"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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immrtlwun

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Do you think we should put a disclaimer here for the newer DJs. If you're just learning this stuff and not masturbating, it could make it harder to talk to girls. If just looking at the girl gives you a boner, you might get nervous and start stuttering and come off as an idiot.

A great post though. I'll give this stuff a try.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think it doesn't matter that much. Maybe you get more motivation to take action when you're hornyer.
But if you don't know what you're doing it won't help you. Besides you can always take action, you just have to have the self dicspline.
 

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Stop whacking = less or more easier to get a stiffy?

-AudiTy =o
 

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Really great Post!

I believe that you have something there.
I have tried this , And there is a agression factor to it when combined with all the steps.

I am an older man and when the wieght lifting is done it pumps you up in more then 1 way.

The aggression is really elevated its not the mean agression its damn imma have to find an out let for this, and if you cant MB then you have to approach and get the foundation started rolling.
 

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AudiTy said:
Stop whacking = less or more easier to get a stiffy?

-AudiTy =o


Ya I can get rock solid down there just from making out. Makes me feel like she thinks I'm super horny (horny yes, but not like desperate horny), but they usually don't seem to mind when Big Ben gets tall. :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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F. If you ever feel intense and inmense desire to masturbate DON'T DO IT until you get the sex from real women o real women hands haha. Wait... but you can use masturbation at your advantage: in the morning, one a week, you can stroke your penis a little, get sexually aroused and stop... you will be feeling very sexual during the res of the day. Try it. Don't question it, try it!! And remember, DO NOT EJACULATE unless it is on a girls body or inside it haha.
what about WET DREAMS from abstaining from masturbation?
 

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After reading this Thread, I just deleted all my porn.
Every damn last single byte.

Here's to a brighter future.
 

BMX

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Awhile back as a joke, I told my bestfriend I would not watch porn or jerk it for 40 days and 40 nights. Well, I'm at 33 days/nights so far and don't even think or watch that stuff anymore, esp. the internet porn. I started taking these highly potent multivitamins and fish oil, even got rid of the dark circles under my eyes. Oh yeah, I already got 2 #'s this semester ;)
 

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Come on. I can't believe there are so many "awesome" post comments in this thread. The post starts off alright, it is definitely the right idea to project sexuality. But suggesting to stop masturbating is not, in my mind, sound advice at all.

If you really believe not masturbating is going to change your game in a significant way, you haven't learned anything else from this site. This should be considered a rookie tip ONLY, and a desperation tactic at that. Meaning, if you've tried everything else and it hasn't worked... maybe give this a shot. It is healthy to masturbate and I wouldn't stop unless I was getting a constant stream of sex from my gf.

Also, if you don't masturbate enjoy lasting a whole 2 seconds when you finally do get laid.

Not terrible advice for some, but not an "awesome" tip either. At least, I can't endorse this advice.
 

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I just deleted about 100 gigabytes of porn.

No joke.

But I also read DoctorLW's post and he's got a point. Have you ever taken a break from masturbation? I stopped a month, and when I did it again I was having trouble not busting a nut after the FIRST MINUTE. And before that I had been doing 10+ minute wanks. So maybe find that happy medium?

If you masturbate daily (like me), cut it down to once every other day. If you masturbate once every other day, do it once every three days. And I think from there you can gauge if you are alright with masturbating more or if you need to slow down even more...judge by your interactions with females.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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One thing I've noticed that a couple others have mentioned is that porn doesn't nearly turn me on as it used to. Whenever I don't have my laptop and I masturbate, I just lie back on my bed, close my eyes and imagine everything about some hb (what she looks like, what her body feels like, how she smells, how she moans or giggles) and all the sexy things she's doing to please me. It's a way better turn on than porn (granted the most I've done this in any span of time is four or five times in maybe a week and a half. It also lets you use your imagination instead of staring blankly at the screen, and will probably lead to better sex when the time comes.

I also like the idea of giving a little attention to your morning wood without cumming to get your blood flowing and get you hungry for the day ahead. I plan on doing this every morning as suggested and wanking every few days when I just can't take it and so I don't get rusty. Let me know if this works for anyone else.

Oh, and I go to the gym or play a sport almost every day. Can't live without it. Exercise makes you feel awesome especially when you've totally exhausted yourself. Not to mention it keeps you in shape and looking like the stud you're supposed to be.
 

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... i deleted all my porn too ... I knew I would make the first step to stoping one day, this thread is what i needed to take that initiative =] ...its gonna be hard tonight tho, lol i hate sundays, and if you do the kegal excersices he talks about i dont think u thould loose your "bust a nut stamina" lol after all thats one of the main benifits from the excercise so im pretty shure thats why the two were next to eachother in the thread.
 

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I am going to project my sexuality all over some HB10's face some day :D

This is a good post though, I would give +rep/karma

I've decided to stave off of masterly debating for a while, and see if I can hook a couple dumb college girls. The mere scent of my projectile pheromones will drive them into a sex crazed frenzy.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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