Shady Behaviour From Soon To Be Ex

[soulforge]

Ok so i am pulling the plug on my current girlfriend of 4 months.. had some great times, but waaay too much drama and Bs to deal with.. will be dumping her by text tomorrow


Anyhow something got me thinking today.. when ever this chick stopped at my house on the weekend, she would never log onto her whatsapp.. I can see from my whatsapp her online and offline status...

During the week she would be online all the time.. but while with me, she would never log on..

When she pulls her phone out.. i can clearly see her whatsapp has 15 sometimes 20 messages waiting to be read..

I found this really strange.. if i am in her company, if freinds msgd me on whatsapp, i would just check, and quickly reply back

So why is this chick avoiding using her whatsapp around me.. my guess is, she is getting messages from other dudes, and she does not want them to see her online, when she is at my place

When she leaves my house, then she logs back onto whatsapp.. one day i questioned her on this in a jokey manner..

And she told me, she thinks its rude to be chatting to people while she is with me.. this is true, i kinda get that..

But she does not even look and check who the msgs are from..

My gut is telling me, the messages she is getting are from dudes.. and she feels bad about chatting to them in my company


Also is a girl having lots of male friends a serious red flag? This chick had lots of dude friends.. she would constantly mention knowing this dude and that dude

She even claimed to know some drug dealers... also her son plays football, so she has got know alot of guys from the football clubs


She even admitted that some of the guys, on her whatsapp are dudes from football..

One of them called her on her mobile phone, while i was there.. and she did not take the call..

I asked her why she avoided taking the call, she claimed it was some dude from football.. and he would be chatting for ages..


How do you guys feel about girlfriends having lots of male friends??

 

[goodasitgets]

Never turns out good with a giirlfriend having a lot of male friends. How do you know who is a friend and who she wants to bang? Just use those girls to bang not taking them seriously for a serious relationship. She can't be too serious about you with all those male friends.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

When she leaves my house, then she logs back onto whatsapp.. one day i questioned her on this in a jokey manner..

And she told me, she thinks its rude to be chatting to people while she is with me..

There's that intrinsically feminine talent for plausible deniability. Bet she didn't bat an eyelash as she said it either.

Also is a girl having lots of male friends a serious red flag? This chick had lots of dude friends.. she would constantly mention knowing this dude and that dude. She even claimed to know some drug dealers... also her son plays football, so she has got know alot of guys from the football clubs

Yes. Your mistake was making this fine piece of exceptional human material into a "girlfriend". If this whole post isn't a troll thread, you really need to learn how to screen or get more women so that you don't tie yourself for the long term to biohazardous waste.

 

[soulforge]

To be honest, i only realised over a month or two how many man friends she had.. it bothered me, but i didnt want to kick up a fuss about it..

I really need to vet the shiit out of girls before getting serious with them..

 

[soulforge]

And no she did not bat an eye lash when she gave that old excuse.. i didn't really believe her tho

 

[miketan70]

Always take enough time to find out things about any girl and I also agree that woman with lots of male friends is not a good thing. The same goes for a man with female friends.

 

[Zion]

I don't get this boards' obsession with women that have male friends. On one hand I don't think a man and a woman can be friends if there isn't at least some level of attraction coming from at least one party, but then again who cares?

A beautiful woman will always be surrounded by men and most will land in the friendzone. So yeah, she'll have male friends. But if your insecurities get the best of you and you start getting jealous like that then you have bigger issues to worry about.

She may be fvcking half the dudes on whatapp or she genuinely may think it's rude to use it while with you. Either way you have no control over it so I honestly don't understand why you'd even bother thinking about it.

Oh, and speaking of rude, breaking up over text? are you serious?

 

[stevo]

My oh my.

The more we preach improvement, the more we start to misunderstand improvement.

Your girl is not a dog or a teddy bear. SHE CAN DO WHATEVER THE FCUK SHE WANTS TO DO.

You want to dump her cos of that? that wont be very smart.

If a girl comes to my place and checks her phone or continuously respond to messages or calls, she wont be coming back for too long.

Your insecurity is off the roof.


With your insecurity oozing all over the place, her BS level would go up.

The issue is not the girl bro, it's how you handle the girl.

Don't lose a good thing ignoring your opportunity for self improvement.


How to improve?

Do not ever question a girl about her phone. Who the fcuk cares what she does with her phone. Why should you care what she does with her phone?
MEN WOULD CONTACT HER TILL SHE DIES! if she's dating you or dating someone else. Even while you're drilling her, orbiters would be thinking of how to buy her flowers and sweep her off her feet.

If she checks her phone or not. Do not bring it up. She is a functioning human who can make her own decisions. You decide what you wont put up with and enforce it.

Keep things light. Go out have fun, fcuk her. Give her days apart, repeat.

Relationships are not supposed to be serious/intense/stressful neither is it supposed to be one person telling you what you can and cannot do.