Hey folks, first time poster here. Sorry for the long rant...
So I've been "seeing" this younger girl (25)...3 dates actually. The first date was on the night I met her solo at a brewpub, after chatting up a while. Went well, kiss closed, and so on. 2nd date was initiated by her about 2 weeks later (we were both out of town awhile). More kissing, but no further escalation. 3rd date was dinner and movie at my place. Heavy makeout, plenty of groping, some t*t sucking, but nothing under the pants and I stopped when she said no. Didn't want to come off as too aggressive or a rapist, yaknow?
Anyway, that's the backstory. Up until now she has always been receptive, answers texts (she hardly ever uses the phone--by the way do any young girls even know how to make a phone call?), and never shied away from kissing or touching. Since the 3rd date, however, things have been markedly different. She takes forever to respond, never initiates, and the two times we have set things up had to be "tentative" because of possible conflicts (she has a strange job). Both times didn't happen.
(I'm getting to the point, promise). So this last week I invited her to come see a band with me. She responded "Sounds good, I may have to work that night, but if not I'm down." I said, "Cool, let me know. Doors open at 8." THe whole day goes by and I don't hear a thing from her. Before I leave home I text "Leaving in 10. You coming?" Again, I hear nothing. So I head out to the club - about a 35 minute drive. A couple of blocks down from the club I stop at a shop to buy some cigs, and guess who is there with a guy? Yep. I walk up to the counter, buy what I need, and walk out. She doesn't know I saw her, I can pretty much guarantee that since the only time I looked at her she was looking down.
About 10 minutes later I get a response text to my earlier one: "Maybe. I have a guest in town that I'm showing around. What time do they start?" I said "Around 9. At least stop by and have a drink." She says "I'll try. I'm in the neighborhood but tied up." And that was the last contact. I have decided to stop all contact.
My question to the experienced members: does this sound like a sh*t test, severe lowering of IL, or just another dude. If another dude, then why play it down as if it's something she's "tied up" with? She just keeping me around as an option?
WWDJD?
Thanks for the great stuff guys. Always get a smile on when I stop by here.
So I've been "seeing" this younger girl (25)...3 dates actually. The first date was on the night I met her solo at a brewpub, after chatting up a while. Went well, kiss closed, and so on. 2nd date was initiated by her about 2 weeks later (we were both out of town awhile). More kissing, but no further escalation. 3rd date was dinner and movie at my place. Heavy makeout, plenty of groping, some t*t sucking, but nothing under the pants and I stopped when she said no. Didn't want to come off as too aggressive or a rapist, yaknow?
Anyway, that's the backstory. Up until now she has always been receptive, answers texts (she hardly ever uses the phone--by the way do any young girls even know how to make a phone call?), and never shied away from kissing or touching. Since the 3rd date, however, things have been markedly different. She takes forever to respond, never initiates, and the two times we have set things up had to be "tentative" because of possible conflicts (she has a strange job). Both times didn't happen.
(I'm getting to the point, promise). So this last week I invited her to come see a band with me. She responded "Sounds good, I may have to work that night, but if not I'm down." I said, "Cool, let me know. Doors open at 8." THe whole day goes by and I don't hear a thing from her. Before I leave home I text "Leaving in 10. You coming?" Again, I hear nothing. So I head out to the club - about a 35 minute drive. A couple of blocks down from the club I stop at a shop to buy some cigs, and guess who is there with a guy? Yep. I walk up to the counter, buy what I need, and walk out. She doesn't know I saw her, I can pretty much guarantee that since the only time I looked at her she was looking down.
About 10 minutes later I get a response text to my earlier one: "Maybe. I have a guest in town that I'm showing around. What time do they start?" I said "Around 9. At least stop by and have a drink." She says "I'll try. I'm in the neighborhood but tied up." And that was the last contact. I have decided to stop all contact.
My question to the experienced members: does this sound like a sh*t test, severe lowering of IL, or just another dude. If another dude, then why play it down as if it's something she's "tied up" with? She just keeping me around as an option?
WWDJD?
Thanks for the great stuff guys. Always get a smile on when I stop by here.
