sh!T test in process... Help?

[wunnaBsmooth]

Ok guys
Saturday, I Went out a 19 yr old chic who I've been hanging out with for a few weeks. We'll call her hb8.. Anyway, We had a killer time! She even sent a ton of texts that she enjoyed herself so much that she didn't care that she had to be at work only 4 hrs after we left each other.
So everything seems cool and we're kind of texting back and forth for the next couple of days.
Then her friend starts talking smack to me and telling a bunch of stuff about the HB8 and how she's not being honest with me and is "talking" to a bunch of guys.

So then the texts just got ugly:
HB8: questionaire: press this number if you think this of me, or press that number if you want to do that with me...
Wunnabsmooth: So I chose two and sent it back. (Cute and I'd FVck ya)..lol
HB8:Why you always texting my girl?
After a long pause To consider what THAT was all about.
Wunnabsmooth: You want some of this?" (not wanting to be Alpha'd by some jerk who might have picked up her phone.
HB8: ha ha ha JK JK lol
wunnabsmooth: That's some f'd up sh!t... You sure you're stable?
HB8: lol my bad just a joke geez
(admittedly, I lost control a little bit here...lol)
Wunnabsmooth: You have no i-fn-dea how bad of a day I've had! not funny!
HB8: OMG I'm so fvcking sry....... ****!
Wunnabsmooth: Wow... that was a mouthful from such a little girl...lol
hb8: Yea wat ev...
Wunnabsmooth: You can't alpha me via text.....
HB8: u fn yelled and me I didn't even do ne thing I'm sry didn't kno u had a bad day my fn bad!

She goes on to warn me that i do not want to get on her bad side and THAT is a promise....
As of last night, I was only getting one word replies to texts or she would send the most absurd picture mail.
Today, we haven't contacted each other at all.

It's not the fact of it ending (if that's what's happening) that's causing me the most grief it's the suddenness of it... What is your guys take? Sh!t test or what? How should I play this out?
My backup plate for this weekend is out of town, so I'm kind of flying low this weekend.....

Thanks

 

[sodbuster]

BAIL, this isn't a s test;this is a psycho who thinks it's ok toplay games with you. Let you know she's a bit(h and she's proud of it. Hit and quit at most-it wouldn't be worth my time to even do that.

 

[piranha45]

Stop holding text conversations with your plates; you're engaging in pointless, unnecessary drama. Talk with your plates in person, or not at all. Use phones to facilitate RL meetings, and no more than that.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

Sod: too funny... I laughed hard when I read that!
Piranha : I was thinking the same thing, but got kind of caught up in it. Seems that texting is the preferred method of contact with the younger crowd.
There was a lesson in here for me to be learned anyway. I had a feeling I was over-texting.... D@mn!

 

[speed dawg]

I had a feeling I was over-texting

No way.

 

[mikeraw]

Bail dude.

And don't drop terms like "alpha" on girls.

And where's your age?

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

This is the Mature Man forum. As a mature man, I have a job, own businesses, have a farm and horses to upkeep, etc. read RESPONSIBILITIES. Texting all day is for kids with nothing better to do and no responsibilities. You don't game 19 year olds by sinking to their maturity level. Most 19 year olds' heads are hopelessly full of sh!t anyway, just fvck them.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

Hey Phoenix. I have everything you describe PLUS. So I'm not coming from a mid-twenties dumba$$ perspective. I lived with a chic for 7 years and have full custody of our two kids. own my home and have a brand new G6 GT and an FZ6. I don't dress like a slob in last years BS, and take care of myself with working out/running and eating properly.
My job does allow me some time to spend doing stupid sh!t like texting and the fact that my daughter still lives at home gives me some time to entertain that during the evening too. BUT.... I get your point. And I agree they are NOT mature enough to handle a real relationship. So it's just bang 'em and wait till the next time ya bang 'em..lol

 

[decades]

if you are really 41 and she is 19, make sure that tonight, before retiring, you say a prayer to YOUR Lord, thanking him for the precious moments you got to spend with a 19 year old hottie.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

Update. Plate 3 comes to the rescue! We're be chilling at a club tonight.....
Screw the 19 yr old phsyco drama.............. For now anyway.....lol
Thanks for your input guys....

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

Persistant: I have no reason to lie about my age on here. I AM more "mature" age-wise than a lot of you guys here. I just don't look my age.
And a good portion of you guys have WAY better play with chics than I do... Which is why I come here so often.

I'm not 100% sold that the deal is done with this young chic, but I'm going to play it as if it is......

