Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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sh!t test?

49au

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Kind of on the fence about how to respond to this girl so any thoughts are appreciated.


cliff notes: smoking hot (easy 9) 22yo, been out with her a couple of times (lots of kino and making out both times), talked on the phone and had some text and email exchanges. Always light/fun/flirty. This is over the course of about 4 weeks. I met her online (she contacted me).

She has showed high IL up to this point. Both of us have been out of town and busy otherwise I think we would've seen each other once or twice more.

Anyway, Friday I contacted her about meeting up early this week, she replied back pretty quickly and suggested something. I said "let's do it" and then made a little joke. No response. She has a good sense of humor so I didn't think I made her mad, but just in case she was PMSing or something I sent a follow up that said "I was just kidding :)"

Didn't hear anything back all weekend (and I sent nothing further), until this morning when she texts me asking if I have my costume for tomorrow night (a continuation of my joke).

Maybe I'm reading way too much into this, but is it weird that she never confirmed/responded and then texts me a few days later just assuming that we are going out?

I'm about to go out of town again and really would like to see her (hoping I can f*ck her this time) but I'm thinking it would be best to just tell her playfully that I never heard back from her so I made other plans. If she was a 6 and not a 9, I wouldn't even be thinking about it.

Am I thinking about this too much? She is not my only plate but she is definitely the hottest one and I don't want to make things too easy for her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Looks like she is spinning plates with another dude or something like that.
May be Emotionally using you when ever she wants you.
be unavailable and act busy
 

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I have zero doubt she has other plates, don't really have a problem with it as I just met the chick. I have been doing that (unavailable/busy), for example I've never suggested or agreed to see her on a weekend even though she offered. Just curious if I'm going a little too far thinking that I should just tell her I made other plans in this instance.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The joke was that the place she was inviting me to was a lounge that did a circus freak show on Tuesday nights, I said something like "Let's do it. You'll fit right in :p" Didn't think it was a big deal, we have teased each other like that since the first meeting and she dishes it out just as much as I do.

Anyway, I went with my gut and told her that I didn't hear back from her so I had made other plans, then said I was free on Thursday if she wanted to do something. The text was humorous and I didn't sound bitter at all. That was last night and she hasn't responded as of yet.

I'm going to Mexico for a great white shark cage dive next week, she's really interested in that so I will stay NC until I get back and then email her some pictures or video from it, to resume contact in an interesting way. If I don't hear anything back I guess I'll just have to write this one off.

Was mainly just trying to get opinions on whether I was wrong to think that she shouldn't have just texted me assuming we were going when she never confirmed with me a few days prior.
 
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