Shadow of the AFC: "I want it back!!!"

[neobrood]

Ok... I'm the guy who posted these threads...

On why people "LOVE" you
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=54646

My first ever post on this site about a girl who "hypnotized" me...
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=52891

A conversation with my brother awhile back:

I've been givin advice to my brother on how to succeed with women and all... (without mentioning this site)

I explained to him some DJ rules and he said...

"wheredya get that crap? from the internet? I don't trust all that internet BS"

And then later on, he said something like...

"You know what, you should see a psychiatrist. Not too long ago, you always looked down and hated the world so much, and now, why are you so hyper and so confident? No offense, but you should see a psychiatrist"

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Now nuff of the background info. Last night, my brother confronted me again about why the hell am I acting SO DIFFERENT from the "me" i was before. That why am I so positive and upbeat?!?
At one point, he was in a "near-cry" mode. He was tellin me that he really missed the old me. The hater. The guy who would just say "fvkk the world!!!" He even said that its worrying him big time. I kinda pitied that poor guy.

He just wished I'd be the hater again and it doesnt "look good" for me to be always smiling and being positive and flirting with chicks... and getting out there and socializing with more people. He said that he doesn't like that I seem to be "going a different road and leaving him behind."

Then I tried to explain to him my theory on "Love"... (See link to above thread I posted) But he called that theory as "BS"

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And 2 nights ago, Diana (the girl who "hypnotized" me... name was changed to protect identity) phoned me. The 1 month no- talking-to-one-another period is officially over...

We had something like 15 mins of small talk... (I decided to talk to her cuz I decided to keep her as a friend. She still is a good gateway to other possibilities...)

then she said: "Why is it that you seem to be hiding your true self?!?"

"What true self?"

"You seem like you know alot of people. I don't know exactly what is your true personality. You are very HARD TO READ." (Note: She knew me when I was still the biggest hater in the world)

"What do you mean?"

"I dunno. You sound different. I thought you don't have friends in the world and I'm your only friend? wtf?!?" (Note: During one of my past AFC conversations with her a long time ago, I TOLD HER THAT!!! Which obviously showed signs of NEEDINESS...)

"And then what?"

"You know, I'm worried... etc... etc... etc... [*keeps goin around and around in circles*]"

"Ok... gotta go"

 

[OldNumb3r7]

Sounds like its great youve changed for the better man. I cant say enough about this site. What are some of the things that helped you most? Hit me on AIM if you want to discuss. Same name as on here. Peace

 

[King Rat]

I agree, good on ya!
I really think you should take another look at any other 'friends' you had before this and figure whether you want them around. If your brother is a prime example of thier reactions, I would be extra careful. A friend of mine was improving himself (not with this site) was doin a lot better, and when I saw him next, was doing lousy again. His 'friends' had done an 'intervention', drugged him up and just generally sh4t on his life.
I'm not too worried about your brother; you're right, it is a pity. I know that a lot of this may sound a little paranoid, but just keep it in mind.
That being said, keep going on toward DJhood! keep us posted on your future steps!

 

[WaterTiger]

