"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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shaking off the smart-guy image

suaveplayer

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ok guys so im gonna be honest. ive always been really smart. perfectionist. and kinda serious person. so ive been working on my dj skillz and recently when i got to meet mroe ppl, ive had two girls tell me something along the lines of: "i thought you were supposed to be really smart/studious". its good that im beginning to shake off that image, but i think its still hurting me in that the reputation still hangs around ppl who dont know me.

also the thing is i dont mind being smart or studious, its just that people always assume thats the only thing i am.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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intrextrovert

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Background: I'm definitely a smart kid too, could have been the "nerd" that got 100s on everything pretty easy, but I always had what my teachers called an effort problem. Since it came pretty easy to me, i didn't try too much, and so didn't go down that path tho.

Being smart is definitely a good thing, including with image. However, you want to be the smart guy who can get **** done and figure out solutions to (real) problems, not the book nerd that gets 100 on everything (it's good to get good grades, just don't appear like you try too hard for them).

Tips:
-talk a lot more, the image will naturally shake
-don't be seen stressin' over a test/grade, act as if it doesn't really matter/you get it easy, unless you get a real bad grade for you
-Don't be so serious!!!
-Don't be afraid to say dumb stuff for a laugh, if someone gives you **** tell them that's the joke
-it helps if you do stuff outside of school, sports, events, swim, jump off cliffs, w/e you know

Really as you get to know more people, the image shakes easily. The image only builds up because people don't know you and get that stigma, unless of course you really act exactly like your image (doubtful).

Oh, and DONT be the guy/girl who exagerrates how he is so gonna fail the test, especially if you really are a smart guy who gets good grades and everyone knows it. That **** annoys me and others to no end, when some kid that will probably get a 95 says how bad they did on _______. Being dumb does not make you cooler.
 

smoothtalker72

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theres nothing wrong with being the smart guy or the image or studying to get your grades. just dont be the condescending obnoxious smart guy. trust me, in the end being the smart guy pays off. you end up with the great job and great salary and those who made fun of you in the past (jealous ones) end up working for you. but thats beside the point. the point is as long as you're an easy going smart guy people wont have a problem with you and may even respect you for being smart
 

Five To One

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If a woman had the choice between a smart man and and dumb man but were equal in looks which do you think she would choose?

Its the personality that sometimes comes with smart people that is not attractive to women. Make sure you dont have that sterotypical smart nerd personality, either socially awkward or stuck up for being smarter than most.
 

(JJ)

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smoothtalker72 said:
just dont be the condescending obnoxious smart guy.
thats me.

hi there, nice to meet you. lol i need to work on it i think.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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