"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sh!t test
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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But yeah, getting angry and pressuring usually doesn't work out for me. Usually it's just ignore and continue, for example if she suddenly refuses to hug or whatever. Some of the best seducers I've seen were always going "haha yeah, stupid grin, continue", no matter what she said.
It's like handling your 5 year old cousin. They're mostly being nice, but sometimes they come up with the most ridiculous things... but you know they can't bullsh!t you
You know girls are crazy. So whatever they say, it's not really important, you just continue with your plan. (no rape of course, haha)
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Pierce said:
You are in an LTR of over a year - there should not be any sh1t tests if you have a good relationship.
You don't have a good one though, but you are too much of a pvssy to realize it or do anything about it.
WC2
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You my friend either have not been in a LTR long enough to know, or simply you have been ignorant to this very fact :The Assistant said:
Women test us constantly.
On dates.
In LTRs.
In Marriage.
In old age.
In death.
It is what makes a relationship, a relationship. Women challenge us to become better men. In a sense, it's what keeps us in line.
It is the ONLY reason I would ever dedicate my life to another woman.
Other than that, I could get along fine being single.
Every sh!t test is different but if I were to follow a rule of thumb, it would be to stick to your principles.
If she asks you to do something that goes against your principles you have always stood for, obviously you're telling her NO.
If she asks you to bend for her with no positive for you, it is obviously a NO.
If she asks you to do something for her and she will do something in return, TREAD CAREFULLY.
Women are always testing us at all angle to find our weaknesses. And boy do they know them. It's our job as men to keep these weaknesses in check so she doesn't slip into our cracks and tear us apart from the inside.
Don't mix up weaknesses and imperfections. Imperfections are minor faults we all have that sometimes make a relationship grow stronger.
This may be a tendency to say certain words in a funny way, or a slight tick you may have (biting your nails, etc).
Weaknesses however are very important faults that we know we need to improve as men.
These may be jealousy towards other men your woman may talk to, or a lack of ability to obtain financial superiority in the face of other men (just to name a few).
This is why women test us.
To improve us subconsciously.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
They'll push and push to see what you'll let them do. If you give in on things, outwardly they'll act happy, but inside they'll hate you for it (I actually heard this from a woman).
They WANT to be put in their place.
And the previous poster is right- women do this all throughout life, no matter how close you are. Heck, my mom does it with my dad.
Agree with all of what you said.WC2 said:
But sh*t tests even in death?
OP, wake up bro.
This girl is doing your head in, and the truth came that you are only having s*x a couple of times a month...
Geriatric married couples have s*x more often than that.
Either stand up for yourself and let her know who is the boss, or end it and move on.
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It should be let known by YOU, the MAN, that any kind of shyt testing behavior simply won't be allowed - if she doesn't like it, let her walk (funny thing is, they never walk if they actually do like you enough to be committed to you).
By the way, I take the meaning of the phrase "shyt test" to mean that a girl is testing you and she knows she's doing.
If my girl tests me without knowing she's actually doing it, I would set her in line nicely and that would be it.
I don't understand you guys....why would you EVER put up with anything that isn't positive if you are COMMITTING your HEART and your DYCK to just ONE girl???