 

[decades]

Persistant: I have no reason to lie about my age on here. I AM more "mature" age-wise than a lot of you guys here. I just don't look my age.
And a good portion of you guys have WAY better play with chics than I do... Which is why I come here so often.

I'm not 100% sold that the deal is done with this young chic, but I'm going to play it as if it is......

don't misread my post. if you are getting play with 19 year old hotties at your age you are doing a lot right. just don't get "played" by them because odds are that's what she is.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

don't misread my post. if you are getting play with 19 year old hotties at your age you are doing a lot right. just don't get "played" by them because odds are that's what she is.

Very cool! Thanks for clarifying that.
Actually, I get a lot more action now than I did when I was in High school or college..... Thanks to "The Game" opening my eyes and this board and it's members helping guide me!

 

[slaog]

There could be 2 reasons why shes gone cool with you. She could be angry which is good or she might have seen an AFC side of you which turned her off you. Your overreaction was your AFC coming out.


The best way to deal with it is to not make it effect you in any way. This will show her you're not angry with her and also that you're not too worried about losing her either.


Regarding the age... its only as important as you think it is. Some say you should thank god you're with a 19 year old. Thats an AFC attitude. If you're DJ enough she'll be thanking god for being with you.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

Sloag,
You're right. I saw her breifly yesterday (I was trying to avoid the scenerio too) but she did stop and talk to me. It was brief, but she could have easily kept on walking. My guess is that she was trying to gauge my feelings for her and how she's acting.
I'm 100% sure that she's mad at me, because she's told me that much. She percieves that I yelled at her and doesn't think she deserved that treatment.
I KNEW I was displaying AFC behaviour when I allowed my emotions to guide my responses instead of taking a more controlled DJ approach and not letting it get to me. Or more to the point, not allowing her to see that her weird game was having any effect on me. Regardless of what i really thought or felt. I shouldn't have been taking anything about her too seriously anyway.
Considering we are, do you think I should continue to communicate good morning texts as always, or ditch that too? I DO NOT Flood her inbox with messages begging to get back to square one.
If I change MY behaviour won't that be a sign that she IS effecting me? or is that the A$$ smack she needs right now?

BTW... As I see her now with this latest attitude craziness, I don't see her as an HB8.... she's definately dropped to a 7 maybe a 6.5in my eyes.

like a surgeon who can't restart someone's heart, maybe I'm getting ready to call TOD on this one....lol

Thanks

 

[cordoncordon]

Ok guys
Saturday, I Went out a 19 yr old chic who I've been hanging out with for a few weeks. We'll call her hb8.. Anyway, We had a killer time! She even sent a ton of texts that she enjoyed herself so much that she didn't care that she had to be at work only 4 hrs after we left each other.
So everything seems cool and we're kind of texting back and forth for the next couple of days.
Then her friend starts talking smack to me and telling a bunch of stuff about the HB8 and how she's not being honest with me and is "talking" to a bunch of guys.

So then the texts just got ugly:
HB8: questionaire: press this number if you think this of me, or press that number if you want to do that with me...
Wunnabsmooth: So I chose two and sent it back. (Cute and I'd FVck ya)..lol
HB8:Why you always texting my girl?
After a long pause To consider what THAT was all about.
Wunnabsmooth: You want some of this?" (not wanting to be Alpha'd by some jerk who might have picked up her phone.
HB8: ha ha ha JK JK lol
wunnabsmooth: That's some f'd up sh!t... You sure you're stable?
HB8: lol my bad just a joke geez
(admittedly, I lost control a little bit here...lol)
Wunnabsmooth: You have no i-fn-dea how bad of a day I've had! not funny!
HB8: OMG I'm so fvcking sry....... ****!
Wunnabsmooth: Wow... that was a mouthful from such a little girl...lol
hb8: Yea wat ev...
Wunnabsmooth: You can't alpha me via text.....
HB8: u fn yelled and me I didn't even do ne thing I'm sry didn't kno u had a bad day my fn bad!

She goes on to warn me that i do not want to get on her bad side and THAT is a promise....
As of last night, I was only getting one word replies to texts or she would send the most absurd picture mail.
Today, we haven't contacted each other at all.

It's not the fact of it ending (if that's what's happening) that's causing me the most grief it's the suddenness of it... What is your guys take? Sh!t test or what? How should I play this out?
My backup plate for this weekend is out of town, so I'm kind of flying low this weekend.....

Thanks

Is this a joke? Why are you texting, especially THOSE kinds of texts, with a 19 year old girl? I just about puked.

