"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
sh!t test
- Thread starter Pierce
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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But yeah, getting angry and pressuring usually doesn't work out for me. Usually it's just ignore and continue, for example if she suddenly refuses to hug or whatever. Some of the best seducers I've seen were always going "haha yeah, stupid grin, continue", no matter what she said.
It's like handling your 5 year old cousin. They're mostly being nice, but sometimes they come up with the most ridiculous things... but you know they can't bullsh!t you
You know girls are crazy. So whatever they say, it's not really important, you just continue with your plan. (no rape of course, haha)
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Pierce said:
You are in an LTR of over a year - there should not be any sh1t tests if you have a good relationship.
You don't have a good one though, but you are too much of a pvssy to realize it or do anything about it.
WC2
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You my friend either have not been in a LTR long enough to know, or simply you have been ignorant to this very fact :The Assistant said:
Women test us constantly.
On dates.
In LTRs.
In Marriage.
In old age.
In death.
It is what makes a relationship, a relationship. Women challenge us to become better men. In a sense, it's what keeps us in line.
It is the ONLY reason I would ever dedicate my life to another woman.
Other than that, I could get along fine being single.
Every sh!t test is different but if I were to follow a rule of thumb, it would be to stick to your principles.
If she asks you to do something that goes against your principles you have always stood for, obviously you're telling her NO.
If she asks you to bend for her with no positive for you, it is obviously a NO.
If she asks you to do something for her and she will do something in return, TREAD CAREFULLY.
Women are always testing us at all angle to find our weaknesses. And boy do they know them. It's our job as men to keep these weaknesses in check so she doesn't slip into our cracks and tear us apart from the inside.
Don't mix up weaknesses and imperfections. Imperfections are minor faults we all have that sometimes make a relationship grow stronger.
This may be a tendency to say certain words in a funny way, or a slight tick you may have (biting your nails, etc).
Weaknesses however are very important faults that we know we need to improve as men.
These may be jealousy towards other men your woman may talk to, or a lack of ability to obtain financial superiority in the face of other men (just to name a few).
This is why women test us.
To improve us subconsciously.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
They'll push and push to see what you'll let them do. If you give in on things, outwardly they'll act happy, but inside they'll hate you for it (I actually heard this from a woman).
They WANT to be put in their place.
And the previous poster is right- women do this all throughout life, no matter how close you are. Heck, my mom does it with my dad.
Agree with all of what you said.WC2 said:
But sh*t tests even in death?
OP, wake up bro.
This girl is doing your head in, and the truth came that you are only having s*x a couple of times a month...
Geriatric married couples have s*x more often than that.
Either stand up for yourself and let her know who is the boss, or end it and move on.
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It should be let known by YOU, the MAN, that any kind of shyt testing behavior simply won't be allowed - if she doesn't like it, let her walk (funny thing is, they never walk if they actually do like you enough to be committed to you).
By the way, I take the meaning of the phrase "shyt test" to mean that a girl is testing you and she knows she's doing.
If my girl tests me without knowing she's actually doing it, I would set her in line nicely and that would be it.
I don't understand you guys....why would you EVER put up with anything that isn't positive if you are COMMITTING your HEART and your DYCK to just ONE girl???