should find you interesting.
Also, confidence comes from experience, so go and experience life. Make mistakes. YOU HAVE TO MAKE MISTAKES!!! I cannot express that enough. People ask questions on this forum as if we have the answers to everything. Yes, we have advice, but life offers the best advice. Get dirty and FAIL. You have to fail. But also take time to meditate on why you failed. Look for ways to improve yourself for next time. Grow!
My last bit of advice is gonna have to be learn to be good with women overall. You can't talk to a girl the way to you talk to your boys. Be a man. Let her know your a man of action and control. Show her through your actions. Women want men. Be one. A real man. I use the term real boy... like in Pinocchio.
You have to be sexual. Women can only tell the difference from you wanting to be just friends and you wanting to date them by the way you sexualize your encounters with them. I change my tone and my topics of conversation to fit a more sexual vibe. She won't know you like her other wise. Be a man and take what you want.
Learning women takes time. Intentionally learn how to interact with women. Practice, practice, practice, practice, practice. You have to DO. Not just read. This is where getting dirty comes into play. Watch movies and look how the men pick up women. Their tones change, their dialogue changes. They are smooth and confident.
All in all, women won't become dependent on you unless you give them a reason to. You have to bring something into their lives that they can't get anywhere else. That's why becoming that great guy is so important. You have a specific charisma that they can't get anywhere else.
Hope this answered your question.
