"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sh!t Tests In Relation To IL

Sinistar

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So what is your take on sh!t tests related to her IL:

1.) She throws these tests and her IL still the same, she's just getting comfortable enough to start testing?

2.) She throws these tests because her IL is dropping, now she's trying to get you to prove yourself and raise it?

3.) She throws these tests for any Random/Irrational/Emotional externally influenced reason and her current IL is more or less irrelevant however it will be greatly influenced by our response?

4.) Other?

Any thoughts or observations?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ricky

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Originally posted by Sinistar
So what is your take on sh!t tests related to her IL:

1.) She throws these tests and her IL still the same, she's just getting comfortable enough to start testing?

2.) She throws these tests because her IL is dropping, now she's trying to get you to prove yourself and raise it?

3.) She throws these tests for any Random/Irrational/Emotional externally influenced reason and her current IL is more or less irrelevant however it will be greatly influenced by our response?

4.) Other?

Any thoughts or observations?
I think women test all the time. They do it maybe even subconsciously.

The thing is women need to know if you have backbone. My ex and her mom were talking one day when we are at lunch, and her mom even mentioned that it seemed like I had backbone.

I don't know what the hell she was referring to when she said it, or how it applied to me to be honest. I'm sure it probably had to do with something about one of her ex boyfriends.

What we need to do is make a list of common tests.
 

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I agree, swinggcat is THE source for the meta-frame, I learned that after meeting up w/ the guys at the Boston Lair.
 
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