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Sexuality Threshold w/ Virgin Females?

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With non-virgin females you're permitted to emit a massive aura of sexuality and get it away with it because they've had sex, and they know they love it.

However, suppose there's this Catholic, virgin 20 year old female that I've went on two dates with. I've gone for the kiss, but what level of sexuality is acceptable before I pass the breaking point and come off as a total pervert? For the first two to three weeks of dating, is it safer to avoid sexual conversation?

I don't want to come off as completely asexual. Nor do I want to come off as a homosexual. We are all sexual creatures by nature, but this girl is a virgin. My theory is that virgin girls are more reluctant to exuberate sexuality. Being overly sexual will possibly scare them off or impose that my only goal is getting in their pants.

Truthfully, my ultimate goal is not to get in her pants. Rather, she possesses intelligence and a personality that I'm most attracted to, and I see her as a candidate for a relationship with substance. Girls with brains are rare IMO.

Physically, I've incorporated kinesthetics, but conversationally, I am reluctant to introduce a big dose of sexual innuendo and sexual talk. Her being a virgin has tainted my usual, sexual DJ mindset. How do I proceed?
 

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Don't make sexual innuendos or talk about sex!

You merely touch, kiss, and feel your way through it -- she'll let you know her limits.-- if not, then keep escalating.

Don't lick inside her ear - virgins don't like that! :rolleyes:
 

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Oh, I failed to mention an important point.

I did not ask if she's a virgin or not. I can simply tell that she's a virgin because I'm magical like that. She's Asian, in college, well-raised, very intelligent, gorgeous, and has never had a boyfriend because a cool guy like me has never come along until now. So far, she does not seem like the type to respond positively to sexual innuendo. Perhaps I will subtly introduce some and see how it goes.
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Don't make sexual innuendos or talk about sex!

You merely touch, kiss, and feel your way through it -- she'll let you know her limits.-- if not, then keep escalating.

Don't lick inside her ear - virgins don't like that! :rolleyes:
Wow, fast reply there Mr. Turbo.

So your opinion is to be physically escalating, but conversationally asexual? I see... thank you.

Any other suggestions, anyone? Perhaps provide your own experiences.
 

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aspiring said:
Oh, I failed to mention an important point.

I did not ask if she's a virgin or not. I can simply tell that she's a virgin because I'm magical like that. She's Asian, in college, well-raised, very intelligent, gorgeous, and has never had a boyfriend because a cool guy like me has never come along until now. So far, she does not seem like the type to respond positively to sexual innuendo. Perhaps I will subtly introduce some and see how it goes.
You're pedistalizing her. Take a step back and think.

I would bet you that someone has broken her hood already. Statistically that is just far more likely.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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