Just stop.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

Off topic: age really isn't important

One more thought on this age thing.
Anyone who b!tches about Dating girls with a large gap in your ages, is doing so out their own insecurity. Maybe you've never created an opportunity for yourself, or you're too worried about what other people might think or say of you? I don't care about such things.
Every man on this board, from the high school guys to the very mature 60 year olds who come on here, has something in common:
We all would LOVE to get it with a young (read:legal) HOTT plate as often as we can stand it! And out egos would love for people to know we are doing that too!
WHy do you think the supermodels are rarely much older than 20? because youthfullness is attractive period! It's hardwired into a man's DNA to seek out the most healthy, youthful and attractive person to attempt to mate with.
You older fellows, who haven't dated a 18 to 24 yr old in a long time, I submitt to you to try it. They are THE most energetic, comfortable, low pressure dates I have ever gone on. AND they really don't require that you spend a ton of $ either.. Since they're not used to being around guys who have the cash resources we mature guys should have access to. What does a salad and a drink cost really? --lol
When you date a younger girl, you just have to realize that you're NOT going to marry this chic. You're not going to develop a LTR with her and if you do you'll pay for it. BUT.... They're still very Fresh, spontaneous, and fun to hang with! And THAT is what I want in a DATE!
So save the complaints about guys who are willing to swim in that age pool. And get out there and game some young hotties. You"ll feel Great WHEN you are successful!

Wunnabsmooth

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

cordoncordon: Ha ha ha ha ha!...... Thanks Dude! Your reply about made me spit my drink all over the place..... THAT was classic funny...!!:yes:


I posted this topic because I really needed to get a new perspective since I had lost mine caught up in the whole mess.
Nobody wants to deal with this kind of drama and BS. But! EVERY good looking chic I've ever met has had some strange-weird story that did / or WILL effect my relationship with her in someway.
It doesn't matter the age. The only thing that's different is the SUBJECT of her drama...


Thanks to everybody who has posted in this thread.

 

[slickaz]

just saying:
dont ever tell a chic NOT TO alpha you.
you DHV and take the alpha status. you dont talk about it.

also, i think the ball was on your court and you dropped it.

It seems she was just playing around, admittedly stupid game to start with.
but you're reply was good to start with, which made her realize she f'd up.
so she apologized.
you then went back with more personal sh!t.
as far as i know, as a DJ you should be higher value so much that you dont let sh!t get personal about stability and take out you're bad day on people around you.
coz as a well of fly mvhfvka you have vents to let off the steam and you always cool and stress doesnt affect you like it does others.
i live life like this, i go to the gym and let my steam off so i dont take it out on people around me.it just keeps life simple and no drama.
it also means when i come home, my girl never can complain that: DONT TAKE YO WORK SH!T OUT ON ME!...
instead she cooks, cleans and sexes me and asks me did you have a good day? lemme give you a backrub... that then goes south ..

let it go bru, young girls dont think beyond the games, plus emotions and juices running wild, they like guys to show that they are possessive etc.
maybe thats why she did what she did. just to see if you'd stand up to that sh!t test.
good luck

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

just saying:
dont ever tell a chic NOT TO alpha you.
you DHV and take the alpha status. you dont talk about it.

also, i think the ball was on your court and you dropped it.

It seems she was just playing around, admittedly stupid game to start with.
but you're reply was good to start with, which made her realize she f'd up.
so she apologized.
you then went back with more personal sh!t.
as far as i know, as a DJ you should be higher value so much that you dont let sh!t get personal about stability and take out you're bad day on people around you.
coz as a well of fly mvhfvka you have vents to let off the steam and you always cool and stress doesnt affect you like it does others.
i live life like this, i go to the gym and let my steam off so i dont take it out on people around me.it just keeps life simple and no drama.
it also means when i come home, my girl never can complain that: DONT TAKE YO WORK SH!T OUT ON ME!...
instead she cooks, cleans and sexes me and asks me did you have a good day? lemme give you a backrub... that then goes south ..

let it go bru, young girls dont think beyond the games, plus emotions and juices running wild, they like guys to show that they are possessive etc.
maybe thats why she did what she did. just to see if you'd stand up to that sh!t test.
good luck

You're right! the ball was in my court and I blew the call.
Fortunately, she made more friendly contact yesterday. We're not out of the woods on it, but I think we have some progress. She's still hurt that I yelled at her innocent (in her mind) joke. She seemed kind of scared of me now...lol
I appologized for hurting her feelings and told her that I realized that had lost my composure. She seemed ok with that, but it's still WAY cold compared to where we were last Saturday....
I'm not kissing her a$$, just keeping enough contact that she knows I'm there....lol
I've got other plates to pay some attention to as well........lol

Like you I did take my frustrations out in my workout this evening.....
Wunnbsmooth....