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
~~~Mark Twain

Of COURSE your brother wants you back as "The Hater". You were miserable like that! His life is miserable and he want you to be miserable too because HE doesn't want to change. Everything is "BS" because he enjoys being miserable, He doesn't have to do a damn thing but sit on his ass and WHIIIIIIINE about how rotten everything is!

You are doing GREAT! Keep it up! DON'T go back.

 

[JT47319]

You can come up with a routine/story about how you've gone through an emotional journey to be a better person. Tell an emotion based story (fact ridden ones just bore girls) about how you've experienced a paradigm shift, enjoy life more, love having more friends, and love women (and sex) period.

That we are all dynamic people on a journey that knows no ends. That she (or however) can be same old friend or join you on that journey.

 

[iqqi]

i wouldn't get too carried away, men. look original poster, (neobrood), maybe there were some qualities about the old you that were worth holding onto. why have you changed, and what got you there? this new you may be superficial and phony.

stop hating on the kid brother. who else knew the old brood better? all kid bros secretly adore and idolize their older bros. this one may really have lost his hero. if you used to have a fcuk the world mantra, and hated the materialism and superficiality of the world, and now you are all ice cream and butterflies, well...who could blame the kid?

have you seen casablanca? bogie is idolized due to his fcuk the world exterior. he was real as hell, no happy phoniness.

i'm not saying a better outlook is bad. i'm just saying evaluate where it came from, and what you gave up to get it.

i think growth is good, but changing identities is not.

 

[Jvesti]

It's called "crabs in a barrel". One crab tries to climb out of the barrel another will try to latch on, then another, and eventually they'll all fall back.

You are making your brother feel extremely insecure. I suggest you encourage him to check certain material maybe the sosuave or a book you've been reading. Don't be surprized if it does nothing some people are just too weak and ingrained in their ways to change.

I suggest you avoid your brother, also avoid any negative influences. They can get to you in very "subtle" ways. Their vibes they put out in a room can even be harmful to you. I have to do this with my family myself.

I suggest you find a social group condusive to your new way of life. Who you spend your time around have a significant effect on your behavior in direct and indirect ways.

 

[neobrood]

suggest you encourage him to check certain material maybe the sosuave or a book you've been reading.

He suspects me getting those ideas from the internet... (including sosuave)...

according to him, I'm just swallowing a whole hell of BS from the internet. Cuz the internet is full of BS. All those seduction websites (including sosuave) are just pure bs. Getting women is not supposed to be a game of skill. Comparing getting women and improving in a sport or hobby is complete BS. You learn how to drive, how to draw, how to play basketball, how to get good in counter-strike, but you do not "learn" how to pickup women. Cuz picking up women is supposed to be NATURAL and you're supposed to BE YOURSELF.

Who you spend your time around have a significant effect on your behavior in direct and indirect ways.

True... I noticed that after spending time with family, when I get out there, I kinda feel AFC. Like... wtf happened to that "confidence"? But after awhile out there, I get it back...

if you used to have a fcuk the world mantra, and hated the materialism and superficiality of the world, and now you are all ice cream and butterflies, well...who could blame the kid?

Um... I didnt only hate materialism and superficiality of the world. But I remember hating a lot of people... as in TOO HELL WITH THEM!!! One time... I was even makin a "hit list"... for the fun of it... and fantasizing shooting him in the head or killing em in a really brutal way...

I used to hate society (as in to hell with it!!! Nuke the whole world!!!). Cuz I was oppressed by it for many years... High school reject and family reject. Damn... all my relatives never gave a fvck at all...

Some poems (or u may call em rants) I wrote when I was 18...

WARNING: HIGH LEVELS OF HATEFUL CONTENT

Diary of the Anti-Social (Part1)
Diary of the Anti-Social (Part 2)
The Shlt Named LIFE

 

[Jvesti]

Getting girls is a natural thing. The dudes baggin chicks left and right aren't doing that seduction bull**** their not practicing gay patterns. They are plain and simply in touch with being men, in touch with their testosterone.

They don't think, they just are adept at listening to their instincts on how to go about things. You see being a man is socially conditioned out of us ever since we were little tots. It's not anger management therapy, it's testosterone management therapy.

Go to anger management all your life. Then you come to find out that not being angry is what is hindering you in your goals. Then try getting out of the loop. It wouldn't be easy to just listen to you instincts right away would it?

But in essense we have testosterone management therapy throughout society. Especially a certain few of us, ask them to immidatedly get in touch with your maleness/testosterone. You'll find it difficult and your brain interjecting on your feelings constantly. That's why you have to start having faith and confidence in where your testosterone takes you. But it is possible if you listen to your sex emotion instead of trying to overthink everything.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Just keep em guessing. The more they guess the more they keep thinking about YOU! Once women figure you out you are no longer a challenge.

Secondly; who has time for haters these days..especially when your life has opened up to so many possiblilties. Just think of it now...you can go to the corner market and meet a fine babe and get her digits and later sex her up...you can go to a club or dance and meet a girl and get with her now with your new found skills.

You are free of the bonds that held you down and people can be like a bucket of crabs...when one tries to crawl out of the bucket the other crabs will pull em back down.

you dig!

 

[neobrood]

you can go to the corner market and meet a fine babe and get her digits and later sex her up...you can go to a club or dance and meet a girl and get with her now with your new found skills.

um... I'm not yet at that level yet...

Im still... in training...

 

[neobrood]

ART CLASS: Too little light, too much shadow...

Yep... I think I mentioned somewhere here that I'm goin to this art class... and guess what...

SHE WAS THERE!!! That girl who broke my heart...
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=52891


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After the class, and after everybody has gone, she approached me... we had something like 30 mins of small talk. And then boom. She confronted me again about me acting "scarier" and seem to be acting "crazy".

I know what she meant. I was being more vocal and I was talkin to more people in the class... Um... even successfully got an email of some other chick. She saw that happen in front of her eyes.

Later on, I tried to experiment some kino on her... in some kind of last ditch attempt to win her back. She gave me this terrified look in her eyes. And ploop... I was back to AFC mode again.

My voice... I dunno... became that "dead" tone that she knew... That voice I had when she knew me as a hater.

Wtf... as if she had some magic spell that turns people into AFC. That "magic spell" didn't wear off for awhile.

When I met with some new friends I made in the cafeteria, they noticed the tone of my voice... it sounded depressed. "you okay, man?"

 

[JT47319]

Re: ART CLASS: Too little light, too much shadow...

Originally posted by neobrood

After the class, and after everybody has gone, she approached me... we had something like 30 mins of small talk. And then boom. She confronted me again about me acting "scarier" and seem to be acting "crazy".
[/i]

Dude, why are you sounding scary and crazy to people? That's far different from simply being outgoing, confident and alpha.

Ask a Natural how you're coming off and how you're projecting yourself. Kino is used to induce pleasure and relaxation in the target, not freak them out.

You may simply be taking an extreme swing from being super shy to super scary obnoxious and later settle into the sweet middle spot. Just the right amount of being loud, outgoing, and extroverted.

 

[neobrood]

Dude, why are you sounding scary and crazy to people?

To people who KNEW THE OLD ME...

to people who knew the hater...

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the irony of it... They are more afraid of the DJ than the hater.

But the people who I met recently arent scared. They even comfortable with me and talk to me as if I knew em for quite some time.