"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sexxxxxxxxxual tension!?

LostAndConfused

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Hey guys...maybe I'm just speaking out of my @ss, but whenever I talk to a chick I'm vaguely interested in, when I'm looking at her in the eye, I feel weird tension. My cuz always tells me "man thats sexual tension" but I'm not so sure.

Do chicks find it creepy if you look at them in the eyes for too long? Cuz it starts feeling awkward as hell, even though we got us a conversation going (so not the awkward silence type deal). It feels like a staring contest with blinks allowed haha, because chicks are like starin back at me lol

anyways how should i deal with this? I'm not going to even bother gaming chicks for a very LONG time (i guess i'm taking a long break), but I was just wondering how I should handle these situations
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If it's an awkward feeling your doing it all wrong. When I build sexual tension, and I can see that I got her into a sexual state. I start biting my lips, licking my lips, checking the girl out from head to toe, and they get fu*cking horny at this point.
 

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Your confidence bro. Not your eye contact. If I'm confident I'll look a girl in the eyes even when she's trying to look away.
 

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I have to ask. Where the hell are you guys initiating this extremely long extended eye contact? Throughout my day I'm only in situations where I can hold eye contact with women for a couple of seconds maximum. Obviously this is enough to get a "hi" in or some other opener. But I'd like to try this sexual tension thing sometime.
 

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j81 said:
I have to ask. Where the hell are you guys initiating this extremely long extended eye contact? Throughout my day I'm only in situations where I can hold eye contact with women for a couple of seconds maximum. Obviously this is enough to get a "hi" in or some other opener. But I'd like to try this sexual tension thing sometime.
These aren't during openers. Its just during casual/flirtatious convo.

Stephane I'm not intentionally building sexual tension...it just happens >_<
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sexual tension should feel like both of you and the girl are turned on and want it but are holding back. Sometimes the fact you both want it is a given (tell a f buddy or gf that you wanna fvck her, when you're in a place where you obviously can't, and watch the effect it has on her). Othertimes it's ambiguous where both of you suspect the feeling is mutual but aren't sure. Regardless it's the fact that you guys are holding back which causes the tension

If you can't even interpret from the subcommunication that she might be turned on, it's all in your head. But that prolonged eye contact, I know what your'e talking about. It's like she wants more of oyu and she's waiting for you to lead, but you're not, so the tension just lingers. The trick is to bask in it for a moment, then start leading again and escalating
 
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