"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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with all that almost fervent devotion to 007 I decided to watch all the flicks from dr. no to tomorow never dies. not once, but twice.

bond is the master, no doubt about that, but as i had to find out the hard way, a direct imitation of his style is not going to work for a few reasons. but that said, there are numerous treasures to learn from.

1. for coming off too strongly
james bond as we all see, expresses his sexual desires as soon as he sees a woman, in the movie, this was possible probably due to his looks, confidence, and that its really just a movie. james bond never smiles either

the intial approach in real life should be much gentler, as mentioned by numerous other authorities, smile, eye contact .etc

2. learn to flirt like bond...this is extremely helpful and even better in office situations by observing bond and his interactions with moneypenny--especially pierce brosnan, study these and memorize them, develop it into your own game. priceless.

3. how 007 goes for the kiss...another invaluable source of knowledge

4. james bond's masculinity...observe his reactions when bond is critisized by his superiors, in golden eye for example, and in quite a few of the previous flicks. play it cool, with everyone.

5. bond's overcoming of women's barriers, see the "on her majesty's secret service", "goldfinger", and all of the brosnan ones.

7. the punchlines

8. never gets angry--see man with the golden gun with the extremely stupid girl who almost killed bond several times...they end up in bed

9. the importance of an emotional experience, bond suceeds largely due to his partnership with the girl, which is exciting and emotional. most of us would never have that kind of adrenaline rush during a relationship...but something exciting and mutual will always do you good.

10. i tend to be more on the funny side, lots of kino, relaxed, eye contact, humour with a girl...but if i could integrate that into my bond imitation, then damn...all tips welcome on how to control the balance between hot and cold.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It may be a movie but you can still learn something from it. Even though it is a movie does not dismiss the fact that strong male characters can be used as figures or models when trying to look for an example of a strong male.

If your saying the no movie can help you attract women then why do women fall in love with actors in movies?

I think this is a good way to look at the James Bond movies. Next time I watch a Bond film I'll look out for these things.

Another good movie to watch is Fight Club, mainly Brad Pitts character. Another good movie is Marlon Brando in A Street Car Named Desire.
 

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Um, Marlon Brando's character beat his wife and raped her sister. Brad Pitt's character is a lunatic with a self-esteem problem. James Bond would have been caught and executed in real life (what with everyone knowing he's a spy and all).

You can take SOME elements from a movie, but if you try to "become" a character, you're going to fail miserably.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Um, Marlon Brando's character beat his wife and raped her sister. Brad Pitt's character is a lunatic with a self-esteem problem. James Bond would have been caught and executed in real life (what with everyone knowing he's a spy and all).

You can take SOME elements from a movie, but if you try to "become" a character, you're going to fail miserably.
I never said to become the character but mirror some chacteristics. Brad Pitt's character was a lunatic but he was dominant presence to all those around him. Of course in real life James Bond would have been caught and executed, I'm not saying to run around pretending to be a spy just look at the way he interacts with other people.

Marlon Brando did beat his wife and rape the wife's sister but it doesn't change how his character carried himself in the movie.

I'm not saying to do what the people in the movie did but to just take things from them to strengthen your game.

I can see the error in my post, probably because I was so damn tired when I posted that. My bad.
 

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There are good DJ qualities in some movie characters. To try and adopt all of them is foolishness.
 

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Originally posted by shiningshadow
There are good DJ qualities in some movie characters. To try and adopt all of them is foolishness.
Serious foolishness is still abundant at the top of the corporate ladder. Word spread fast about me talking all gangster(mafia) at work and even the guys gf's mentioned it to me at the bar later.

Good DJ qualities, yes of course. Stupid ones as well. **** look at mr. boring, napolean Dynamite, girls still loved the movie and he still gets rave reviews. Still though, I would hate myself if I was a perma burn out like he seems to be.

You can always ACT like your favourite actor, you can always ACT like your favourite character.

It takes a mentally challenged person to TRULY BECOME that person in life. Since they would have so many shortfalls and would be aluding to falseness and begin to create their own reality.
 
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